A Dominant Woman Picking Submissive Men

I have a sister who is having relationship issues. Why? Because she is picking the wrong type of men.

 By her nature, she is a very dominant personality type. She likes things her way, has opinions, and has a very high (too high) expectation of the people around her.

 Although she is dating, she’s lonely. She’s looking for a partner, but only dating men that are submissive to her nature. She says jump, they say, “How high?”  

 There’s nothing wrong with that. There are many successful relationships where the woman is the dominant personality, is in control and the man follows orders, does what he is told, and everyone is happy.

 But my sister isnt looking for that. She is looking for a partner to share life and its responsibilities. That’s not possible with the men she is dating. They don’t stand up to her, don’t challenge her, and don’t have the guts to tell her when she is wrong.  

While a dominant personality can wear down another dominant personality to the point of submission, the opposite rarely ever happens. A submissive personality never becomes dominant. By starting off with a submissive man, she is beginning each relationship being in charge, and the decision maker. And over time, becoming tired of having the full burden of decision making .

She did recently meet a man more her equal. He challenges her, and it aggravates her. She banters, and he banters back. As tough as she can give it, he never caves. I think she needs to stick with it. She has developed a comfort zone, and the comfort zone of submissive men isnt fulfilling her. Is this new guy “the one“? Probably not. But at least in the beginning of thie relationship, he is her equal