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  • Can Social Networking Hurt Your Image?

    12 posts, 9 voices, 921 views, started Dec 6, 2008

    Posted on Saturday, December 6, 2008 by Beverly Mahone


    • Garnett

      I just read an interesting post that I thought was worth discussing here.

      Basically, the writer questioned whether or not the words we use in conversing with others online through social networks hurts our image.

      During the presidential election, I read many hateful posts from people I thought I liked and I must admit, it made me think of them differently.  I actually stopped following several people on Twitter as a result.  Even here, I opted not to respond to some blog posts from women I thought were mean-spirited.  I will also admit that I, too, got caught up in the frenzy when I posted a blog about “The Differences Between Sarah Palin’s Daughter and Mine.”  

      But the political election is now over. Can you mend fences or do you just decide not to have anything further to do with them?

      And what about other issues?  Do you think twice before you post a controversial topic or do you do it just to see how others will react?

      When someone uses ALL CAPS in a post, do you think they‘re shouting at you—or just trying to make a point?  

      If you read a post that offends you, do you take the time to contact the person directly before jumping the gun and spouting off your own offensive remarks?

      If someone were doing a check of your social manners, what grade would you receive?

      A—I never offend anyone and am always sweet and kind online

      B—I am never offensive.  I just don’t respond to posts I don’t agree with.

      C—I am hardly ever offensive but on occasion I might have to put someone in their place if I disagree with them.  I do make it a point to be kind in my response.

      D—If someone posts something I don’t agree with, I let them know and I’m not always nice about it.  

      F—If someone posts something I don’t like, I let them know and I’m not nice about it.  Ignorant people have no business on the social networks and I have no problem telling them.  Hopefully they’ll see the error of their ways or just leave the site.


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          Mztracy wrote Dec 6, 2008
        • Well I try and realize that sometimes people blog their emotions.  

          I try to NOT reply if i am having a bad day. Some might, but what they say may come out differently. I also know that in ‘words’ on the net we really do not know the emotion behind them. Are they being sarcastic, joking, truthful. It is hard to truly read someone when not being able to see their facial expressions and body movement.  

          I think i am between B and C. I try my best to not be offensive, but if I am called a name, then watch out! Be respectful of me and I will be respectful of you.

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          Feathermaye wrote Dec 7, 2008
        • I, too, this is a very relevant topic.

          During the political posts, I rarely took a side with one candidate or another. I recognized the “danger” in going there, and opted to stay away. When I did comment, it was usually with the intention of trying to get others to really think about the things they’d said, or how they said it. I’m not sure I have any fences to mend there.

          With social networking as a whole, I’m learning as I go. I have had some experiences where site owners leave the overall moderation up the members, and I believe that in theory this is brilliant. Unfortunately, I believe that when left to our own devises people will be... well, divisive.

          One gaming network I was a part of had it built into their system (both in live chats and in the email/private messaging system) that any time a profane word was typed, it was reformatted so the person/people on the receiving end never saw the original word.

          There are also professional sites where, simply by signing up, members agree to report “flaming, bullying and threatening behaviors” to the site owners/moderators immediately.

          Some people consider that censorship, while others actually believe it to be a necessary evil when dealing with the unpredictability of human nature. I think the key lies somewhere in the middle of allowing the freedom of expression and the spirit of debate, but being willing as a founding entity to step in when that goes horribly awry.

          Finally (to grade myself), I'd like to think that there's another option between B & C, along the lines of "I never intend to offend anyone, but it happens anyway. Furthermore, when pushed, I will stand up for myself and may be seen as trying to 'put someone in their place'."

          p.s. I'm from the old school chatter where all caps was yelling, but I'm notorious for utilizing an all cap word or phrase in my blogging for emphasis. I also utilize bold and italics.

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          Kelly Robertson wrote Dec 7, 2008
        • There’s no body language or voice inflection with the written word and, I believe, once somethings on the web, it’s there forever. That’s enough to make me want to watch my P’s and Q’s! During the election, I did not comment one single time to anything political on the web.  

          Great post!  Hugs, Kelly
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          Feathermaye wrote Dec 7, 2008
        • Annie, I think the trouble lies in leaving the interpretation up to the audience, to be honest.

          I imagine running a social network to be one of the most laborious jobs out there, as you‘re constantly bombarded with what people want and don’t want.

          I think the sites with more stringent codes of behavior in place have the right idea, because they have established what is offensive and what is not. Members are encouraged to complain and report their perceived infractions on the clear-cut terms, and it is the moderators job to determine if actual offenses have taken place.

          I love rules! I love knowing ahead of time what is expected of me, and expected of the people around me. If, however, the interpretation of those rules are left up to all of us, I don’t think we’ll ever agree.

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          Beverly Mahone wrote Dec 7, 2008
        • I’m actually going to do a show on this topic on Monday.  I’d love for some of you to participate if you are available at 12pm EST:

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