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  • I wish I wish....

    8 posts, 8 voices, 873 views, started Jun 9, 2009

    Posted on Tuesday, June 9, 2009 by Momwtwins2

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    • Amethyst
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      I got married all for the wrong reasons. I was pretty much tols as I was growing up that I should just get married and have children. No education other then HS and also feeling not that great about myself I never thought I could ever become more. Didn’t do well in school and just about 1 year ago found out I have ADD. Now knowing this I wonder about the choices I have made. But I am here and I have to grow from this point on. We have been seeking help for our marrage for over 3 years now. I am just not feeling it for my husband. We hardly have sex, this is my choice. There has been other issues the past 5 years and they have been on his part. I can’t honestly say I want to stay with him, but where do I go where I have no real education or training in anything. How do I make enough money to take care of myself and my two children? I have a friend they said I could live there after the devorce and the price is right! I am pretty lost here. Looking for some support.
      Thank you for listening. Thank you



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • I am so sorry you‘re going through this. Honestly I believe that there are a lot of women in our age bracket who were caught in that “ozzie and harriett” frame of mind from our upbringing. I have friends and a sister who deal with the same thing. Staying in a marriage for economic reasons and very unhappy.

          I’ve encouraged my sis to go out and find some work - really anything to start with that will give her a sense of fulfillment. It’s a starting point and gets her out in the world and moving in a forward direction. She’s so far not willing to do it but she’s so very unhappy in her marriage.

          If you are able to go to a career counselor and see what type of work would suit your interests and skills, maybe you would have some hope for a productive future. There’s always hope.

          Wishing you well.



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          UK Girl wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • Honey I know this must be tough for you and the economy isn't helping but have you thought of volunteering as this will give you some work skills and also experience plus those will count towards looking for a job. If I could wave a magic wand and say what do you want to be ........ what would your answer be – think about a goal or  a dream and work towards it – we all need dreams and something to aim for .....

          We are here 24/7 for support and encouragement as others will tell you mountains have been moved from this site



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          Karyn Olson wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • It is never too late to go back to school...I know of women who have gone back to school in their 40’s and have gone on to have great careers...you are still young and have plenty of life ahead of you...happy



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • ADD or not you can make it, there are special programs out there to assist you in your needs, don’t let this condition keep you from your full potential and please don’t think that you need a man to validate you whether you have a condition or not, you are better than that! You can do whatever you put your mind to doing we‘re rooting for you.
          happy



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          Frannie1964 wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • My thoughts and prayers are with you also.
          ((((((( Hugz )))))))



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          Momwtwins2 wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • Thank you so much ladies! I have many great ideas of the things I really enjoy doing plus I would LOVE to open my own Consignment shop with children’s clothing. There is one that just opened down the street maybe I will look into seeing if she needs help in the future. It’s a big hit around here! Blessings to all!



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