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  • Feel Cut out

    7 posts, 7 voices, 1172 views, started Jun 9, 2011

    Posted on Thursday, June 9, 2011 by Jyoti

    • Amethyst

      Hello, I am new to this group. I am not 40 yet but plan on being fabulous when I reach 40. I have a 13yr old daughter and a 12yr old step son and a 17yr old step daughter who is heading off to college this year. I have been doing a lot of processing about my relationship with my daughter lately. We shared so much love over the years. Over the past six months she has cut me out of her life. I am so sad about it. I will try and spend time with her and she looks at me like “when are you going to leave ?” She’s very defensive and getting her to do her responsibility’s is extremely challenging. Can’t even hear even the slightest advice. We hear “I know!” when we ask her to do anything. Even though she knows, it don’t get done. Everything is “unfair“. She is consciously doing the minimal in school to get a D so she passes and can qualify for the schools end of the year waterside trip. She ditched her best friend of many years to be popular. And yes it worked. She is now friends with the popular girl who was the bully that brought tears to her eyes the past few years. So I cry for my child I will never see again. My baby is gone. All I have hope for now is that we may be friends when she hopefully out grows being a bitch.

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          Vikki Hall wrote Jun 9, 2011
        • Well Hello and Welcome to Fab40!

          I no longer have teenagers (Thank Goodness!) But I will say your daughters behaviour does not surprise me. She is trying to create her own identity separate from yours. Yes I know that hurts but we did it too as young ladies.

          The thing about teen girls is this you have to give them privacy and let them know you trust them to make the right decisions and if they make the wrong decision that you are there to scoop them up and get them back on the right path with out any I told you so’s.

          They really don’t want your advice you‘re old and what do you know anyways?!?! estatic They do want to know that you will love them no matter what heart

          Good luck thru these trying times!

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          Mztracy wrote Jun 9, 2011
        • First, Welcome to fab40!!

          Then, welcome to my world! lol I have 15 year old twins girls and it’s pretty common!

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          Tuliplady wrote Jun 9, 2011
        • Welcome to Fab40!

          My youngest daughter (of 3) just turned 18.  She has finally, for the most part, outgrown that bitch stage.  She’s actually someone I want to claim for a daughter again.  But... it’s been a long process getting there.  

          Just know it’s something girls have to go thru and we just have to step back a bit and let them grow.

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          Tracy Lynn Brown wrote Jun 9, 2011
        • Welcome to Fab40, it is a wonderful group of ladies who are so supportive and helpful. My sons give me fits, my daughter whom i adore, is 19 now, she is not me. she has piercings and tatoos galoo. and prob doesnt live life the way i would prefer, but i think you do have to leave it in God’s hands, and they will come around. The passage to womanhood is a rocky ride...heart

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