I didn't just date a younger man...girllll

I married one!  

My husband, of 15 years I might add, is 6 years my junior.  Not as big a deal now as it was when we started dating.  He was 21 and I was 27.  

See I married very young, 17, the first time.  I married a rebound a few years later out of fear.  So when I started dating my current husband, well, let’s just say folks were skeptical.

To be with a younger man, you have to be willing to take on the mature adult, nuturing role.  My husband for example had a great job, but still lived at home, spent as he pleased and raised cane all the time!  It was quite an adjustment to become a stepdad and a husband all at once.  

There were times that I wanted to say OMG what have I gotten into here.  It’s like raising another kid.  And it kinda was.  He’ll even tell you that. It was alot to go through, but then again.....I’d been in relationships with older men and men my age, there was crap going on there too, just a different kind.

Once we weathered it, it has been gravy ever since.  Just about everyone that knows us will tell you we are very happily married and we are.  We have a great relationship.  He learns from my life experiences and I have this great, fun partner who is outgoing and keeps me young.  

To be honest, what drew me too him initially seemed bad.  He was wild and crazy, basically young.  Looking back I realize that I had missed out on my youth having a child at 17, so I was attracted to the thought I could recapture it (beyond my attraction to him that is).  

Whatever it was, right or wrong or in between, I am one of the luckiest women alive.  My husband is a real partner, we’ve grown together, we have a deep love and understanding, plus we are best buddies but we give each other space.

All I can say is, in the words of the late great Aaliyah “Age ain’t nothin’ but a number“.