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  • Attitude!!!

    16 posts, 9 voices, 975 views, started Apr 6, 2009

    Posted on Monday, April 6, 2009

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      Diamond
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      My daughter has a mouth! Ouch!

      Lately, she has been full of attitude and she turns from sweet to obnoxious in seconds. Have you been through this?  

      I’m looking for some ways to stop this. I’ve tried lots of punishments and nothing seems to help. She is remorseful and then an hour later the attitude is back.



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          UK Girl wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • Annie how old is she and has she just got a new friend or changed friends ?



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          Wittymom wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • I’ve got an 11 year old. We started having the attitude problems last year, just random, she didn’t like something I said, felt the need to argue me down or just that stomping up the stairs. I don’t do much yelling but I did get loud, and reminded her of just who was the adult and how she was expected to act. I still get “tude” every now and then but I always use the same phrase “talk to/treat me exactly how you want me to respond“....and that usually brings her down half a notch. I keep telling myself this is part of the hormonal changes....



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          Robinesque wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • My 9 1/2 y/o has just started that stuff, too, annie, and I am NOT amused!  I don’t tolerate that in my house and it gets called everytime.  She is still “sweet” enough to care that I will ignore her until she really can’t stand it!!  And it’s not even that long.  I don’t like this, but it’s effective.  She will then proceed to write apology notes, promising NEVER to do whatever it is she did again, just so I can LOOK at her!!

          Just this morning, in the car ride to school, I told her that I didn’t like her new changes -  I couldn’t STOP her from changing - but, I was not digging this new “insistency” she was displaying. (She teared up, but, “HANG TOUGH,ROBIN!“) These remarks make her think.

          Wittymom:  If your little angel stomps upstairs, make her go right back down and go back up again until she can do it silently.  Works miracles!



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          UK Girl wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • I had a short burst and did the ignore and then thought actually no I’m taking charge and she had to read a book and write a report - I found tasks to do which stopped her - plus made it clear to her friends I wouldn’t have their attitude as well.



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          Jenz ~ wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • I think you‘re handling it perfectly Robinesque. It’s tough to do the ‘ignore’ thing but sometimes silence can be deafening & sends a strong message. And I know that when we say things calmly such as, “I’m disappointed in your display of______________________” it sinks in more than yelling would any day.
          All of this moody stuff is normal with girls (these days seems to be happening earlier though). Sometimes all it takes is for you to silently raise your eyebrow at them as if to say, “Stop that or suffer the wrath!” & they get the picture.
          The writing sentences thing- I’d do it. And if they really want to push the moody/attitude thing, there are always chores that can be assigned to the point of obnoxiousness if it’s warranted.
          Stomping around or slamming doors, etc, make them do it over & over again- no tolerance for that here. UGH.
          You just have to be the awesome Moms that you already are & observe. Sometimes the girls’ moodiness needs to be put in check, sometimes a consequence pertaining to actions and sometimes a chat between Mom & daughter. It’ll work out fine. Someday you’ll both be laughing together about this. Jess and I do! happy



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          Robinesque wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • OH, gdel!! You GO, girl!  I have removed the doors of 3 of my kids at different stages and I just thought that was a stroke of GENIUS!!

          NOBODY slams doors on Mama!  Evah!estatic

          Annie, my daughter turns 10 in August, but, I’m waaaaay ahead of her.  She has a 15 y/o sister!!!  Been there, done that.



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          Jenz ~ wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • Love it! Slam door- will remove. Mama always wins. haha The sooner they figure that one out, the betta!
          Funny..



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          Martha Perez Torres wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • I am going through that same issue with my daughter who just turned 11.  Last night she mouthed off to her father and then to me.  When we address her behavior she becomes emotional and begins to cry.  Last night her dad handle the situation and she had never seen him so angry.  I am told that this is a phase-I hope so!



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          Termite wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • I swear we all go thru this with our kids. I was lucky and only had to go thru it with my oldest, my youngest who is now 16 never really put me thru it. Maybe she has seen that I will NOT put up with it. When her sister would start it with me we would go round and round, and guess who always won??? Yep...ME!! Thats what is nice about all the conviences that kids have today, cell phones, tv’s, phones in their rooms etc. I consider them all punishment tools! You act up...you loose your conviences. You slam the door...the door comes off. I demand respect and that is what I will get. I know it sounds harsh, but that is how you have to play the game. Once they get a little older, they will appreciate it. My oldest (who is 19 now) has thanked me several times for being that way, because now she see’s other kids acting out that way towards their parents and it disgusts her.



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          Robinesque wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • Hormones.  Phase.  That is still no excuse for rudeness and disrespect because straight up, that is what it is!!  None of us should ever accept that.  Our parents didn’t!



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