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  • It's Not Our Responsibility

    7 posts, 5 voices, 959 views, started Sep 27, 2012

    Posted on Thursday, September 27, 2012 by Denise Richardson

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      Ok, so since my class reunion picnic earlier this month I have re-connected to some other friends. One of them we have had dinner and visited each others home. Well another classmate of ours who was with us at the reunion, came out to the other classmates home when she invited us over, now she doesn’t have a car, and has to be dropped off everywhere, so when she heard that myself and our other classmate have been getting together she got peed and made the comment “why didn’t one of us pick her up?” WTH???? It’s not our responsibility to pick her up everything we want to do something or get together. It appears that she is getting peed because I have connected with this person, and she thinks she is suppose to be with us every time we get together, Not! I love her as a friend/person, but I’m not gonna carry her. Our other friend feared this would happen and feels somewhat sad about our friends feelings. I told her its not hers nor mine fault that she hasn’t done anything to change her current situation, I refused to allow her to make me feel responsible is that fair?



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          Marya1961 wrote Sep 27, 2012
        • Does she know how to drive?  Just curious...well, being in the current situation of not having a vehicle readily available to me, I can sympathize with her.  I don’t mean that you need to be her chauffeur and she should not get angry if you and the other friend have plans, but can she afford her own car is also a question.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Sep 27, 2012
        • Hi Marya, to answer your questions, yes she can drive and have a drivers license, she has access to a vehicle, but she is allowing her sometimes a man control her. She is lazy and won’t work to be able to get her a car again because her cheating sometimes man keeps her that way so he can keep tabs on her where About’s.



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          Marya1961 wrote Sep 27, 2012
        • That sounds like a real problem, I can see your point..hopefully, she wakes up and realizes that she needs to change things, but you never know with people.



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          Frannie1964 wrote Oct 4, 2012
        • I agree with Mary.  

          I thought maybe she can’t drive, but even so. You shouldn’t depend on others to drive you here and there and think that it’s their responsibility to do so. I know this for a fact cause I don’t drive for personal reasons. I don’t rely on others to pick me up or take me where I need to go. Most of the time I’m on a public bus which I don’t mind at all. If its some place farther to go then hubby takes me.

          But if it’s getting together with friends, then I just suck it up and deal with the fact that I don’t drive and it’s no ones fault but myself but I’m not going to make my friends come and get me, that’s just wrong.

          Sorry your friend has a controlling s/o. I hope she realizes what she’s doing and change things for the better.



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          Daphne wrote Oct 5, 2012
        • It’s one thing to bum a ride but to EXPECT and demand that someone pick her up takes some kahunas!  I suspect that if you enjoyed her company as much as you enjoy the other lady’s company, you wouldn’t mind picking her up one bit.  We‘re all entitled to spend time with whomever we choose.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Oct 6, 2012
        • At Daphne, love spending time with her, but I don’t love it enough to drive 45 minutes each time to pick her up then take her back, some people are just sorry and lazy and expect pity because of their own laziness. I refuse to be used.



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