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  • a word from BJ's parent, Louisa's grandparent

    3 posts, 3 voices, 729 views, started Jan 5, 2009

    Posted on Monday, January 5, 2009 by (華娃娃) ChinaDoll


    • Diamond

      I am an 87 year old father, grandfather, a great-grandfather and a great great-grandfather.

      This is not about me; I just want you to know who I am and why I'm writing this. My daughter Betty Jean Kling is 60 years old. She had four children, two boys and two girls. She lost one of her sons to cancer and her eldest daughter Denise is in the last stages of ovarian cancer.

      Her youngest daughter Louisa, who just had foot surgery and was on crutches was  tending to her sister Denise to give her mother a break since she had been at her daughters side day and night and really needed a few hours out.

      While Louisa was tending to her sister, Denise's estranged husband busted into the house and shot Louisa in the face with a shotgun.

      Before he shot her, Louisa managed to text her son Marc and call her brother Tommy who heard George ordering Denise to get him her drugs and through the cell phone that was dropped after the gun shot and the call connected.

      Tommy and Marc rushed to the house from several blocks away and stopped George from shooting Denise. Apparently, after he got the drugs he ordered her back to the couch and sat her down and was about to shoot her in the head too when Marc and Tommy rushed in and subdued George until the police came.

      I shudder to think what might have happened to either or both my Grandson and great Grandson had the gun off at them and the nerve it took to attack a man holding a shotgun. Their instincts got in the way of safety first and luckily the gun never went off again.

      Unfortunately, the one shot that did get fired hit Louisa right in the face and took out her eye, obliterated her right skull and most of her right brain tissue. Louisa suffered such an extensive amount of damage to her brain she lies in critical condition in Hackensack Medical Center and is not expected to live.

      The shooter, George plead Not Guilty at his arraignment and was quite annoyed that he was ordered not to contact his dying wife for Christmas saying that 'SUCKS'. The estranged husband, George Hartwig, had been arrested last June and released after three months for beating Denise in the head with a hammer to get her cancer drugs. He plead guilty that time but said he was sorry and he would get help for his drug addiction.

      He was out on his own recognizance when this incident happened. My question is why is there no protection for women in this country? Will they turn him loose again to come and kill the rest of the family, as he has threatened to do?

      This goes on day in and day out all over this country, where is the outrage? Where are the laws and who is teaching children in school about the epidemic? What will we do about it? Why not? This is a heart rending story, mothers are not supposed to outlive their children, Grandfathers are not supposed to outlive their grandchildren.

      My wife Louise and I have fought for woman's rights all our lives. I personally went to Trenton NJ and incorporated the Girls & Boys Club of Lodi and insisted on the town to supply the land to build a Boy's and Girl's Club. The town decided to change the name of the Boys club to the Boys and girls club instead. Since then the National Boys club of America decided to make the change also. I remember when I was marching at the head of the girls club float in a parade and some smart aleck yelled, "What are you doing marching with the girls?" I yelled back, "doesn't your little girl have a father?"

      I remember when my wife who was the president of our building corporation went with a lady friend to have lunch and was stopped at the door and told to observe the sign read Business Mans Lunch. The owner of the restaurant told them that they had to be escorted by a man.
      My wife went to our congresswomen and filed a complaint. She followed it up and eventually the laws made those signs come down.

      Evidently we didn't fight long enough or hard enough to make the changes needed but we raised a daughter who as you can see if you read her blogs, her Free US Now newsletters or listen to her radio shows has taken up where we left off.

      Having taken over from us old folks, she is fighting for the very lives of her children. I implore all of you who read this to join her and her friends in this momentous fight for the Equal Rights Amendment for the country that's supposed to be the most advanced in the world.

      Roy Downing
      BettyJean Kling's Proud Pop


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