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  • Life after Divorce - Year 2

    4 posts, 3 voices, 1377 views, started Oct 5, 2008

    Posted on Sunday, October 5, 2008 by Sewingchic

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    • Amethyst
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      I would like other survivors of divorce’s perspective on this.  When I divorced a year ago, a friend of mine told me she found the second year to be more difficult than the first.  It has now been a year since my divorce, and I’m begninning to understand what she meant.

      My divorce was quite sudden, and there were so many decisions I had to make immediately.  First and foremost was finding a place to live, purchasing a home, and moving in.  I put all of my energy into surviving the year and trying to be as positive as I possibly could.  I allowed myself to grieve, saw a wonderful therapist, and took care of myself.  After so much drama, my goal was to have a year of healing and an undramatic life.

      For the first time in the past year, I miss living near family (moving is not an option due to work), and find myself being lonely at home.  I have remained very active at church and in the community, but it doesn’t replace coming home to family and a companion.  

      There is so much written about going through a divorce, but nothing about year 2.  How have others dealt with this?

      Thanks.
      Carolyn



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          Sewingchic wrote Oct 7, 2008
        • Thanks, Lisa.  That is helpful.  I began thinking about my interests during my “busyolic” stage.  In trying to remain positive, I looked toward the future.  Unfortunately, there is still a great deal of pain there that I still need to deal with.

          29 years is a long time to be with someone, and I’m sure it’s going to take more time to heal.  As I try to heal from the pain, I am focusing on projects at work, and a couple of ministries at church that I have helped to start.  I am also continuing to try to define who I am as a single person.  That one is very challenging.  I married when I was only 19, so I’ve really never been a single adult before.



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