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  • Do you feel lonely but you are not?

    16 posts, 14 voices, 1342 views, started Apr 5, 2010

    Posted on Monday, April 5, 2010 by Crz4h




    • Amethyst
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      I have many people in my life however I still feel a void. How can this be?  I have a loving husband and two wonderful kids.  I have friends... but I would not say close friendships.  I don’t seem to connect well with others. I am not sure why? I feel lonely but I am surrounded by many.  I just don’t feel a connection...





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          Frannie1964 wrote Apr 5, 2010
        • I know how your feeling, I can’t explaine It but I sometimes feel the same way. Some days are good and then other days I feel so lonely and yet I have people around me and my pets. I’m sorry your feeling this way and I wish I could help you more understand why. But I am here If you need to talk, I’m a good listenerhappyheart



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          Rose Nino wrote Apr 5, 2010
        • I used to feel like you too. I didn’t have too many friends, I was always sick, too fat, too moody, too blue, etc, etc. Thank God I pulled myself out of that one. Please know you are not alone! I’m here if you need someone to talk to. I’m a wonderful listener!  

          Hugz heartheart



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          Crz4h wrote Apr 5, 2010
        • I appreciate the responses. I think that I need to find a place that I can connect with women who are just like me. I think it is from a lack of belongingness. Don’t worry, I am not totally depressed. I just reflect on my life and how I would like it to be. I want people in my life that are lighthearted, giving, really, who loves to help others(not just take)....etc... Because of my expectations, I think that I cannot connect with others.  I can’t stand fake, superficial, and materialistic people. I just feel like I don’t have any true friends. Thus I feel lonely inside yet I am surrounded by many. It is reassuring to know that others feel the same. I think that turning 40 this year opened upy eyes.



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          Victorious wrote Apr 6, 2010
        • Sounds like you have lost your joy. Years ago I use to feel this way. There was this void deep in my gut even though I had agood job, friends and men falling at my feet. I was so lonely it was so painful.  

          One night I said a simple prayer to God to provide the husband I wanted. I told him everything. Sincing finding that person and getting married to him within a year and 4 months of that prayer, that feeling mysteriously disappeared. I have maintained a  relationship with God since that time and that feeling have never returned. I realize that prayer changes things. It really does.



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          Monikoko wrote May 3, 2010
        • I couldn’t quite put my finger on it until now.  But after reading this blog, I too realize why I’m so lonely even though I have people around me as well.  I feel a void in my life. It just seems like something is missing.  It hurts me even now, while writing this.  Even before my husband divorced me, I was still very lonely. I like what Jank said about asking God to provide me my husband that would be my best friend.  I  have sinced began working more in my church and have just started working more at the hospital on my job as a nurse.  I know God loves me, and also my family, but I don’t have any “real” friendships with women (or men, for that matter). I hope to make long lasting frienships and have a sense of belonging.



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          Lazylola wrote May 3, 2010
        • You’ve come to the right place, so many wonderful women here.estatic



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          Monika Morris wrote May 3, 2010
        • You must be in my head.  I know people, neighbors, co workers, old school friends, have family around.  I am lonely and I suppose it is my own doing because I tend to shut myself away from everyone.  My friends only seemed to come around when they needed something but were never around for me.  I was tired of being everyones rock, sounding board, driver, babysitter, excuse, etc.
          I would love to have that one soulmate friend I could share the good, bad, and ugly with.



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          Crz4h wrote May 4, 2010
        • This might sound bad, but it is not intended to be..misery loves company. Knowing that I am not the only one who feel lonely in the mist of others. I am not happy that others feel the way I do. I just feel that I am not crazy. Now how do we support each other? I have prayed, I am trying to focus on the positives in my life. It is hard. Let me know your thoughts.



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          Lisa Brown wrote May 4, 2010
        • This is amazing.  I feel the same way as you ladies at times.  I too have a loving husband, my animals that I love, and a good friend but she is ill so we don’t get together much anymore.  Sometimes I just feel so lonely and empty inside I want to cry but the tears won’t come. It’s weird.



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          Karyn Olson wrote May 4, 2010
        • I understand the feelings...for me it was brought on by depression...locking myself in the house for a verrry long time...and only going out when I absolutely had to...my only contact with others (other than family) was through the internet...mainly this site...I think this site gave me strength, motivation and encouragement to change...I am more willing to open myself up to friendships now....where as before I wasn’t...I have more self-confidence now to be the person I want to be...I am not totally where I want to be...but I am on my way and right now that is all that matters...not sure if any of this helps...but if every you need an ear or a shoulder I am here for you...happy



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          Denise Critcher wrote May 5, 2010
        • Have you every thought about taking a class that you are interested in? When you think about it when you were in school and you find you BF the two of you have a common interest, whatever that interest might me. That what I’ve been doing going to jewelry class, kickboxing classes I signed up for an Art class but the teacher went from a beginning class to an advance class in one class it just wasn’t what I was looking for. But you take chances and hopefully you’ll find someone that you can connect with.
          Since I’m going thou a divorce I joined a meet up group that goes though out OC to dance I love to dance but my soon to be ex hated it. It’s fun you all meet at a hotel, and other places they have a DJ and a big dance floor. There’s no presser just a place to dance and go out. There is a lot of ladies that come together and just have a blast.
          Go to meet up.com and there is a lot of groups that you might want to join. Not all of them going out to dance there just might be one that your interested in?



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          Mztracy wrote May 5, 2010
        • As Ruby aka lazylola said, you’ve come to the right place! heartheart



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          Jimmie wrote May 5, 2010
        • Yeah, you could say I fall into this category.  I have 3 kids and a husband who works a lot and is gone on business about every other week.  Course it doesn’t help that we have moved the last 4 out of 5 summers to a new location.  At the last place I had a friend from a previous move but we were only there a year and now we are somewhere new and do not know anybody.  I have met people through my kids activities but everyone has their own lives and many work.  I have tried to find a job but nothing has transpired and of course it doesn’t help that we have moved so often and once we started having kids I made the choice to stay home.  

          I try to maintain an upbeat attitude but have to say I probably am not successful at it all the time.



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          Denise Critcher wrote May 5, 2010
        • Jimmie that has too be tough, I feel for you.  It’s hard to find friends when you always moving. But where ever you go all you have to do is turn on your computer and all your friends are right here.estatic



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          Stelyani1 wrote May 5, 2010
        • I feel the same way alot of the time, now we live in a rural area and only have one car,which my husb. uses for work ( i have not been able to find a job here)so i am isolated with no choice- at the moment. We were not blessed with children so it is even harder to socialize i have found. at least when you have children there are some chance to get to know some of the other parents. The only thing to do is to remain positive. happyheart



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