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On 12/20/08 I made the decision to have all my hair cut off. At first I debated and debated because after years of having a head full of beautiful hair the decision to have it all cut was a very big step.
I came across one of our friend on this site “Yhoney” and seen her picture and how beautiful she looks and why she looked the way she looked. I had someone who knew how I felt, and the decision I wanted to make and need to make.
I have alopecia and it got worse after five years, I was beginning to look like bittle-juice (laugh), because I did and then I started looking like bozo the clown (laugh)and when ever I would stand in the mirror for a long period of time I cried, and laugh at the same time. All the time I’m preparing myself for what I know I need to do.
I tried different products before I made this decision, the only thing I didn’t try was “Rogaine” and someone told me to give it a try, I agreed, but cutting my hair was still the best thing to do because I will know rather this will help or not.
I get the comments of how I look and how the cut fits my face and everyone can’t wear it, rather it fit or not, I may have to face the fact that it’ll have to do for the rest of my life. Every day I’m dealing with the facts and reality of what is happening with me, next year I’ll be fifty years old and I’m in the midlife changes of aging and I can either accept this gratefully or deny it!!!



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 25, 2008
    • My dear friend has alopecia and she later shaved all her hair off.  She ordered a wig from California.  It is expensive but it is custom made to her head and the hair are real.  It took her awhile to accept herself.   I wish you all the best.



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      Coachmombabe wrote Dec 25, 2008
    • I can only imagine how difficult your experience has been. My own hair is thin, I think due to thyroid malfunction. I’ve often wondered what I would do if it continues to thin. Thanks for your post, you are a courageous woman!



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      Inakika wrote Dec 25, 2008
    • My mom has alopecia. She wears wigs only now, she has lost almost all of her hair. It started for her when she was in her 50’s.
      I know that I can expect the same to happen to me and I will just deal with it when it happens. worried



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      UK Girl wrote Dec 25, 2008
    • Oh honey ....I have very thick hair – unnaturally blonde but when I had chemotherapy it thinned down and it affected me quite badly – glad to say it grew back but huge patches with no pigment – hence the colouring as I was vivacious redhead ....
      You're a very brave lady to shave it off – I've heard that when people do that and it grows back it's better than before – I hope this happens to you.



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      Cheryl Sharpton wrote Dec 25, 2008
    • Hi,

      My heart goes out to you and the decision you had to make to cut your hair off.  I too cried when I realized that I would have to shave off all of my hair since it was falling out anyway from the radiation treatments.  Everyone told me that I could wear it well too but it did not make it any easier to bear.  Now I’m experimenting with wigs and I think I’m having fun.  You hang in there and find that place where you can live with your decisions.  Play around with your looks until something clicks for you.



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      Sandra Chaplin wrote Dec 26, 2008
    • I sit with tears of joy of all the response and comments that was given from each fabulous40 friend on this site, and I would like to thank each and everyone of you for your, exhorting and the feeling of genuine concerns.
      Thanks Ladies!!!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • Sammyjo,
      I am so sorry that you have to go thru all this. Do what you need to do to help yourself feel better...scarfs, wigs, hats or haircuts.
      There are other things that can be done along with medical attention. Have you pursued any of those?



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      Sandra Chaplin wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • Vikki89 don’t feel sorry for me, rejoice with me to know that my life is going to be alright and I’m going to be the best I can be.
      I’m doing it all, wigs, scarfs, and haircut. And what ever the result is going to be I’m preparing myself to accept that. Thank you for your comment and concern, and most of all for wanting to be a friend.



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