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  • Cell Phones?

    24 posts, 21 voices, 1359 views, started Sep 5, 2008

    Posted on Friday, September 5, 2008

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      What do you think is an appropriate age to give kids a cell phone? I’ve seen it as early as 2nd grade - which makes no sense to me but maybe I’m wrong... What are your thoughts?



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          Bassoon2 wrote Sep 5, 2008
        • Yes...for a kid turning 11 this year, I work, so she calls me if she gets home before me, Rules. No texting and keep it charged.



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          Renee P wrote Sep 6, 2008
        • I just allowed my daughter to have a cellphone this year she is 11. She has proven her responsibilty as an 11 year old and I feel good that she had a way to call me in case of emergencies.



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          Merlot63 wrote Oct 27, 2008
        • My two oldest daughters (14 & 11) share a cell phone.  Of course they fights over it, but I don’t see any justification for another phone.  

          Many kids in elementary schools here have cell phones and  call their parents when other kids insult them or when they get in fights, instead of trying to work things out or let teachers solve the problem.  Starting this year though, cell phones are banned from my daughters school. Whenever a teacher finds a cell phone that is turned on, they confiscate it and return it only to the parents, which I think is great.



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          Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 27, 2008
        • As a PI I recomend that you get them as soon as possible for safety reasons.  Teach them 911 and how to use it.  You can have only limited dialing on it and make sure you get a the location tracking activated on the device so you can find your children.

          I know schools dont like them but in an emergency you can find your children, and at least find where they were last if abducted God forbid.

          Its a safety feature, for us as parents its not an absolute safety feature but anything can help.



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          Yana Berlin wrote Oct 27, 2008
        • This happens to be a subject that I feel passionate about, therefore, I will add my two cents on the matter.

          I think that kids/cell phones = safety is bunch of b.s.

          Before everyone jumps all over me let me elaborate.

          When your child is young enough he should not be allowed to be anywhere where it is dangerous or inappropriate. Therefore the cell phone is not an issue.  

          Through out the years many mothers assured me that when their 12 year old has a phone they feel safe knowing where he /she is. What a bunch of nonsense....When a child has phone and you just dropped him off at his friends house he can leave the house, (if the parents of that child are not home or are not as strict as you) and go anywhere. He/she can stay in touch with you while you are thinking all this time that they are safe at their friends house. When your child doesn’t have a phone and you drop him off at the friends house, you can always call the house phone to check up on him/her, your child is of course aware of that little fact and will be less tempted to leave the premisses.

          I’ve raised four kids, and each one of them got their phone only when she/he could afford to pay for it. My youngest daughter was probably the only child in San Diego not to have a cell phone until she was 15 years old, and you know what? she survived. She was more determined to get good grades and a job to pay for it.  Since both were mandatory.  

          I know for sure that since cell phones became prevalent among younger kids, teachers jobs became even more stressful. Not only do they text in class when teacher is not looking, they play games and keep themselves occupied on their little devices instead of paying attention in class.

          It’s extremely difficult for us parents to keep saying no, when everyone says yes, (on many different issues at hand)  but let’s be very clear, our job is to parent first and to be their friend second.



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          Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 27, 2008
        • We live in the 21st century, and I know for a fact as a Private Investigator cell phones do save lives... not only your childs life but those of thier friends and or family.

          Just as we teach a child to dial 911 on a land line, a cell phone is just a land line that the child carries with them, with satelite tracking, It makes it possible for us to track the location to a near pinpoint area should they become lost, or in trouble.  In 911 many people victims were found by cell phones, and even mountain climbers are tracked by cell phones in difficult slopes if lost.  

          I agree that past ways were good for that time but try to explain to parent whos child has disapeared why they shouldnt have had a cell phone to track thier last steps.  

          The last steps of a person is utmost important for police as it leads them leaps ahead in any investigation.

          Also in school shootings, many children with thier cell phones were the first to call police... I can give countless examples, but lets move forward with technology and not fight it.

