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    20 posts, 15 voices, 1090 views, started Oct 2, 2008

    Posted on Thursday, October 2, 2008 by Molly Rosen

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    • Amethyst
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      Hello!  I started this group because I think there is a need for a place to go for those of us struggling with children in the “terrible teens” phase of life.  Have you suddenly been demoted to cook/chauffeur/personal shopper?  Is everything that comes out of your mouth an idiotic statement worthy of a supreme eye-roll?  Does your child want you to stay out of her life, yet stand by ready to meet her every demand the moment it arises?  Have you no life or identity of your own outside of “____’s mom“?  Does the family scatter when your teen walks into the room, to avoid the inevitable verbal attack?  Then this is the place for you.

      Please, feel free to post and vent your frustrations here.  I suspect there will be many who can relate!

      ~Molly



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          Donna65 wrote Oct 2, 2008
        • Hi Molly,
          I believe you are right. I doubt there is a active parent of a teenager girl or boy who wont have feelings in this area. Mine is a 13 year old boy. He amazes me. Highly intelligent yet acts as if he has the needs of a 3 year old some times. He actually said to me, “I could do it myself, but why should I when I have you guys“.
          The past week he has been really great so I have no other current events to relate, but I am sure I will be in touch soon.
          Good Luck to all of us.
          Donna



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          Molly Rosen wrote Oct 2, 2008
        • Those words sound like a challenge to me...  evil grin



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          Donna65 wrote Oct 2, 2008
        • Oh yeah he is finding out. LOL



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          Molly Rosen wrote Oct 3, 2008
        • Hi, thanks!  I am already a member of that group as well.  I hope you don’t mind my creating another group specifically for the behavioral issues.  I suppose it is a bit redundant....



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          Kelzzz wrote Oct 12, 2008
        • This is excatly what I was looking for.  I am the Mother of a 15 year old girl, and an 11 year old boy.  We cannot ask either of them to do anything with out that famous eye roll you mentioned nor the voice that makes you want to crawl under something and hide.  I can remember doing the same thing to my Mother way back when.  Wish she were still here so that I could call and apologize.
          At this age trying to teach reponsibility, manners and respect is a full-time job. Which is unfortunate becuase I have a full-time job. I think this is the age I need to be home to know what my kids are doing at every moment of every day. It’s scary kids do things quicker than I did at the same age and I want to protect my daughter and make sure that she doesn’t make a mistake that could ruin her life. Ahhhhh I could go on and on.
          Thank you for starting this site I promise to be a regular.
          Kelzzz



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          Tami Williams wrote Oct 13, 2008
        • I was excited to see this group.  I have twins boy/girl that are 17 and then I also have a 13 year old girl.  Talk about drama!! These days I think that is all our house is about.  Whose not happy with who and why their lives suck!!
          I so agree my life is all about keeping the peace and getting everybody where the need to go, and Hey, whats for dinner?!!
          Thanks for starting this group I hope to be a regular.



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          Kfever wrote Oct 13, 2008
        • Count me in too. I am a single mom to 2 teen girls-16/14 nothing like a house full of hormones! I am taking out stock in Midol!
          One minute my girls love me and the next I am “so unfair” one minute they love each other the next minute it’s “I hate you“. One things for sure- it is never boring....



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          Ellyse01 wrote Oct 13, 2008
        • Hey, this is great.  A forum to discuss, share, and offer support to others with teenagers and the unique issues they present with.  I have a 16 year old boy and 11 and 8 year old girls who are already picking up bad attitudes from their brother.  He seems to think the world revolves around him and it is our job to keep him entertained, give him all he desires and pretty much finance anything wants.  I think it’s time for him to get a part time job....



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          Molly Rosen wrote Oct 13, 2008
        • No, I personally think it’s because boys are generally more pleasant in their teens than girls are.  Boys present the greater challenge at the younger ages, with their exuberance, noisiness and love of all things muddy/dirty, but when the teen years come they tend to be the easier to manage as compared to their female siblings.  

          That’s my experience, anyway.  Anyone else care to comment?



