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  • Impossible People

    6 posts, 6 voices, 1832 views, started Jan 13, 2009

    Posted on Tuesday, January 13, 2009 by Ms-kay

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    • Carnelian
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      We all know impossible people. They tend to share three main characteristics: They cannot be reasoned with, they believe they can do no wrong, and they are convinced that everything is someone else’s fault.  

      If you haven’t had some first-hand experience in dealing with such people, count your blessings.  

      Some people simply aren’t compatible. Sometimes, a person who gets along with everybody else quite well is an impossible person for you personally. Most relationships between people contain many shades of gray, but some people simply mix as well as oil and water.  

      It is common to hear your impossible person proclaim that “Everyone else likes me.” This is an attempt to shift the blame to you, so don’t buy it. It doesn’t matter how this person interacts with others. The fact is, the way the two of you interact together is terrible. Remember that blame never changes the facts.

      Understand that it’s not you, it’s them. This can be surprisingly difficult, considering that impossible people have complete mastery of blaming skills. If you‘re dealing with an impossible person, you‘re probably being told on a regular basis that every conceivable thing is your fault. It isn’t. As the saying goes, “It takes two to tango.” Chances are, the more often they blame you, the more they themselves are actually at fault.

      Remember, impossible people can do no wrong. Do not, under any circumstances, join them in bashing, blaming or complaining.  

      Realize that you cannot deal with impossible people the same way you deal with everyone else. In some ways, they need to be treated like children. Give up all hope of engaging these folks in any kind of reasonable conversation. It will never happen.

      Be the opposite of them: a possible person. Live as an example of tolerance, patience, humility, and even some kindness (as difficult as that may be)—because these are all the things that the impossible person is not or not very good at.



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