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  • Does True Love really exist? If it does, how can I find some??

    9 posts, 9 voices, 2904 views, started Jan 23, 2011

    Posted on Sunday, January 23, 2011 by Linda Miller

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    • Amethyst
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      I am 46, and been married three times. Divorced the first and lost the last two to the Grim Reaper. I married the first time out of loneliness and need, the second for convenience and the third I thought for love. It was a Hell Ride for 12 years but produced two wonderful children out of it.
      I am now once again a widow and am afraid to reach out and take a chance on letting anyone get to know me or I them. I am enclosed in a shell that I have no idea how to break free from. I am tired of giving and not getting anything in return but heart ache and misery. I feel I just do not have the inkling anymore to even make the effort. Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions for me? I could use a little female advice. Thanks!!heartbreak



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          Anne E wrote Jan 24, 2011
        • Linda,
          These are very good questions!  I have been divorced for 12 years and still don’t know how to do it.  I would say that, having been married three times, men are definitely attracted to you.  I think the hard part, then, is not getting emotionally attached until you determine if the guy has good values and a warm heart.  My daughter says we have to be able to cut ‘em loose when we find out they‘re not right, regardless of how much time and energy we have already invested in the relationship.  I find this hard to do.  I am wishing you the best of luck!



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          Brimstone1968 wrote Jan 24, 2011
        • There are some serious thought provoking questions here.  To reach out and yet to hold back emotionally could be a hard thing to do.  This may sound simple but actually courting someone could be a possible route to go.  After dating and you find that one that fits the qualities you are looking for you begin a courtship with that person.  During that courtship you are able to evaluate, assess and the thrill and frill of a good time has worn off and the reality of things will show.  If during courtship you realise hey this is not going to work and things start coming up you donot like you are more than free to cut him off.  During courtship the true person normally comes out.  Donot brake your standards or settle for anythingless.  Let what YOU want be met and stick to it.  Hope you have a nice day.



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          Janna2011 wrote Mar 29, 2011
        • I just turned 40 and have just about given up hope of ever meeting a decent man, especially here in So. Cal.  What's out there is just not desirable!  All the “men” my age want to date 25 years olds.  When I go out (which is rare since it takes way way too much planning over weeks of time with my married friends) the only men interested in me are 20 year olds or 60 year old men, thanks but no thanks!  It’s depressing.  It might not be so bad if I had girlfriends to spend time with, but virtually ALL of my friends have married and vanished.  I want to expand my hobbies and get out more.  I miss my girlfriends and find myself with far too much time on my hands which only depresses me further.  Never thought I’d be single (and without a child) at this age..........



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          Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 10, 2011
        • Melissa is Right.  It really is about loving yourself first and having the confidence that no matter what happens you will be find with or without a partner.

          One of my favorite books on the subject is “Keeping the Love You Find” by Harville Hendrix.  All of his books are good but this one is for those looking for love specifically.



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          Sweetpea007 wrote Sep 17, 2011
        • Linda I feel true love does exsit.I also there a lot of people out that want to play games and that are not honest.I feel love wil find you when you least at excpect it.I am not looking I am enjoying my life if it happens if it doesn,t I am still good with myself .I will not longer myself for anyone but the King I deserve.For I am the Quenn he deserves.I think we woman worry about that more than men do.Just enjoy ourselves.



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