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  • Id like to just. ......be!

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    29 posts, 18 voices, 1767 views, started Dec 10, 2010

    Posted on Friday, December 10, 2010 by Cheekymonkey




    • I guess Im in need of a good venting.
      I know positivity is the key and success to everything we do and are in this world but thats a hard and large under taking every hour of everyday.
      Sometimes you just feel bla or disconnected. Sometimes its a state of limbo your in,maybe cant pin point whats wrong but your not yourself.
      Why isnt ok to be and feel this way sometimes? Not live in this state of mind for long periods of time but allow yourself to feel this course maybe learn from it.
      I feel I have to be “on” all the time and that takes a tole on you as well that drains you faster than anything.
      Im tierd that I cant feel sad,blue,down or just limbo without a speech on being positive. I live never to give up or quit anything without a good fight. I give 100% of my efforts to be the best me I can be. Im strong and look for ways to be better.
      So,if Im not my usally self why cant it just be??
      Why can others be allowed to feel what they feel? Being “on” and bright sunshine all the time isnt being true to myself because lately Im not all positive....im a person going through my lifes course the best I can.
      I try to help as many on the way as I can but I stumble and sometimes Im down for abit but Ill get back up and fight again.
      But, Im tierd right now.Im in limbo but I never get to see it through for when my children or husband or for that matter anyone comes around Im back “on” again.
      This probally makes no sence to most of you....and I appriciate you allowing me to vent
      Thank you,
      Cris

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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 10, 2010
        • Cris, you can just “be” over here with us. And vent away! We‘re here for you.



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          Cheekymonkey wrote Dec 12, 2010
        • Thank you....but I think I just did....lolestatic I truely apprieciate it. heart



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          Brimstone1968 wrote Dec 12, 2010
        • Sometimes my friend letting it all go and just being plain old you even for a moment in time is good.  Let it out.



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          Mary Clark wrote Dec 12, 2010
        • Well Cristen...if anyone were to say they were “on” everyday...they would be lying.  We all have “blah” days.  I certainly have had my share and still do.  It is okay to have those days...just don’t let them take you over!  I think people mean well when they talk about positive stuff when you‘re like that...just because they truly want you to feel better.  They really do not know what to do other than to say stuff like that.  But some days are just like that...and when I have those days...and acknowledge them I try my very best to do something different...focus on others...and usually when I do... it pulls me out of that “funk“. Not always...but most of the time.



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          Cocofix41 wrote Dec 12, 2010
        • I would say that you are 100 percent HUMAN for feeling the way you do .  I try so hard to be a positive person myself and spread it along the way but Ill tell you theres another side of me that when i get in the funk youre in I go into my little Crab shell and leave the outside world behind me until i feel like coming out and you know what, thats ok with me becuase i know myself and our emotions go in waves its part of our physiology i think, part of being human.
          I have NEVER met a person that was ON all the time that wasnt an actor or actress on tv it just doesnt exist and you have to know that too and just let yourself be in the place your in and KNOW it will pass.
          I ask for extra hugs from my hubby, or kids and sometimes ill just tell people around me that im not feeling myself and honestly people around me know that its just normal to have days like that.
          I would be very concerned about you IF you said that youve been feeling this way for weeks now and i would wonder if you are going through depression but only you can answer that one and I pray youre not depressed but just the Holiday blues have a hold on you which affects millions of people every year.
          Hugs to you my friend
          Christie



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          Cheekymonkey wrote Dec 13, 2010
        • Thank you Christie, and no I havent felt like this for weeks. Thank God,because this bites even though Im not sure what “it” is lol a few days which is still a long time or so it seems.
          I just blue and feel like I have a hole in me right now and a constant lump in my throat
          Missing things that arent even gone yet.....and Im not liking it!
          Sigh.....probally just work which entensifys a thousand times right now.
          But I will be ok or Ill be forsed to kick my own butt! Lolheart



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          Cheekymonkey wrote Dec 13, 2010
        • Brimstone,, mz v thank you for your support. I truely needed it
          cynthia, hugs to you my friend.
          Eva, estatic
          @ Mary, your an inspiration to me. And I know your right about people just wanting to say a kind word.
          And I think if I could acknowlege what “it” is I could fix it or at least move past it but not sure what or why I feel so out of sorts but Im truely working on this.
          Hugs to you all



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          Cocofix41 wrote Dec 13, 2010
        • SENDING YOU A HUMOUNGOUS
          HUG THROUGH THIS EMAIL TO YOU

          POPPING THROUGH YOUR SCREEN COMIN RIGHT ATCHA!! LOL!

          YOU ARE AN AMAZING!!
          SMART!!
          BEAUTIFUL!!
          SHARPLY CREATIVE!!
          GIVING!!
          A BEAUTIFUL PERSON!!
          AND MOST OF ALL A UNIQUELY INCREDIBLE PERSON AND ONE OF MY DEAREST FRIENDS AND I THINK YOU HAVE THE WORLD IN THE PALM OF YOUR HAND JUST RELAX AND LET A NEW DAY START AND FORGET ABOUT THE BLAHS MOVE FORWARD AND JUST BE YOU.  

