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  • Divorce

    11 posts, 9 voices, 1105 views, started Nov 11, 2009

    Posted on Wednesday, November 11, 2009 by Ladi Bugg

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    • Amethyst
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      Has any one been thru a divorce, wants a divorce, going thru a divorce?

      I want one, and i want to get myself together and i dont know how, i stay at home, and that is wut i mean literally, i dont go anywhere my husband dont take me out, im so board, i cant even have an affair, i want to leave, i would like some suggestions, Thanks....



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          Karyn Olson wrote Nov 11, 2009
        • It is an awful feeling...being in a place where we are not happy and most times we stay there cause it is our comfort zone...I was in that place at one time and it took me a long time to finally make that decision to change it...

          I have not been through one but I have been separated from my husband for 10+ years...leaving him was one of the hardest things I had to do...but I knew deep down that I had to do it...I was not happy and I knew that our circumstances would never change...

          Lately I have been thinking it is time to make it legal as there is no use holding on to something that will never be.

          Whatever your decision maybe just know that you have plenty of support here...Good luck...happy



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          Ladi Bugg wrote Nov 11, 2009
        • Thank you!!

          I have to talk to someone b 4 i go crazy, i have never been so stuck!!! i jus feel lke im not getting anywhere thank god for online!!



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          Ladi Bugg wrote Nov 11, 2009
        • how did you leave, do you no of any job i can get online and make good money to leave, i can get an apt., i jus need to make the money....the sad part is he cant even tell im not happy, men i tell ya..........



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          Ladi Bugg wrote Nov 11, 2009
        • Yes it is, and i feel it would benifit all for this to happen, i took a walk with my oldest children and told them the truth, geeeeez you really dont realize how much children already know, and they think its better to, ive never been so shocked, that the kids are smarter than i gave them credit for, when i was growing up my mother and father hid everything they didnt even argue, so me telling my kids about this i though it was hurting them come to find out there fine im hurting myself........



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          Tuliplady wrote Nov 11, 2009
        • I’ve been thru a divorce—and it’s ugly, hurtful and not something I would wish on anyone.  Think log and hard before you do this.  Can you‘re marriage be fixed?  Are you willing to put some effort into fixing it?  

          Why do you stay at home all the time? Your post doesn’t say.   Why not get out and do something? Get a part time job.  So your husband doesn’t take you anywhere, go yourself.  My husband never takes me anywhere either, but that doesn’t slow me down any.

          Think about whether your life would really be better if you were divorced.  Are you capable of supporting yourself?  I don’t mean to sound harsh, but some people just aren’t for one reason or another.



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          Venus 7000 wrote Nov 11, 2009
        • You should probably explore whether your marriage can be fixed first.  Talk to your spouse.  See what he wants, what are his expectations, discuss yours as well.  Get counseling, either alone or together.  This can help to put things in perspective.  If you decide to go ahead with a divorce get legal advice early.  

          I have been through a divorce.  It was amicable but still difficult.  Today my ex and I have a civil but strained relationship.  He is still the selfish SOB that he was but at least I don’t have to deal with it on a daily basis.  

          Good Luck.



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          Rose1on1 wrote Jan 5, 2010
        • Be prepared for some difficult times!  It’s a roller-coaster ride and emotionally devastating for the person/s being left.  Been through this not long ago and still grieving the loss of my family/friends/supposed life partner.

          We each have our reasons for the supposed actions.  If you are truly unhappy, seek counseling and also lawyer-up before any decision has been made.  

          Good luck to you.

          Rose



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