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  • FIRE PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE!

    17 posts, 13 voices, 1621 views, started Sep 23, 2008

    Posted on Tuesday, September 23, 2008 by Dana Arcuri

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    • On September 26, 2008, a brand new “clean“, Christian-oriented movie will be released called , “FIREPROOF” with Kirk Cameron who plays Captain Caleb Holt.  The movie FIREPROOF is from the creators of “FACING THE GIANTS.”  The movie Fireproof is a story about a young couple whose marriage is on the rocks and headed for divorce, and the story of how Cameron's character, after a change of heart, tries to save it.  

      Many important area’s within marriage are brought into the story to truly captivate the audience to relate to “real life” situations, including marital disputes over finances, housework and an addiction to Internet pornography.  Whether you are single, engaged, newly weds or celebrating your 30th year wedding anniversary, the movie Fireproof is a must see for ALL!!!

      Here is a sneak preview of Fireproof:



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          Tmpickup wrote Oct 1, 2008
        • Thanks for sharing about that movie.  I think I may have to go see it.



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          Sunshine68 wrote Oct 8, 2008
        • Just saw the movie with my husband of 22 years.It was great.Will be on my Christmas list(if it isout on DVD by then ) for all the couples on my list ! and we will take our teenage daughters to see it.



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          Mary Clark wrote Oct 19, 2008
        • I saw it about two weeks ago.....great movie.....



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          Ghislaine Smith wrote Oct 23, 2008
        • godsglamour, thanks for sharing about “FIREPROOF“.  I will definitely go to see it with my husband of 18 yrs.



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          Gina Venturini wrote Oct 23, 2008
        • I am taking my husband to see it this evening.



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          Heather Mirassou wrote Oct 28, 2008
        • I just finished reading this book. I am extatic! “Getting the Love You Want” by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. It is a mirror of your current love relationships and your childhood experience.  The book taught me that my husband is just another “wounded human being“.

          We all have instances in our childhood that we use unconciously while looking for a mate.  We almost always choose a mate with postive and negative characteristics of our parents/caretakers.

          He talks about an “unconscious” marriage and teaches you how to have a “conscious” marriage.  Some of the characteristics of a conscious marriage are:

          You realize your love relationship has a hidden purpose, healing childhood wounds.

          You create a more accurate image of your partner. The illusions are set aside and your partner is just another wounded human being who is struggling to be healed.

          You become more intentional in your interactions. You behave in a more constructive manner.

          You value your partner’s needs and wishes as highly! as you do your own.

          You search within yourself for the strengths and abilities you are lacking. You become responsible for your own happiness and seek directly from your mate what your needs are.  

          You become more aware of your drive to be loving and whole and united. You begin to love unconditionally. You become spritual and you begin to rediscover your original nature

          You accept the difficulty of creating a good marriage. You realize it requires commitment,discipline, and courage to grow and change, marriage is hard work.



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          Heather Mirassou wrote Oct 28, 2008
        • OOPS! The name of the book is “Getting the Love You Want“, by Harville Hendrix, PhD.



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          Dana Arcuri wrote Oct 28, 2008
        • Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful book called, “Getting The Love You Want.”  I will definitely put this on my Christmas list!



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          Lorilyn wrote Oct 28, 2008
        • WoW! That could have been us on the screen,only DH isn’t the one trying to seek THE answer. I wish he had a mentor like the guy in the clip. Thanks for sharing,maybe we’ll go see it



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          Leadinladytracy wrote Nov 14, 2008
        • Great movie. I went to see it with my husband of 23 years.



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          Sweetnsassy wrote Nov 18, 2008
        • My significant other and I made a date this weekend and saw the movie.  It’s great and I cried (almost aloud!) when no one else in the audience was.  He cried too.  One negative -his ex works at a hospital and she cheated with a doctor.  Eeeeks!!  I whispered to him during those scenes ... let this be about “us” and not so much about your past.  It’s really a great movie.



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          Dee Dee Shaw wrote Nov 18, 2008
        • There is supposed to be a Love Dare book available. I don’t know if it is local to Georgia or if it is available everywhere. That is almost like having a mentor! :)



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          Mardasha wrote Nov 22, 2008
        • My husband and I went to see this movie several weeks ago while we were separated.  Although he is living at home again, I don’t see any huge change in his behavior or commitment to our marriage.  Anyone who has seen the movie knows that the mantra is “never leave your partner behind.”  My husband has not taken those words to heart.  I am writing this at 5:00 AM because I cannot sleep filled with so much frustration.  I have tried to use many of the techniques shown in the film to be a better mate—the separation was as much my fault as his, and I freely admit that—but my husband acts angry with me for trying.  Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.  Maybe I can try to sleep now.



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          Dana Arcuri wrote Nov 22, 2008
        • Mardasha, I am so sorry to hear that you and your husband have been separated and experiencing serious difficulties in your marriage.  I have been there and I understand the pain as well as the frustration.  

          What I believe is essential in marriage is communication.
          Sometimes it really does help to seek outside professional counseling for both couples to work on better communication.

          It sounds like there are many area’s within your marriage that need to be resolved.  (anger, forgiveness and commitment) Possibly, you can log onto the website www.fireproofyourmarriage.com

          There is a book that you can purchase online or at the local Family Christian Bookstore.  The helpful marriage book is called “THE LOVE DARE“, which is the same book that the main character used for 40 days to save his marriage.  This book is a 40 day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love.  You could even do the 40 day challenge on your own if your husband is not willing to do this with you.  The main character in Fireproof did the 40 day challenge alone, without his wife even knowing.  

          I am not saying that this will end ALL of your marriage problems, but I do think that it is a good step in the right direction to resolving your individual and marital challenges.  No matter how difficult or unhappy a marriage could become, nothing is impossible with God!  Have faith and hope that your marriage does matter and that God is here to help you & your husband resolve differences.  Keep in touch and let me know how both of you are doing!

          God Bless,
          Dana



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          Mardasha wrote Nov 22, 2008
        • Thank you for caring, and thank you for posting back.  I, too, believe that all things are possible with God.  However, I am starting to wonder if God has another road for me to travel.  This one has certainly taken a wrong turn.



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          Dana Arcuri wrote Nov 22, 2008
        • Keep in mind, mardasha, that many marriages experience challenging seasons.  No marriage is free from the common ups and downs of life.  Although it may appear easier to go separate ways when the going gets tough, that is not always the best direction to go.



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