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          Lamocha wrote Nov 6, 2008
        • Well I’d like to get some words of wisdom from ladies going through it or who have gone through it...and that is being a single parent of a 13 yr old eye roller with a nasty attitude who HATES her mother’s boyfriend.  The last time I had a steady boyfriend, my daughter was 4 yrs old, so a lot of time has passed.  Although I’ve been dating him for 4 months now and despite his ability to maintain a very POSITIVE attitude towards my daughters non-stop resistance to befriending him, it is driving me absolutely crazy.  She goes to therapy to vent and we are working on getting through this period of adjustment; but it’s like we take 1 step forward and 3 back.  Anyone out there have a happy ending to this type of battle??



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          Kimi wrote Nov 12, 2008
        • Hi. I’m so glad to know I’m not the only 40 year old idiot out here. My 17 year old daughter could take over Hell at times. I keep telling her, “It’s your TONE I don’t like!” I can’t believe how STUPID I got over the last few years. It’s not like I was never a teen myself. I did some of the same stuff, too. And I have apologized profusely to my parents. Of course, now they think they need to tell me where my parenting skills are lacking. That’s fun. But I also have a 14 year old boy and he is less than 1/2 the trouble my girl child is. He also gets tired of her insults and sarcasm. OH THE SARCASM!!!! I think she still lives as a toddler does in her own mind. She thinks the entire world lives to serve her. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, is in some way about her. My son isn’t perfect by any means, but he is much more appreciative of what he has (family, home, opportunities, etc.). OK. I feel a little better. But this is just the tip of the iceberg. Thanks. ; )



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          Sharon Hackleman wrote Nov 24, 2008
        • Aloha from Kauai!

          I am the mother of two daughters now 26 and 21 so I can happily say I survived the teen years. Actually, I was pretty blessed with two girls who felt that it was pretty easy to talk to me so the teen years were not too difficult. After I raised my teens I went to work as a teen counselor in group homes and emergency shelters where I did come across some of the most difficult teens I have ever met. I found it challenging to get through to them but not impossible. It was in a group session with some local teens that inspired my positive thought cards for teens. If you are interested you may view them at my website at [Link Removed] or see a video of them on my profile.

          As a counselor I like to remind parents to remember when they were a teen and what they felt like at that time in their life. I believe it opens your heart and the lines of communication with your teen in the here and now.  

          It is great to see so many caring involved parents helping each other out today!

          Sharon


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          Stephanie Wolf wrote Nov 24, 2008
        • I can honestly say I am glad two of my three are past the teen stages.  My eldest (who is actually my step-daughter) although we have a wonderful relationship (now).  What a time those teen years were!!!  She is now 29 and just got married this past September.
          My second is graduating this coming May from college, just turned 21! Although she is still quite immature, again, glad those teen years are done.
          My last one, my son, who is 11, I know the worst is yet to come still!!!
          I look forward to having all the help I can get, and be glad to share any experiences I’ve had, especially raising a step-daughter into the beautiful person she turned out to be!



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          Autumneyes wrote Dec 31, 2008
        • Hi Everyone.  I have two teenage sons, 16 & almost 15 (in two short months).  They are as different as day and night and because they are only 14 months apart I feel like we don’t really get a break (kind of like the diaper years...they just went on and on).  So I am glad I can find a space to share and, more importantly, learn from other’s experiences.  If our boys were further apart I think I would feel a little bit more secure with our 2nd but I know I’m just fooling myself. HA!

          I am really REALLY enjoying the comic Zits.  We have bought every one of the books from amazon.  If you haven’t already found this gem - do so.  You’ll laugh until you cry... trust me!

          Autumn



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          Becca wrote Jan 3, 2009
        • I have been fairly lucky so far. I have 4 boys - 19, 16, 14, and 12.  

          My oldest has been a heavensent - a very good role model for his younger brothers - this is even more important due to the fact I am divorced. The only problem I have with him is his relationship with his girlfriend - we don’t have enough time in the day for that one.

          My second oldest has calmed with the attitude with age, however, he has a nasty temper.

          The third - lets just say he has just found out that if he makes noises - it annoys everyone. Hmmm so yeah, he does it well and knows great timing.

          Then there is the youngest - my baby. Yeah, he whines sometimes, but he’s a cuttle bug and not an issue.

          I’ve been blessed, but I have tried to look at them growing up as the next stage - I don’t try to judge or to make snide remarks on things I may not think is right. I try to let them make their own mistakes and give advice even though it may not be taken. I’ve never been strict with them and I feel they don’t take advantage of the situation either.

          Keep an open mind and try to reach out in other ways... communication is so important. At least it works for me.
          I have a long way to go, but so far - so good....Becca



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