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  • Disappearing Loved Ones in the Time of Need?

    3 posts, 3 voices, 652 views, started Jul 27, 2009

    Posted on Monday, July 27, 2009 by L. Denise Jackson


    • Garnett

      Well, there have been some developments with my sister.  She is waiting on the boyfriend and refusing to do things but we put on the cut card and let the rubber meet the road.  The boyfriend was called and messages were left by her and he agreed to meet my friend but never showed...well that as no surprise.

      We had to let her know that he was really not going to be available to/for her and let him know that we are all on the same page and know about all of his lies and everything he is not doing or has not done.

      So, how would/do you deal with disappearing loved ones in the time of need?

      L. Denise


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          Frannie1964 wrote Jul 27, 2009
        • I just don’t deal with them. If they want to leave In time of need, then what goes around comes around. When they will need someone at sometime for some reason and no ones around, they will think back and remember why.

          My hubby’s middle brother moved to Boston many years ago with his family so he wouldn’t have to deal with his parents. When his dad had a stroke, hubby and I moved him In with us and we took care of him, me during the day and hubby at night. His brother came a month after everything was done and taken care of and appointments were made. Yet he wanted to tell us what to do and why this wasn’t done and why that wasn’t done..blah blah blah!!!  I was like ” And you are?” You come here after your brother and I already took care of everything and made all these appts for him and set up all the physical therapy for him and you have the nerve to tell us In so many words that we are not doing a good job. Where were you when we called you and told you your dad was In the hospital?  Who moved away a few years ago just to get away from your parents? OH WAIT.. you did.

          So yeah, I don’t deal well with people who think they can do better but yet are not around to do anything until everythings done and then they want to critisize.frown

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          L. Denise Jackson wrote Jul 28, 2009
        • Thanks Fran!  

          The main person and becoming two people are my father and my sister’s oldest son!

          It is interesting but not surprising.  My father can’t deal with sick people, he cannot help her in the way he thinks he can and he is just really trying to deal, and my nephew wants to be the happy happy joy joy moments...

          We may get there but it will be long and ardruous.

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