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Lisa DeSpain has not disappeared never to be seen again. I'm having a rough time right now. Just know I love you guys and I'm with you in spirit!

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Let’s see...I’m 45 and I live in Kennesaw, GA, which is nice most of the time, except in summer when it gets really hot. Not a huge hot fan, but I deal with it because the love of my life would never dream of living anywhere else. Where he goes, so goes my heart...and my butt...

Our story is kind of like a fairy tale. We were engaged in college about 20 years ago. I got cold feet because it seemed like between him and my family they had my whole life planned for me. He was a year ahead of me. He was going to finish his degree, get a job in his field, and we would get married and buy a house. I would quit school so we could start a family. Simple. Great plan. And they lived happily ever after. One problem with The Plan...no one thought to ask the bride what she wanted. It never entered anyone’s mind that I wouldn’t be on-board with this. My parents loved him. He was going to take care of me. Ummm, what about me? I knew deep in my heart at the time that if we got married we would be divorced within a year, maybe two. So, I gave him his ring back and walked away. Broke my heart, his heart, both sets of parents hearts...it was the first time in my entire life that I stood up and said NO!

Long story short, (too late!), I ended up marrying someone else and traveling and living in different places. I had a great time! We were married for 12 years and we are still really good friends. Most people look at me funny when I say that, but it’s true. My ex-husband is one of my dearest friends. We had the nicest, most cordial divorce ever. We once loved each other enough to marry. Why try to shred each other now? I came to a very important realization during my divorce - The opposite of Love is not Hate, it is Indifference. If you hate someone, you still feel something for them. At least, that is how I experienced it. I’m glad it ended the way it did. He’s a good guy who is remarried himself and happy.

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, when I left my marriage in Wisconsin, I could have gone anywhere. I flipped a coin - east coast/west coast. 2 out of 3 - east coast. Then, it was Chattanooga, TN/New Orleans, LA. 2 out of 3 - Chattanooga, TN. So, it is literally by the toss of a coin that I was not in New Orleans when Katrina hit. Lucky coin toss!

When I moved back to TN, my old boyfriend from college (you remember him from the beginning of our tale) had kept in touch with my parents over the years. (They always did like him better than me!) estatic He got my number and called me. It turned out that he had never gotten married, or even been really serious about anyone. He said he had found the perfect person, and he wasn’t willing to compromise. (Can he sling the BS or what?)We started talking on the phone, then visiting, then hanging out more. Eventually, we finally got married - 20 years late, but better than never! Everyone says we are living the Fairy Tale. I always ask “Ok, so what happens now that Cinderella has to wash the Prince’s dirty underwear and listen to him snore?” Nobody ever answers that. I wonder why... estatic

Seriously, I am married to the best guy in the world. We don’t have any children with no plans for any. We have a Lab/Shepherd mix dog, Abby, and 3 cats - D‘Artagnon, Whn, and Isabelle. WE have a pretty good life. He promised me 60 years. I already told him if he breaks the deal, I’m throwing myself under a beer truck and going after him! estatic

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