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  • Friend betrayal

    14 posts, 14 voices, 826 views, started Jul 29, 2009

    Posted on Wednesday, July 29, 2009 by Angela 'Cocco' Williams

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      What happens when that person that you thought was your friend betrayed you? Did it break your heart? Did it cause you to step back and become antisocial? Did it cause you to be careful of who you called your friend?



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          Janet Wooley wrote Jul 29, 2009
        • Yes to all of the above.



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          Mzd3 wrote Jul 29, 2009
        • I had what I thought was a BEST FRIEND, then , all of the sudden , she divorced her husband, married her assistant pastor, and did not keep in contact with me, it did hurt.



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          Marilyn09 wrote Jul 29, 2009
        • Oh yeh, to this day I find myself thinking about it. I had considered her a very good friend of mine.
          It totally broke my heart.



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          La Shawn Henderson wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • When I’ve been betrayed by a person I call friend it hurts. Like the betrayal of any relationship will hurt. I address the person and let them know I was hurt. I try to resolve the issue but I don’t always dismiss the friendship. Friendships are relationships between people and people are not perfect. So I adjust myself to the change in the relationship and do a note to self that I can only trust this person with this much info and no more.



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          Tuliplady wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • Yes, yes, and yes.

          I had a close friend who I trusted with a secret many years ago.  Two days later, she had spread my secret all over town.  I was crushed.  I stepped back from that friendship to the point of not even speaking to her for awhile.  I’m now friendly toward her, but do not consider her a friend.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • WOW! I was so hurt and just devistated at how she did me after all I had done for her and her son in past times. I have since moved away from her but she is still trying to latch back on to me as a friend. NOT gonna happen she had more than 3 strikes she is OUT!!!!!



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          UK Girl wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • Yes, and I think as you get older and the friendship has been a long one it's more hurtful. I lost a close friend recently and it's too upsetting to talk about but now the dust has settled I'm so glad I'm not dealing with her daily dramas – plus I'm now spending all my time appeasing her and also calming other folk down who she upset with her dramas.
          I think it was her betrayal of confidences belonging to others which made me think this is too hurtful as you then wonder what they say about you to other people.



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          Carolnphil wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • Yes.  I had what I thought was a very dear friend who lived just down the street from me in the old community.  She had a son the same age as my youngest and the boys spent time together.  She got pregnant again and I showered her with gifts for the new baby.  I took her to the ER when she started pre term labor.  While she was in the hospital her husband asked me and my boys to help clean the house for her as a surprise.  We even replaced the carpet downstairs and had the baby’s room ready.  She called and had the nerve to say she thought I was having an affair with her husband.  OMG!  That thought disgusted me more than I could have imagined and I was so hurt that she even thought of that.  I walked away and never spoke to her even though she tried to regain the friendship.  It was over and done for me.  I’ve never allowed myself to get that close to another woman since then.  I keep my distance.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • Yes to all of the above. Now if you want to be my friend that I confide my deepest and darkest you have to work a little harder than before.... sad I know but....



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          Kmarie wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • Yes to all of the above also. As a child the first time i felt that betrayal my Mother shared with me the book of Sirach in the Catholic Bible Such as 11:29 “Do not invite everyone into your home for many are the tricks of the crafty” or 12:9 “One’s enemies are friendly when one prospers but in adversity even one’s friends disappear” or 27:16-17 “Whoever betrays secrets destroys confidence and will never find a congenial freind, Love your friend and keep faith with him but if betray his secrets do not follow after him”  there are others one for a variety of betrayals. It makes it seem less me, more just the way of life



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          Mz. Queen wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • I forgive and never give them as much of anything as before.



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          Angela 'Cocco' Williams wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • Wow what stories of betrayal. This has happened to me many times and I thought it was because I was just to nice. In hind site I began to realize that it wasnt being to nice to truly love someone or care for them, it was them not knowing what a treasure they had found. Now  I am wiser about giving someone the title friend. This place is one that you must earn. It is not about me giving of myself only, You must bring some love, tears, fears, fellowship etc. to the table as well. In this we grow together and develop a lasting friendship.



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          Frannie1964 wrote Jul 30, 2009
        • Yes to all of the above



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