          REMEMBER TO KNOW ITS OK WHEN YOU FEEL LOUSEY ITS PART OF LIFES UPS AND DOWNS AND WHEN YOU FEEL THE DARK CLOUD MOVING OVER YOU JUST TELL YOURSELF THIS TOO SHALL PASS AS THE OLD SAYING GOES.

          HUGS TO YOU MY FRIEND
          CHRISTIE



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          Anonymous wrote Dec 13, 2010
        • It’s difficult for me to read your long questions due to your grammar and spelling.  I really don’t want to come across as a mean spirited person.  It would really benefit you to spell better.

          And I had to add, yes......it’s great to just be!heart



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          Anonymous wrote Dec 13, 2010
        • Cheeky monkey is sharing with us how shes feeling right now - as every one of us has felt at some time in our life, and as far as long grammatical errors in her questions, it was more to vent to be more technical about it lol.
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          Grammar problems?—what the heck ????? Im speechless on that one honestly no one here looks for flaws in other people, and who cares anyway, we are only here to post replies as friends and to be there for one another as women and friends.  Thats all that matters in here.  heartheart



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          Cocofix41 wrote Dec 13, 2010
        • Hi Eva happy
          Its so cliche I know in that old saying but its so true
          and I dont know a single soul who hasnt had dark moments where life is concerned but just knowing it wont last forever helps in some small way in the back of ones own mind when its happening.

          Hugs back to you toohappy



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          Kyah wrote Dec 13, 2010
        • heart heart Cheeky, Life can be one helluva roller coaster; full of ups, downs, curves, loops & you know you can’t stop the ride and get off, just have to hold on.

          Vent, it always feels better when you get something out in the open.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • heartCheeky, it’s ok to be in the place you‘re at but don’t stay there we all get to that point at times trust me been there and done that one too and probably will do it again sometime again along the way and its ok to vent we all need to at times, and yes this is the place to do it we‘re here for you for each other, never mind the mindless anonymus post just focus on you and what makes you feel better, this too shall pass and you have people here who love you, care for you and are genuinely concerned, take out some time for you and do you! We‘re here for you my friend.heart



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          Anonymous wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • Anonymous #2, I have a question for you
          Why are you so bitter and jealous of Crista?
          Its clear to me that you dont like her and find it
          important enough to you that you point out anything
          negative.
          Its clear to me that you are in a dark place and suggest you
          keep your negative thoughts to yourself.
          and btw, i stay anonymous because i dont want you bothering me either.



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          Jennifer Davis wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • Cheeky, you are a warm, caring and giving person.  What’s happen recently is life doing it’s laundry!  I have them days too.  We all do.  Sometimes for no reason at all this ‘dread’ feeling takes over and all you want to do is just ‘be’ (just like you said), to feel all of your feelings and not be judged by any of them.  Their just how your feeling in that moment.  Not a lifetime.  Some just don’t get it, but that’s alright, they don’t need to.  If people, would only just respect that and give us space, that alone would probably move us out it a lot quicker.  

          Your terrific, a kind and gentle soul, you’ve extended a hand of friendship and encouragement to me, which speaks volumes to who you truly are...so what if you‘re having a blah day.  Your entitled to it.  And don’t worry about the others, that just adds more ‘blah‘...

          My world is a brighter place for knowing you.

          Bear hugs to you my friend
          Jennifer



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          UK Girl wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • Chris just vent away and don’t worry about anonymous - sadly we always seem to have one mean person popping up to have a “pick”
          My good friend Laurie Z has a word for the them “_Snarky_ ”



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          Mary Clark wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • Cheeky....VENT ALL YOU WANT!!

          To the anonymous person who posted FIRST...I find your comments to be cold and actually juvenile! If the grammatical errors are all you are concerned with...then I suggest you go to a “grammar site” and post away there.  

          We are all grown women and are here to support one another...not tear each other down.  And if you think it’s so right to post such a thing then why did you do it anonymously?  I know..because you know it’s wrong.  And I don’t care if you know who I am!!



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          Frannie1964 wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • Vent away!  

          Like Vicki said. Theres always one mean person popping up to ruin everything.heartbreak



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          Mztracy wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • remember those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind.

          Anon #1 doesn’t matter!!  

          Hugzz to you Crista, keep venting!



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • I’ve been MIA so just saw all of this.

          Anon - that was mean spirited. Really, if you don’t have anything constructive to add to a thread - best to keep toxic opinions to yourself. It’s ok to disagree here with one another. That’s what makes us all individuals. But to just pop off with a comment about someone’s grammar or spelling - unnecessary.



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          Cocofix41 wrote Dec 14, 2010
        • Anonymous #1 you need to get a life ! And i dont give a rats tail what you think .

          You can vent anytime you want Crista!

          WERE HERE FOR YOU !!!!



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          Wmv wrote Jun 14, 2011
        • I know I’m coming in late, but I want to add this...

          I would do absolutely anything to be female.... something that you take for granted, just waking up in the morning, doing your regular stuff and feeling bored or out of sorts... you‘re still essentially you. You don’t have to wear a mask or lie to anyone.  

          Me... I will never really know that feeling. I think that it’s easy to forget when your confronted by problems that there are people out there who would, at anytime, be willing to switch places with you. What you are, just being you, is more special than you realize.

          heart



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