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    10 posts, 10 voices, 1608 views, started Dec 1, 2009

    Posted on Tuesday, December 1, 2009 by Overcomer01

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    • Amethyst
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      Hi. I’m feeling really worthless at this time in my life, I haven’t found my place in this big old world, and I’m 45 years old. It’s shameful to admit that I have not found my way, but i‘ts a fact and I don’t know how to go about fixing my situation. Any suggestions?



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          Venus 7000 wrote Dec 1, 2009
        • Get involved in a cause.  Volunteer at the local hospital, community center, children’s home etc.  Helping others gives one a sense of worth and purpose;  

          Do a self assessment to discover what you like or dislike and then engage in hobbies that allow you to enjoy your passions;

          Set goals for yourself.  These can be for work, family or personal development.  Devise a plan to acheive these and stick to  it;  

          Take a course at the college in a subject that will either allow you to grow, or to develop a skill that you have always wanted;  

          Use each of the above to interact with others and make friends.  Being around others can make us feel wanted and worthy;  

          You may also want to consult with a therapist who can help you through this.



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          Ladybugcitygirl wrote Dec 1, 2009
        • I think it is our circumstances that make us feel things - worthless, sad, happy, etc.... the key is to see past those day to day happenings that weigh you down...make you feel drained.. I know - I am  Mom to two teens - nothing makes you feel worthless like teens... tonight I was thinking to myself - why so down? (long day) and realized that I too have things to be grateful for - my new husband and my second chance at love, my mom who struggles on at 80 and 1/2 and my dear friends... One of my peers at work just lost her husband...he was 45 and I am sure she did not plan on this change in her life... but life rolls on and I am grateful to be here - with the challenges and the joys...Lady - you are not worthless....the fact that you reached out and were honest with you feelings and in this chat group.. that is strong!  Muscle on.  We all just keep on and get up the next morning and try.  That’s all you can do.  Wishing you the best!



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 2, 2009
        • I think our age makes us re evaluate our lives. We recognize the things we didn’t do, re think the things we did, the choices we made throughout our lives.

          The good news is it’s never too late. Once we allow the feelings of regret to pass, the feeling of discontent gets stronger and that’s the catalyst for change and growth.



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          Tcw47 wrote Mar 1, 2010
        • The book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle helped me a great with the fact that I felt adrift. I can't recommend this book enough. I'm sending a copy off to a friend of mine in another town this week!

           Also, about two years ago, I started the sport of fencing (sword fighting). I’ve never been especially athletic, but I absolutely love it - it’s very empowering.  There are fencers at my club, both men and women, between the ages of 5 and 82. It is for everyone. As far as sports go, it’s a great equalizer.  The biggest aspect of it is really mental, not physical.

          Hope this helps, and that you‘re feeling better. mb



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          Max0125 wrote Mar 1, 2010
        • First question that I have is what have you been doing to take care of yourself lately? If the answer in “Nothing“, make a commitment starting today that you will take care of yourself every day, no exceptions!  

          One of my favorite quotes is “...anxiety and depression is caused by not following your soul.”

          Your soul is just trying to give you a wakeup call. Start doing things that make you happy. Start volunteering or taking a class that you always have wanted. Get out of your rut by following what things make you blissfully happy. FInd inspiration every day, in books, music, whatever makes you come alive.

          The Power of Now is a good book. Also, check out the book “Impact! What Every Woman Needs to Know to Go From Invisible to Invincible” by Nancy D Solomon.

          Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!



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          Mztracy wrote Mar 1, 2010
        • questions...Did you have expectations that didn’t happen?
          Did you plan on being in a certain place at this time in your life?
          Do you work?

          Hard to help when we do not know why you feel this way.

          heartheart



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          Twila97 wrote Mar 1, 2010
        • All the recommendations are great.  Such a good support group. When I had been teaching about 18 years I said to my third graders, I know what I want to be when I grow up, a writer and speaker.  They all looked at me like I was nuts.  I had just started my first side business, taken up Taekwondo and really didn’t know where it would all lead.  So think about what you really enjoy and take some classes at a community college or check out the local Park and Rec department.  I went to a Zumba class last summer and loved that too.



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          Samgat wrote Mar 2, 2010
        • I understand!!  I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up either.  Some days I stress over that but other days I love my life and who I am.  I always feel lucky even on a bad day.  Not everyone is meant to know what to do. Just be happy every day.  I love all the comments you are getting also.  I just joined this group and I already feel better.  You will too!



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