          I believe cell phones are not a substitute for parenting but in this 21st century of crime, anything we as parents can use to help with child safety Im am for one hundred percent.

          Yana you are correct with each new technolgy we create comes new problems to solve and over come and cell phones are a problem at school just as chewing gum was a problem in the 50’s.

          Agree to disagree on this one.  I think cell phones help with child saftey and location and tracking.  Even if you call to hear your childs voice if your worried, takes years of gray away.



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          Daphne wrote Jan 5, 2009
        • None of my children had a cell phone until they were in high school and had enough money in the bank to pay for it for a year.

          I agree with Yana on this one.  I’m afraid that cell phones provide a false sense of security.  There are too many situations when a child should be in the company of an adult but are instead entrusted to the security of a cell phone.  

          Sorry, the cell phone is no more effective babysitter than the television is.



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          Bluerose wrote Jan 12, 2009
        • I got my daughter a go phone on her 10th birthday. It’s been 2 years & so far so good. She’s conscience of her minutes. It has been a life saver for cheer practice changes. I think every parent needs to judge for themselves what works for their child.



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          Inakika wrote Jan 12, 2009
        • I know I’m late chiming in, but I just have to.
          I know that safety is a huge factor in getting a child a cell phone, but I think that most parents buy them to appease a child rather then for the safety aspect.
          I believe first we must teach our children common sense on how to handle themselves before we stick a cell phone in their hands, regardless of their age.
          Before I allowed my sons to walk to school by themselves when they were little, I walked with them, established guidelines for what to do in an emergency and then I would discreetly “tail” them on their walk alone, until I was sure they understood.
          Nowadays, we have kids that grow up with an expectation that they are to have things, they are not taught to respect and appreciate anymore.
          Yana, I so agree with what you said as far as school and cell phones are concerned. Coming from a family of teachers, I know the trials and tribulations family members have had to deal with when they have removed a cell phone from a child who was not paying attention in class. The parents reaction borders on violence, as if the teacher raised a hand to the child. This in turn teaches a child to value things rather then to realize that there are consequences when you break the rules.



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          Jenz ~ wrote Jan 12, 2009
        • For younger kids, buy them a MIGO cell. That way they have a phone, but that one allows 4 contact #s. No risk of outrageous phone bills. :)
          Other than that, and this is just my humble little opinion~
          cell phones & kids~ other than being able to reach them for obvious reasons as parents etc, I say,
          NOPE.



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          Sophieanne6782 wrote Jan 13, 2009
        • First of all, I agree with Yana, and I am very oldfashioned myself. Overall, our situation is very different from most responders here because we homeschool so my kids are with me most of the time (unless they go to a friend’s house or to a scouting camp on a weekend, and then the adults there are responsible for calling me in case of emergency, and scouts cannot bring cell phones anyway, no electronics of any type). So my kids (now almost 10 and 11.5 yrs old) will not have a cell phone until maybe they start driving and having an outside job.  

          How did WE live without cell phones when we were teens??? Oh, we did just fine. And yes, we had as many dangers as our kids have now. If you don’t believe me, go to your library and look at your local paper on microfilm and see how much bad stuff was happening 20 yrs ago, or even 80 yrs ago - we just hear about it more now on the news.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Jan 13, 2009
        • I gave my kids their cell phones when they turned 12. My reasons were because of 9/11 and the fact that my kids rode a bus to school. I also wanted them to have options if they were out with friends. I do like the new options with GPS and I would reccommend that being added.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jan 13, 2009
        • Call me a caveman if you like but i’m still somewhat old school with some things. Whatever happened to the kids going to the office to call mom/dad? I just feel grade school kids don’t need a cell phone once they get into middle school and up I can understand it better, but little ones it makes no sense to me.



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          Renee P wrote Apr 6, 2009
        • Hi Ladies I got my daughter a cell phone 2 months ago and it has really been great. She has been great with it too. I was so worried about it in the beginning but it takes alot of worry and stress off of me especially when he is over at a friends house. My daughter is 11 6th grade



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