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  • Are you a good listener?

    13 posts, 10 voices, 1456 views, started Mar 9, 2009

    Posted on Monday, March 9, 2009 by Jane Woods

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    • Listening well is an amazing skill that few people have. Hearing is a physical activity but listening really well is a mental one.

      I was asked today how can you get good at listening? Well, it’s a skill you learn like everything and you need to practise.  

      Try this - next time someone starts to talk to you promise yourself that you won’t interrupt until they have been talking for at least three minutes. During that time pay them very close attention. People love being listened to so it will increase your popularity rating at a stroke! When you do speak, do so to clarify what it is they have just said. Maybe summarise or ask them for an example. Then respond thoughtfully, as if your response was of great significance, keeping the focus on them and what they have just said. You’ll be surprised at how successful this can be in all sorts of situations.



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          Dana Arcuri wrote Mar 11, 2009
        • Thanks for the great topic!  Listening is not always easy for me when I become distracted or if it is noisy.  I will try to practice the suggestion from up above because I think it is very important to be a better listener.



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          Jane Woods wrote Mar 11, 2009
        • Thanks for the comment! It is hard but try it and see how much more information you get. And people really feel valued when you listen to them.
          I love your tiaras by the way! Fabby!
          Jane estatic



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          Jane Woods wrote Mar 11, 2009
        • I bet your friends love you! A good listener is worth her weight in gold.
          Did you know that there is lots of research to show that men interrupt women a huge amount of the time, whatever their relative status, but not eachother. Women are generally better at turn taking in conversations.
          Nice to hear from you!
          Jane



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          Jane Woods wrote Mar 12, 2009
        • Hi,
          What you describe is very common. An exercise which is sometimes effective is to practise with the morning radio news bulletin. Try listening intently to it and see how much of it you can recall.Then when the next hourly bulletin comes on see what you have remembered.

          Also, you could maybe try to paraphrase what they have said after those first few sentences.  

          Do let me know how you get on!

          Kind regards,
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          (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 13, 2009
        • I was taught and was trained in a class regarding effective communication:

          In any given and appropriate moment, try to interject by saying “Let me make sure I understand you correctly, you are saying (our summation of what we have heard in a nutshell)”  

          For I can be quiet (well, hardly) and pretend I am listening.  With that in mind, I have to be a good listener for I need to give a summation.  Does this make sense?



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          Denise Richardson wrote Mar 14, 2009
        • Over the years I have learned to be a good listener. Silence ia golden when you listen and not speak you can learn a lot about a person or the subject at hand. Great post thanks for sharing.



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          Bluerose wrote Mar 14, 2009
        • I’m a terrible listner.  At work I’m good.  But at home I’m aweful.  My boyfriend will come home & start telling me about his day.  Problem is I’m watching my favorite show on TV!  So I’ll have to pause my show, then force myself to listen to him intently.  Meanwhile I’m wondering if Jack Baur saved the US from the latest terrorist threat!  My daughter goes on about every detail of her day also.  I tend to filter out all the drama & keep an alert on for any boys names.  I know ... I’m aweful in that department!



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