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  • How can I recreate yourself after being left in the cold after an ugly divorce?

    4 posts, 4 voices, 1167 views, started May 23, 2009

    Posted on Saturday, May 23, 2009 by Sylvia Patterson-Davis


    • Amethyst

      I am so running around in circles that I can’t tell whether I am coming or going or was I already there and where am I supposed to be going?  I can’t tell!  I was a working mom in a household and did it all.  So why am I not knowing what to do now? I have lost my barrings and don’t know where to find them. Someone help  because I can’t grasp on to anything.  I am barely holding on to Christ and I know if I let go of Him-it’s pretty much over for me. I have a 12 year old daughter too. No car, no savings no direction/per say and in s financial hole now. WHAT? WHY? WHERE AM I!!!!!  worried


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          Angell VillafaƱe wrote May 23, 2009
        • Oh sweetie I am so sorry you are going through this and that you are feeling so sad and low. I know it is hard but you have to believe you will come out of this a stronger woman. Lift your head high and find the positive things in your life to be thankful your daughter. Pray for guidance from The Lord...never give up on Him. He knows what you are going through and will never give you more than you can bear.  

          Have you ever heard the saying...the best revenge is to succeed? That is what you have to do now...succeed. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and make some moves. Wallowing in self pity isn’t the answer. I’ve been in your situation and I know what it feels only makes the siutation worse. You have to make a way for yourself and daughter and you CAN do it. Keep your faith in God and he will help you along the way.

          I will keep you in my prayers and ask The Lord to lift you up on your feet and give you the strength you need to push forward and get your life back in order. Don’t let this divorce defeat you. Stand strong. Can you find places in your community that you can help you out? Start with your church and see if they can guide you in the right direction to getting some help to get up on your feet. I am praying for you...please let me know how things turn out. happy

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          Dana Arcuri wrote May 23, 2009
        • Being divorced is rough and I understand the challenges that you face on a daily basis.  My mother raised five daughters on her own.  I was two years old when my dad left my mom for another women.

          My first suggestion is to never give up hope no matter how tough times may appear.  Stand firm on God’s promises and have hope that God will help you get through this difficult time.  It does not mean that God will remove all hardships, but it does mean that Jesus is the anchor to cling to when you are struggling in a dark storm.  

          Several years ago, I was separated from my husband so I understand how scary it is to be broke, no savings account and way too many responsibilities.  What I discovered during that time was that there are many good resources available for single moms.  

          Have you considered food stamps, welfare, food banks, resale shops for gently used clothing or house goods?  Many churches are also very kind in reaching out to single moms.
          Check into local churches to see what they have available for single moms. Many ministries are designed to reach out to divorced women.    

          Be persistent in looking for help. Do not be afraid or ashamed to ask for help.  I contacted many churches and looked for help when I was separated.  God is good and I was blessed!  Individuals literally gave me for FREE dishes, a coffee maker, a television, a gift card to a grocery store and so much more.  People from my church helped me move into an apartment.  

          The woman who I rented my apartment from was so kind that she gave me one month FREE rent and utilities.  God met my needs during such a low time in my life and it truly was so encouraging.  

          I will pray for God to comfort you, strengthen you and to protect you and your daughter.  I pray that God will help to meet all of your needs.

          Take heart, have faith and keep on keeping on!

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          Angela 'Cocco' Williams wrote May 30, 2009
        • Sylvia I pray that God Shalom (PEACE) would fill your temple, you home and the heart of your daughter. I pray that like his word says you will have the kind of peace that surpasses all understanding. I pray for you to change you spiritual clothing and put on his GARMENT OF PRAISE for it is in this season that you MUST give him PRAISE!!!!! God is not a man that HE should lie and his word says that HIS GRACE ISSSSSSSSS Sufficient! BELIEVE IT! Our ways are not his ways neither are his thoughts our thoughts so I encourage you in your spirit to HOLD ON and have FAITH because it is not our prayers that move him...IT is our FAITH! He wants you to trust him. Not yourself or anyone else. God is our SAVIOR! He is your shinning KNIGHT! He will come in and SAVE the DAY for you. The bible says that when the enemy comes in like a flood GOD will raise up a standard against it. All you have to do is (sit down have some tea, read your bible, listen to your worship music and yes all in the midst of what is going on because) God said that HE prepares a table before you in the presence of your enemies! Well then Girl began to REJOICE in the LORD because HE Has Got YOU! YOu know the voice of the lord and you have heard him many times speaking to you. He has wanted your attention for a long time and now he has it so go ahead...Talk to him because he is listening. Don’t be afraid to really tell him how you feel about the situation because He can take it. Through Prayer and supplication...Make you request known to HIM! I love you

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