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  • I'm Not Charity

    9 posts, 6 voices, 831 views, started Feb 23, 2013

    Posted on Saturday, February 23, 2013 by Denise Richardson

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      Scenario: my 21year old god-daughter has 2small boys ages 1&3 with a baby girl due any day now. The father of her children is incarcerated, his family as well as hers is no help to her. Her mother is selfish and rude to her and just don’t care about the welfare of her child/ grand-children. Her current state is with her step-grandfather who has told her that after she has the baby which is any day now she can no longer live in his house. She is on public assistance, but all her food allowance goes to the house and her cash is limited because of the greed of her family members.  

      She calls me more often than I’d care for her too with drama on top of drama, now I feel for her and her children and the situation she has gotten herself into, but I warned her of this day, back when she had the first child. I love her, but I don’t have room for their drama, nor do I have extra finances to give away knowing I won’t get it back. I went online to try and find her some kind of public housing assistance program, I sent an inquiry on her behalf hoping that they contact her and can help her.

      I just don’t understand people today, I don’t care how old your children are they are still yours and if they are in trouble we as parents should reach out to them. She even shared with me how her own mother told her she want her to pay her if she helps her find a place, WTH???? The girl is already struggling, barely making it, and I mean barely and you as her mother want to take the little money she does have from her and the kids?  

      How selfish and mean is that? Her mom had the gall, the nerve to call me yesterday trying to lie to me about her being there for her daughter when I know the real truth. When I told her she was never really there for her children which is a fact, because before her mom passed, it was her mom who took care of her kids, she got mad at me and hung up on me, oh well the truth hurts and I will NOT condone her lies and mess when it comes to this girl out here with kids and no place to go, how does she as the mother and grand mother sleep in her warm bed at night?

      But I had to remember she never loved on her kids that’s why her mom reared them, but as soon as she passed the kids were left to fend for themselves, it’s a shame, the son who is 19 does nothing but lay around getting high and selling drugs and guess what? The step-grandfather is ok with it, in fact he gets high with him and they drink together, SMH. It seems he’s all for what the boy does but shuns the girl. Well I told her I would do what I can far as gifts for the baby shower, and pay for her cupcakes, via way of my grand baby’s business, but that’s all I will do.

      My heart goes out to her and her kids, but I saw this coming a long time ago I knew this would be their fate after their grandmother passed, it is such a shame.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Feb 24, 2013
        • So the father of her children is in jail? Where is his family? Are they not able to help?

          Now while I feel sorry for her that her own mother won’t help her, she didn’t help the situation by getting pregnant a 2nd or 3rd time. So maybe she needs a conversation on birth control and or abstinence. Because of her decisions or lack of those poor babies are going to suffer. heartbreak



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          Denise Richardson wrote Feb 24, 2013
        • @Vikki89, girrrrrl yes the low life nicca is in jail and rightfully so. His family like himself all are low life ghetto people, the scum of the earth, and yessss her mother is sorry as hell she is so damn selfish and just freaking stupid, I warned her of the 1st pregnancy that if she didn’t get her life together this was coming so this is the hand she dealt herself I just hope that organizaion I tried contacting for her comes through for her the the kids.



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          Mzd3 wrote Feb 24, 2013
        • That’s very sad, especially for the innocent babies involved.



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          Marya1961 wrote Feb 25, 2013
        • Very sad, sure hope the organization you contacted can help those poor children..they are innocent in all of this.

          Neicy, I really don’t understand why people get themselves into situations and then repeat the action..did she not see that the father of the kids was going nowhere.

          Sure hope she gets the help she needs and temporarily as she then needs to consider a trade school or community college to get herself educated and fending for herself and her children.

          and then dump all the losers in her life!



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          Denise Richardson wrote Feb 25, 2013
        • Thanks ladies, well I have no idea if the organization was successful in contacting her or not, but I do know she has been going back and forth to the hospital in false labor.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Mar 18, 2013
        • Update: well she is back at her grand fathers house, she never had the baby shower and her mom is upset with me for speaking the truth about her not being a mother to her children, I told my god daughter that I’m stepping away from their drama, hate to do it, but it’s not my problem they have been messy and always will be so I’m out, apparently the organization never reached out to her who knows. I’m done.



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          Cheeky wrote Mar 18, 2013
        • heart hi Neicy,
          Long time me writing on your posts but here goes you know I speak my mind:
          What is wrong with her? Drugs? Loneliness ? Stupidity? I mean to get getting pregnant and continuing to not better herself is wrong and sad.
          I am sorry to hear the way she is being treated. And I hope some day it turns around.
          I know you want to help and save the world just remember sometimes you can’t
          Much love
          Cristen



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          Denise Richardson wrote Mar 20, 2013
        • Hi Cheeky, welcome back! You are so right and I have removed myself from the situation totally.



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