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  • How Would You Save Your Dinner Party?

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    16 posts, 13 voices, 8348 views, started Jun 1, 2008

    Posted on Sunday, June 1, 2008 by Yana Berlin

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      Last dinner party I attended was a complete disaster. The hostess was fairly new in the game of entertaining, and gathered 5 couples that really had nothing in common and had a hard time keeping the conversation going.  

      The party ended before it had a chance to start and everyone was in a rush to get home. In the care I replayed the evening in my head and said to my husband:

      What if the hostess who immediately understood that the dinner party is turning out to be a disaster stepped in and saved the day with a controversial subject.

      Because I had a sly smile on my face, my husband looked at me quizzically and asked: "Which subject".

      I looked at him and said, “how about asking a question,”

      What Was Your Last Sexual Fantasy", my poor hubby almost lost control of the wheel.

      sexy kiss

      But seriously, she the hostess had to do something, why not the hot topic of sex.

      Of course the dinner conversation that was minimal up to this point would of completely ceased, and at that very moment one could hear a pin drop along with the jaws of the guests. At this stage everyone in attendance would of be searching for words of how to proclaim their denial of not having fantasies, or reciting their latest sexual fantasy in heir head refusing to share it with the dinner table.

      At this moment the hostess could of taken the show on the road and provide statistics that nine out of ten people have sexual fantasies and that they are perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of.  At least it would of sparked some kind of discussion and everyone would have had an interesting time.

      Have you ever been to a dinner party that was boring? What would you say to save the day?

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          Dana Hall wrote Jun 3, 2008
        • LOL! Yana, I’d LOVE to attend one of your parties!!

          I have not attended a boring dinner party. We usually hang out with good friends and end up laughing to the point of sore ribs. We’ll have a theme, like “margarita” party. And, proceed to share funny life stories.

          In the case of the boring party, I have a compulsion to fill awkward silences. I would probably tell a story of one of my (many) embarrassing moments. People tend to laugh, it breaks the silence and people tend to identify and start sharing their funny or embarrassing moments stories.



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          Jane Woods wrote Jun 5, 2008
        • Yana you are a wicked woman! I love it! I can think of several occasions when I would like to have dropped that one in!

          My worst dinner party was years ago when we were a young married couple and had just moved to a new area. My husband was teaching. I had had a good job in London but was yet to find a job locally and a couple had very kindly asked us for a meal to meet some people.  

          But it was so dull! The talk was either of the vegetables they had grown (interesting only to a point) and of colleagues they all knew in school but I didn’t. But worse for me was no one asked me a single question about myself in terms of career or any life beyond being a wife! I had never experienced anything like it before and began to get angrier and angrier and drink more and more.

          My husband knew I would blow at some point and kept glancing nervously at me. I wish I had thought to ask about their sexual fantasies (probably the veg figured) but instead I got more and more feisty and began to drop in the odd expletive, just to see if anyone noticed! The evening from hell, and it was over 20 years ago!

          But I love having parties myself! And I like the theme idea too. One of our best was getting everyone to come dressed as a song title! That produced some really witty ideas and didn’t necessitate too much in way of costumes, apart from one guy who came as ‘There’ll be blue birds over the white cliffs of Dover‘. He wore a huge white sheet pinned to his arms (cliffs) and had blue birds strapped to his head by wire metal coat hangers. We pretended not to get it for ages!!

          Have fun with whatever you do!
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          Jean Martin wrote Dec 11, 2008
        • ok I am a super anal planner who has to have every last detail sewn up, lists, checklists, grocery lists, fun stuff to do lists an because of that my parties are NEVER boring

          I pick a theme first and then the food, do up the menu, invites, friends who are fun ALWAYS because fun friends never let it die (mexican night, chinese food night YES HOMEMADE chinese food, superbowl party even childrens birthday parties with the bouncy thing and pinatas, water guns and great food)

          I planned one party 6 months in advance for a dear friend and six years later people are still talking about it.  the food the cake the personal touches, every little detail counts

          the important ingredient in ANY dinner party is GREAT food and GREAT FRIENDS a lively host THATS ME I am a walking cartoon and of COURSE a theme AND KEEP THE GUYS FROM THE TV that is NOT entertainment unless its a superbowl party



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          Coachmombabe wrote Dec 11, 2008
        • I’m so bad at planning parties that my kids used to plan their own birthday parties! I should take some lessons from you ladies here.  

