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  • Forgetting What You Forgave

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    8 posts, 8 voices, 387 views, started May 28, 2009

    Posted on Thursday, May 28, 2009 by Denise Richardson


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      Forgetting what you forgave

      Mark 11:25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any:
      that your
      Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.

      It’s not easy to forgive certain things that people did to you. Speaking around
      the country,
      I tend to deal with all kinds of people issues. I am finding that there are
      that have been carrying around unforgiveness in their hearts for years.
      Bitterness, hate, malice, etc.
      are all products of unforgiveness. Even wrath, which is the spirit that drives
      our youth cultures of
      this day. Daddy wasn’t there, momma couldn’t be there, uncle did this, aunt did
      that! Molestation, rape,
      indecency, neglect, abuse, etc. have caused many of us to carry pain and hurt
      that we find hard to
      let go of. I was a victim of sexual abuse, so I know the pain of carrying it
      around. But in order for me
      to truly move into the calling God had for me, I had to forgive and forget. Not
      forgetting the act that
      was perpetrated upon me, but forgetting the people that did it. I had to forgive
      them and pray that
      they find grace in God’s sight. I know that is hard to do, but it’s not
      impossible. There is a way
      to approach a situation like this so that the past hurts can be healed.  

      God told me to check my past. There were a lot of people that I hurt as a result
      of my own pain. There
      were a lot of sins I committed as a result of my own issues. There was a lot of
      people that I needed to
      forgive me because I had done them wrong in some way because of what was done to
      me. So, when
      God showed me that, I was able to say “forgive them lord, as you have forgiven
      me!” We many times focus so much on what was done to us, until we can’t see what
      we are doing to others. We talk about how we were hurt
      but don’t want to talk about how we have hurt others as a result of our pain.
      Lying to folks, cheating on
      folks, stepping over folks, and misleading folks are results of hidden pain.
      Sleeping around, getting
      involved with people because you “need someone” to cover up your loneliness and
      pain is just as
      wrong as being sexually violated. Using people and then dropping them because of
      insecurities is not good. We must understand that these things are results of
      pain and unforgiveness,
      and if it’s not dealt with, it will develop into a character flaw that will
      govern our actions for the rest
      of our lives. But when we truly forgive, we can move forward instead of moving
      in the direction
      of the pain we are still feeling. I’m telling you people of God, in order for us
      to pray effectively, live
      holy, and be in line with the righteousness of God, we must first forgive those
      that hurt us.  

      Suggested Reading: Matt. 18:35, Mark 11:26, Luke 6:37, 2Cor. 2:10, Phil. 3:13

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