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  • How do I discover the true me

    10 posts, 10 voices, 861 views, started Jun 28, 2011

    Posted on Tuesday, June 28, 2011

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      I remember what I was like before I got married 21 yr ago but now I have no idea where that outgoing person went to..
      I have no kids at home and my whole marriage was about pleasing him....
      now I want to be away from him more then with him and want to be that outgoing person I used to be....
      Any advice

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          Vikki Hall wrote Jun 28, 2011
        • Hi there and welcome to Fab40!

          I would suggest that you find 1 thing that is all about your enjoyment. You just have to.....

          Also if you hang out here with these lovely women you will find some inspiration!


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          Cathie Beck wrote Jun 29, 2011
        • Morning and Welcome to Fab 40!  

          Just an idea ... maybe whenever you are out, even at the grocery store, greet strangers with a smile and a hello. Maybe do some volunteer work to help others?  


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          Tuliplady wrote Jun 29, 2011
        • Hello and welcome!

          The others have given great advice.  

          Just get out and do something that sounds fun or intersting to you.  Take a class, go to a workshop, start going back to church if you haven’t gone in awhile.

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          Dori Robinson wrote Jun 29, 2011
        • Welcome to Fab40!  My heart goes out to seems as if you are truly reaching out for help and input.  The good news is that you will find a lot of that right here.  

          I would second all the suggestions above, and would also add that talking to a counselor/therapist can be immensely helpful.  When I found myself in a similar situation, I struggled with KNOWING what would make me happy.  For me, I focused on one teeny, tiny thing each day that made me happy.  A new shade of toenail polish from Walgreens, friending some of my old (purely platonic) classmates on facebook, even taking an hour just to go the library was a “treat“.  If you feel overwhelmed, start small.  And pat yourself on the back for every little step along the way.  You are not alone.  heart

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          Marya1961 wrote Jun 29, 2011
        • Welcome!

              You have found a great site to share.  All the ladies have great suggestions.  I have found volunteering to be beneficial and if you are interested in outdoor activities, gardening and learning about nature is a great release.

          Wishing you much happiness!happy

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