          Actually, I don’t like being the hostess. I’m a one on one person, so even in a group of friends I begin to feel a little awkward. But in small intimate groups I can be quite silly, though never the life of the party!



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          Inakika wrote Dec 11, 2008
        • Oh, I can’t help but think of a Halloween party that I threw years ago. My husband is not a party person, so he was not really in to it. I invited most of my friends and co-workers and when the men I invited showed up, my husband became unglued. One was really friendly with me, Travis was the touchy feely type. At one point, he put his arm around me and my husband ‘bout lost it! Once they saw how his head had twisted around like Linda Blair in The Exorcist, everyone just left.
          The next day at work I was getting the strangest looks. That ended my party planning for a while. It took years for me to have another one. Once I got into the craft services business with my family I learned quite alot and now I throw one heck of a mean party! happy



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          Dee Dee Shaw wrote Dec 12, 2008
        • Cindy,
          Me too! :) You’d think I’d get it down pat. lol



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          Coachmombabe wrote Dec 12, 2008
        • Teeky, I should let you plan our parties! Sounds like  you have the knack! Or, better yet, just invite me to yours!!! hahaha!



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          Wookiemom09 wrote Mar 5, 2010
        • A dinner party with 10 couples (I worked with the hostess who bragged for weeks about her gourmet husband’ menu).
          My ex husband was redneck, NRA card carrying, heavy equipment mechanic.  One husband brags his family owns a  shop in the area and they underpay their employees on govt contracts (wages are preset) and they keep the difference.  Another husband talks about his current 3rd college degree Masters - study work on child rearing but didn’t have any kids yet and felt gun ownership by private citizens was the #1 downfall of society and spanking children was proof of white trash imbreeding. The meal was extreme small portions and took 20 minutes between course - 6 in all. Needless to say once my hubby gave me the 100th sideways glance, I developed “a splitting headache” and we had to leave immediately.  On Monday the hostess gushed how engaging everyone was and couldn’t wait to host another.  Never attended another.



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          KRIS JULIN wrote Apr 19, 2010
        • My husband and I love giving dinner parties.  More of a show to show off his cooking skills. We never invite more that 4 other couples and usually none of them know each other.  I tend to get the mix right, thus I have never had a quiet moment. Luckily all my friends are very open minded.  They all have so many great stories as they all work in different industries, so fresh and new conversations are always at a ready. Topics include travel, food, wine, children, stupid things we do, sports, music, usually all funny stories. Humour is the most important ingredient in dinner parties, on top of great, great wine and great company.  Never talk of religion or politics



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          Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 9, 2011
        • I know this is an old post but it made me smile so I wanted to comment.  

          Yana I want to go to one of your parties... happy

          Personally I haven’t been to many ‘dinner parties’ other than the occasional holiday invite.  Being military we move every  3 to 4 yrs so don’t get much of an opportunity to ‘get to know the neighbors’ before either your gone or they are.  

          I’m not a big party planner myself.  I usually go one of two ways.  A holiday dinner for soldiers who have no friends or family close to go to OR a BBQ.  Nothing really planned except the food.  But haven’t had to worry about not having anything in common since most ‘military’ can at least related on terms of career and general lifestyle.

          I love small get-togethers but am definitely more comfortable in a relaxed situation where a topic with a sexual nature wouldn’t be uncommon or a shocker...lol



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          Marya1961 wrote Apr 13, 2011
        • Great post!  I also prefer to have small gatherings, maybe three couples usually and then after we have all had some martinis, we break out some fun board games..as a matter of fact, we have game night every month, and it is never boring!estatic



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          Mysticalpatterns wrote Apr 13, 2011
        • Mary, Sounds like the PERFECT party to me... estatic  I too prefer small groups and really love board games!!



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