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  • Help with hygiene!

    18 posts, 15 voices, 1145 views, started Oct 30, 2008

    Posted on Thursday, October 30, 2008 by Stschiefs

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    • Amethyst
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      My daughter will be turning 12 in April.  We have been struggling for the past year with her hygiene habits.  She really doesn’t care about the pimples on her face or the way she smells.  We go round and round every day about cleaning her face, brushing her teeth and wearing deodorant.  Her dad and I are at our wits ends with this issue and need some advise to help her over come this.  Is this normal????



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          Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Oct 30, 2008
        • This must be a normal phase...although I don’t see anything ‘normal’ about it...my daughter isn’t that bad but we do have some issues with her too...Ours is her period..I thought about blogging it after I asked several friends who I know have daughters...but I’m not sure what to do..I have talked, given her books...you name it, I’ve done it...What is going on with our daughters?



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          Over40nfab1966 wrote Nov 9, 2008
        • My daughter is 7.5 and WEARS deoderant and has been since she was three and half.  I smelt something and knew it wasn’t me!  I said, whoa momma, what the heck!  Is that normal?  I have already started giving her a little basic info about having a period becuase I am afraid she may start early and I don’t want her to be scared.

          She doesn’t mind showering but I have to constantly remind her about the deo...she is also wearing a training bra.  Frankly, I think she is just too young for these issues but they are here!

          She will probably have pms while I am having hot flashes(LOL) Help me Lawd!



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          Stschiefs wrote Nov 9, 2008
        • We’ve found a nighttime deodorant that has seemed to work GREAT on the smell factor....it’s called Certain Dri and it’s an over the counter Anti-perspirant.  Our daughter has experienced with the “smell factor” which can be very embarrassing at this age and it really has helped her.  She puts it on every night before bedtime religiously.  It’s getting closer and closer to her “monthly dot” and I preach about having good hygiene.  Sometimes I think I’m getting paid back for all those times I put my Mom through the same issues.  Good Luck!



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          Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 9, 2008
        • My husband’s oldest daughter went through not wanting to shower or brush her hair. Her hair got so bad that my husband had to cut it off! I’m not sure what kind of “training” she has received from her mom.



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          Jean Walter wrote Nov 9, 2008
        • I have raised 2 daughters who are now 28 and 18 and my youngest is 9... I have learned through the years that the best way to teach our daughters is through our own personal hygiene... for me my daughters loved to come in to the bathroom and watch me put on make up and deodorant...perfume... and they were always asking questions.. like when can i start shaving my legs...etc.... of course they went through some tough times during puberty... didn’t we all, but I always made sure I was there to help guide them and provide them with the necessities that they would need.  I also tried to make it fun by taking them to the store and letting them pick out the products that they liked!! Hang in there..... it gets better with time!!



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          Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 9, 2008
        • But what happens if you did all those things and nothing seems to work?...Every month I dread her ‘time’ because I know how it’s going to be..And we won’t even talk about the moods to go along with it...



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          Stephanie wrote Nov 9, 2008
        • I hope that it doesn’t sound shallow, but have you tried telling her that people will not be around her if she doesn’t take care of herself?

          I know that for girls fitting in is a priority and this is something that will make fitting in difficult.

          Can you try from that angle?



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          Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 9, 2008
        • funny thing is..my daughter is in the ‘popular’ crowd, and yes I’ve told her many times that she will be teased, does not seem to make a difference to her...She does not have an odor problem, it’s just at her cycle time. She hasn’t gotten used to it, yet...



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          Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 9, 2008
        • Im laughing soo hard right now.. My youngest daughter was like that.. she was a beautiful girl and imaginative and she would just wake up and we would say she was Delta Dawn because she managed to look like a bag lady..  

          Her older sister had a song they made up and called her a Doggie, for never brushing her hair.. she is better today.. thank goodness but you know she is a model in LA and they love her personality and many of the models are like that.  

          So, I think its a phase.. with some kids.  With my daughter she felt fine about herself.. sooo she just didnt give a care about anyones thoughts.

          She liked her wierd outfits and messy hair.  On this shoot, she was asked to come with dirty hair.  So I guess its a matter of perspective and inner confidence.



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          Pam Ugalde wrote Nov 13, 2008
        • Great topic!  Our oldest daughter is 9 and it’s a HUGE struggle and argument to get her to take a shower and then we have to remind her to wash her hair, face and body.  I guess I just expected that she would know that soaping yourself and cleaning yourself comes with the term SHOWER!  Evidently I was wrong.  

          I’m glad to see this topic I thought we were alone in this encounter.



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          Inakika wrote Nov 13, 2008
        • I don’t have a daughter, but my middle son was that way when he was younger (he’s 22 now). He HATED to brush his teeth. One day he smiled and I swear I could see remnants of every meal he has ever had on his teeth! I went and got him a mirror, had him smile and he was horrified!
          With the deodorant thing, my youngest son (he’s 20) has been wearing deodorant since he was 8. Talk about musty! WHEW! :)



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          Desi~lu wrote Nov 13, 2008
        • Wow, I honestly say I can not relate to this topic.  I have two daughters (17),(5) and they have both been such girls.  My word for them.   My oldest daughter would dig through womens purses when they came to our house or at church, very embarrassing looking for make-up and nail polish.  She has always been into style and begged to have a bra from the age of four. I gave in at 7 and bought her, her first training bra that she ended up wearing for four years.  LOL  She did and still does change cloths at least three times a day.

          My younger daughter baths and dresses to a tee.  Only issue is the hair.  She does not care at all if we ever combed it.  She has very curly hair, I think that is part of the issue.  Otherwise very neat and clean.



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          Ingrid4040 wrote Nov 13, 2008
        • American Girl books has a great book called The Care and Keeping of Me.    This book has showed both of my girls 10 and 14 how to take care of themselves. It addresses hair, skin, body, etc.   At age 12, most girls bodies are startig to change and hygine is very important.  You could probably find a good but used copy of this book on half.com.  I hope it helps.



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          Susan Dahringer wrote Apr 10, 2009
        • Thank God,it’s not just my daughter.My daughter who’ll be 11 in July doesn’t seem to take pride in how she smells or looks.



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