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  • A word about cliques

    9 posts, 6 voices, 795 views, started Sep 20, 2008

    Posted on Saturday, September 20, 2008

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      Diamond
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      A few days ago, my older daughter (almost 9) came home from school and told me that she and some friends formed a “club” during recess. I didn’t say anything, I held my breath, I wanted to see what would happen next...

      Well today, she told me that some of the girls didn’t want one of her really good friends to be in the club. She took the side of her friend and she stood her ground. They ended up disolving the club.

      I can breath again...

      Sometimes I like to see how the girls act without my instructions so I purposely stayed back on this one. My daughter typically makes good decisions (so far) and I was really pleased with the way she handled this.

      Have you run into cliques yet?



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          Renee P wrote Sep 23, 2008
        • Hi Well my daughter who is 11 years old and her friends dont have the clique thing going on. She is very outgoing and likeable and she has a few girls friends calling her. she has a few good friends, not really a best friend yet. But their is one who calls more than any of them, so she says that they are extremely close and could be best friends. I talk to her also about that kind of stuff and she is soo strong I see alot of me in her. She says that all her friends go to her for advice because they say they can trust her and she listens without judging. And that is just how I have always been and still am. But I have no problems with the friends yet!



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          Renee P wrote Sep 29, 2008
        • I am glad things are settling down. The friend situations are one of the hardest lessons learned.



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          Danihoney wrote Sep 29, 2008
        • That sounds like it went well, good for you and your daughter. The sad thing I am learning is that the clique thing never really goes away. I am forty and have more trouble with cliquey friends now then in H.S. It’s rediculous sometimes. Do we ever completely mature?

          Hopefully your daughter and her friend can remember the lesson and carry that with them as they grow.



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 29, 2008
        • Hi all. I want to recommend a book by Michael Thompson, PhD. It’s called Best Friends/Worst Enemies, The social lives of children. He is the author of the book Raising Cane, a phychologist who is also married to a wonderful phychologist who works with children.

          We have the privilege of knowing Michael. He is a fabulous human being and very accomplished in his work. He came to Maui as a favor to my husband and offered his expertise in several forums for parents of our upcountry schools.

          We are always monitoring the clique activity at our school. We‘re very small, 400 kids so we‘re really able to see what is going on. I can say that when we’ve experienced this type of behavior as well as bullying, it can be so painful for the families involved.

          Sounds like your girls are well adjusted and very close with you moms. Great job!



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