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  • How would you be different if you had kids?

    10 posts, 9 voices, 1559 views, started Mar 12, 2010

    Posted on Friday, March 12, 2010 by Megan50




    • Aquamarine
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      I probably never would have gone to college if I was a parent and I would have stayed married if there had been kids.





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          Calypso12 wrote Mar 13, 2010
        • I personally would have loved to have had kids. But at 41 I think I would struggle. After I got divorced I was so upset that we didnt have them as I was married for nearly 10 years and it just didnt happen even though I dont think there is anything wrong with us. Just natures way.

           I just couldnt find anyone else I fancied (Or they were not really interested in me.) I find happiness in the youth club I work with as I can work with young teenagers and that they go home at the end of the night!  Thing is if I had children would I still be working with the young people today. I would have found a way.



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          Carmy_m wrote Mar 14, 2010
        • I love children but i could not have them. But, if i had them i would not be able to help my three sisters as much as i do with their kids. My nephews and nieces all think of me as their second mom, I have a great relationship with all of them.



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          Anonymous wrote Mar 14, 2010
        • I don’t think children were ever in the plan for me.  I was never really interested early enough (when I was with my first husband) and it never happened with my second partner.  At least I didn’t have them early so I’d have got stuck in the first marriage.



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          Frannie1964 wrote Mar 15, 2010
        • I’m not sure how differant I would be If I had children. I am guessing I would be a stay at home mom. I wouldn’t be running off to vegas alot and I would watch my spending money more wisely. happy I would have a budget as right now, I don’t have that and I spend money to easyliy.



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          Danusia wrote Sep 21, 2010
        • My husband and I were not fortunate enough to become parents and, bacause of my medical condition (I have Addison’s Disease) we chose not to pursue pregnancy by “medical means“.  Neither of us wanted me to go through all the necessary medical poking and prodding, etc...

          MY

          The worst comments I got were “Oh you‘re not a mom...you wouldn’t understand.”  I got that from people who “supposedly” understood my situation.....



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          Rose Nino wrote Sep 21, 2010
        • I would have imagined that I would have grown up a lot faster?! LOL!  

          Actually, I’m not really sure. From the time I was a little girl, all I ever wanted was to be a mom. But obviously God had other plans for me. I kind of feel like a mom to my amazing team though. And I love that I now get to help make a difference in their health and their happiness & in their lives & that of thousands of others! I always think that maybe my baby or me, couldn’t survive a pregnancy or that I wouldn’t be able to handle it. And so that’s why God never blessed me with motherhood. I have dealt with a lot in my life. I was abused as a child, grew up with many health problems, angry with the world...as if it owed me something for my pain and suffering, etc,...so maybe God thought I had to work out my issues first. Who knows? All I know is that I know without a doubt, that GOD knows why and that it was in MY best interest because HE loves me. And honestly, I’m perfectly okay with whatever HE has in store for me.  

          Hugz heartheart



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          Rose Nino wrote Sep 21, 2010
        • @ danusia...I’m sorry. I can totally relate. heart

          And to all of us women, that wanted kids...I’m with ya!



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          Lisa Lindstrom Snyder wrote Dec 15, 2010
        • My husband and I weren’t able to have kids either due to my cancer treatments and another of my health problems. It’s hard for me to imagine what my life would be like with kids. I know I wouldn’t be in grad school now. But it also makes me sad, especially around the holidays. heartbreak



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