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  • Confidence Has No Color, but.........

    7 posts, 7 voices, 652 views, started Jul 26, 2009

    Posted on Sunday, July 26, 2009 by Mz. Queen

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    • Confidence has no color, but a Black woman with it seems to scare people to death especially black men. If they took the time to understand they just might see what we‘re trying to give them.

      Confidence means that I’m not afraid to make new friends, take plunges and explore uncharted avenues.

      Knowing who I am makes it possible to give more of me to that person, to be a better partner, to offer solutions, to say I’m sorry, to call first, to be my true self.  All of
      these characteristics, make for an almost perfect relationship, and to be the one that he has been looking for all his life.  I cannot be a part of his happiness if I’m not happy with who I am.

      Confidence has no color, but..................



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          Coachmombabe wrote Jul 26, 2009
        • You are going to attract a confident man! You watch! You just be your confident, beautiful self, and just watch!



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          Vikki Hall wrote Jul 26, 2009
        • Confidence has no color, but.................. do you think people sometimes confuse confidence with arrogance? I know I have been on occasion accused of being arrogant when in reality it was merely confidence.
          Doesn’t confidence also equate to knowing alot about a subject? If so then I am extremely condident in some areas and not so much in other areas....

          Hmmmmm.......



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          Lazylola wrote Jul 26, 2009
        • Confidence has no color, but insecurity does. I’m not sure what color I would attach to insecurity. I was confident with my first ex, but because I was more intellectual than he was it was a blow to his ego, if we were out and about it was easier to keep quiet, most anything I said would make him look stupid (his words, not mine) it was easier to go along with not speaking my mind and avoid arguments for being vocal. (I was 17 & stupid – (for getting married, long story) and that relationship didn't survive. By the way he was Mexican.
          Second failure with a black man, pretty much the same scenario as above, boy can I pick them or what....
          Third failure with a white man....insecurity also did us in....long story there as well....
          So in my experience confidence hasn't been a color issue, but insecurity sure has.
          I am beginning to think that my being over confident has scared the men in my life to a degree, those weren't our only issues...again...I'm not sure if I'm making any sense....and yet again, I'll blame it on the drugs....



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          Fraz764 wrote Jul 26, 2009
        • Confidence has no color but.. It gives people who lack it the wrong impression.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jul 26, 2009
        • But also to add to what Fraz  said it can also give people the wrong impression of those who have it and try to use it the right way some people are just pure out right haters to those who are smart and confident in themselves.



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          Mz. Queen wrote Jul 26, 2009
        • Three brilliant points by three very confident women.



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