Posted on Tuesday, August 24, 2010
My daughter has been asking me for one but has recently decided not to get it. Many of her friends now have one.
Personally, I think that preteen is too young for this and I don’t see what good could come of it. At the same time, most of her friends have it and I don’t want her to feel left out.
Since she has decided to wait, I don’t need to worry about this now, but I’m sure it’ll come up again.
Mine arn’t preteens any more but it seems to me they were about 12 or 13 when they discovered myspace. I din’t worry too much tho since my sister was also on myspace and wa their friend.I think as long as you keep an eye on them and their activity (and settings) it should be ok. The moment they block you is when you should pull the plug!
I think the age 13 is a good time, and too it depends on the level of maturity the child has, if you feel they are responsible enough not to get caught up in posting things that would bring them as well as you the parent shame I think it should be fine. Just have a long talk with them and also let them know you will also want a parental entrance to the page if you decide to allow them to have one. Good luck!
Well I just asked my daughter and she said it was more like 16 or 17.... I think I must be losing my memory!
I dont have an answer that comes from my own experience but if I use other parents I would say 13 is too young but if you choose to let them participate monitor their every move.
My friend has just had this and she was monitoring and noticed some of the boys were jumping all over her page being crass and she noticed the language some of them were chatting with - so she has pulled the plug ...... her daughter is just 13 and she pestered all summer as she said everyone was arranging outings etc. over Facebook and she was missing out.Lets just say it’s not been a happy house this last week or so
Let me say this....I would rather her be left out than be subjected to “drama” or “serious issues” that can come about than be a part of the group that is on facebook. I would say ..make sure she is mature enough to handle most situations.13 does sound a bit young. Remember...at this point in her life....you CALL THE SHOTS! Maybe she is just a little intimidated by it all...which is fine for now. It’s gets the subject off the hook. I would praise her for making a great mature decision for waiting.
I do have a pre-tween (11) and I do not let her have myspace or facebook. I just don’t think it’s appropriate for my daughter at this time. She hates me for the moment but c‘est la vie!
same here Annie
Mellisa was 14. And there are extremely strict rules with it. Example: she must get my permission before requesting or accepting anyone and I have to know them. Her profile is private.And I do random cks just like I do with her email and txt messages. I’ll tell her it’s ck time and I do it. Less now than in the beginning. But she never knows when it will happen.Not invading her privacy because she knew the rules first and agreed to them.It’s my job to know what is going on in her life. She tells me most but I have to protect her .It’s just alot of freedom for her and her friends so boundaries are set.HugsCristen
I let Kat have one a year ago. I keeps tabs on it and the same with her father a few other adults too. i noticed that one of her friends had published her phone number on the FB page and I personally called her and told why it was not a good idea for her to do so. Both of the girls parents have passed away and she is being raised by her grandmother.
I would say not until fourteen. As someone else mentioned, there can just be so much drama. And I would make sure you have her password so you can cancel the page if it becomes neccessary.
During those turbulent teen years for girls, FB can be a good thing. I have some my best conversations with my teenage daughter over FB.
Wow...y‘all might jump on me for this but my husband and I allowed my 9-yr-old to get a Facebook account.
BUT...1) All the emails come to me.2) She is only allowed to “friend” family members to keep up with her cousins who are spread out across the country.3) She only gets 30 min of non-school computer time every day4) 98% of the time we check Facebook and reply together.5) She is not to give out ANY contact information on Facebook6) She is not allowed to accept ANY friend requests unless we approve it.7) She is home-schooled and we felt she really needed an outlet to communicate with at least her cousins.8) When she starts pulling the “pre-teen” attitude and breaks any of the above rules...her account gets shut down!
Pre-Teen daughters and the challenges and learning experiences they will or are going through.