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“The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing.”

Michael E. Gerber
Author of The E-Myth Revisited

The above quote is from a daily inspirational message I get each morning. I share it because it fits the theme I began yesterday. The theme of overcoming a “fear” to succeed. I’m hearing from women that this is not an uncommon phenomenon for us of the “fair” gender. We may exude strong confidence on the outside - but inside, we “push back” the very thing we say (with our lips) we want. SUCCESS. Success, however we define it for ourselves.

One of the challenges to our SUCCESS is “active pursuit” vs “passive whatever comes“. We do have to act to make things happen. I keep coming back to a phrase that regardless of where it’s written is absolutely true. “Do all we as humans can do & then stand on what we’ve done & let DAD take care of the rest!” That’s a paraphrase, but the essence is there.

To live “actively” means we must take risks! We must move. We must put things -anything into motion. It may not be the ‘right’ thing at the moment, but it will be action. Just waiting for SUCCESS to come marching our direction is truly just ‘existing‘. And it usually won’t meet us on the road because we‘re not moving in it’s direction.

To live “fully” is to do all we can possibly do in cooperation with our plans & strategies. “Passive” folks don’t usually make plans. Or if they do - they don’t do much with them. Or at the first sign of difficulty, go back to the drawing board. ‘Course-corrections’ may be just that! A course correction designed to make what we’ve actively planned for & put into motion - work! It’s up to us to learn the fine art of ‘discerning’ when we‘re being asked to “go back to the board” or simply apply a little course-corrective ‘grease’ to the axle of our strategies.

This all fits with a strategy to overcome the ‘fear’ to succeed if indeed that is part of our daily lives. The ‘activity’ those of us who ‘battle’ the deception that for some reason it should be ‘fearful’ for us to succeed is action! As I said yesterday. . . take a tiny step in the direction of our SUCCESS strategy. Even when we don’t “feel” like it. Especially when we don’t “feel” like it!

Push ourselves forward in tiny increments that will insure we overcome the very barrier to what it is we want to accomplish. The thing that will let us know we’ve reached the moment where SUCCESS is in our grasp.

A thought that just popped into my head! Define SUCCESS for yourself in tiny stages. Set a very realistic & practical goal that is easily attainable. Do what is necessary to make it happen & watch how it comes about. CELEBRATE those moments. For they are milemarkers on your roadmap to SUCCESS.

Little celebrations of little steps in the direction of our SUCCESS goal will make it easier to overcome the fear of arriving.

And that’s exactly what it is. It’s the “arrival” at the door marked “I SUCCEEDED!” that frightens us. So look at it from the perspective that SUCCESS is the journey - not the destination.

And then go out & make things happen by actively pursuing them! If you wait passively at the side of the road - we’ll pass you by & wave as we speed on with the journey that is ours to travel!

The choice is yours!

Much love,

Linda, a fellow traveler
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