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  • Am I Being Unreasonable?

    7 posts, 6 voices, 1020 views, started May 22, 2011

    Posted on Sunday, May 22, 2011 by Denise Richardson

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      Ok here is the thing, my youngest daughter whom is a single mom and works hard at her own business‘es to provide for herself and my grandbaby, due to the struggles we (hubby & I) try hard to assist her in every area we can by doing for our grand child. Ok so we did buy Jadyn a new bicycle for Christmas which is still here with us and his sister had a bike which was bought for her grandson only to find it was a girls bike and decided to give it to Jadyn so my hubby thought well we can keep the one we bought for Christmas here, for her when she comes to visit, and give the one from his sister to her to have at home.

      Well her mom told me not to bring the bike there because she will never ride it because she is not outside playing enough to enjoy it! WTH? What do you mean she is not outside enough to ride and enjoy it? She has a nice size backyard fenced in for her to play in as well as a two car garage with a long wide driveway where she can ride her bike without issues, I was so upset with her because this in my opinion is selfish.

      You can’t take out time enough for your child and go outside with her for a while and help teach her to ride the bike? She says to me she has a bike at her dads house and he helps her ride her bike there, ok so what thats at his house, so what about home, she is home with you more so then there. I was so pissed at her I had to gather myself before I experience a headache. Ok I know you‘re your own boss and you have to do what you have to do to make money to pay your bills, but your child needs a real life of fun and kid things too! I know I’m old school and I just feel like there are times where my daughter deprives my grandbaby because of her selfish needs and desires.

      So just last night I told my hubby he has to find someone else he can give the bike to, and he was peed as well, I told him not to call her on this because I didn’t want a huge family fall-out over this she has made her decision and we’ll leave it at that, boy was he not trying to hear me, but he said ok!



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          LaTosha Brown wrote May 22, 2011
        • WOW! You aren’t been unreasonable.  However, release it and know that your kind gesture will bless some child.  Perhaps there is another little kid out there that has been wanting a bike but family can’t afford it. Sometimes when things like that happen I accept that it may be a message from the universe to direct me towards blessing others.heartheartheart



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          Denise Richardson wrote May 22, 2011
        • Thank you LaTosha, I have moved on from this and yes, someone elses kid will benefit from this.



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          UK Girl wrote May 22, 2011
        • oh sorry honey this is not nice - maybe your daughter hasn’t grasped it’s the small things like teaching your child to ride a bike that make childhood memories



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote May 22, 2011
        • It’s sad but I’m seeing this as a trend. Here where I live I know a lot of grandparents that spend so much more time with the grandchildren than the parents do. Even in our own family, we‘re the ones who taught Jazelle to ride a bike, her other grandmother takes her to the zoo and other places for the childhood experiences that are so important and her mom just never seems to have any time for her. I don’t get it. I’m sorry your daughter, like Vicki said, doesn’t grasp how important this time is together.



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          Denise Richardson wrote May 22, 2011
        • Thanks ladies, I truly don’t get it with these new parents in the generation how can you not make time for a child that YOU! laid down and made, it pees me to no end how she is she is so selfish, but again I’m walking away from this.



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