Lonely Days

Lonely Days

John 15:15 I’m no longer calling you servants because servants don’t understand
what
their master is thinking and planning. No, I’ve named you friends because I’ve
let you in
on everything I’ve heard from the Father. -The Message

Lonely days are no fun. We all have them. Whether married, single, or
divorced, you will have some lonely days. But it seems that some people have
more lonely days than others. It seems that those with higher callings on
their lives are usually people that struggle with loneliness. It’s almost
like God sets you apart or calls you out of unfruitful past friendships and
relationships, and then keeps you alone to himself for a short period to
work things out of you. Many of us were so dependent on a man or woman in
our lives that we totally ignored God and couldn’t connect with him like we
needed to for our callings sake. So what did God do? Take everyone away from
us for a season, so we can be with him alone. But where does the loneliness come
from?  

Loneliness usually comes when you have developed a need for others. I know many
will
agree with this, because when you have spent your life living for others,
depending on people to validate you, chasing friends and friendships, always
needing people around to make you feel wanted or needed, then when you are
suddenly alone, you feel very lonely. But if you suffer with any of these
issues, loneliness is what you need! Not forever, but at least for a season.
You see, Jesus wants to be that friend you are searching for. Don’t you know
that God put a need for himself in your life? Your purpose lies in him, so
you must know him to know YOU! Your reason for being lies in him, so you
must know him to know why you are you! And when you spend your life chasing
friends or using people to find yourself, all you end up doing is having a
bunch of one sided relationships, or failed relationships because you are
searching for answers in the wrong places. And loneliness becomes a plague
to you even though being alone can be an asset. Jesus said in the Word that he
is your friend and he will not leave you comfortless. Read John chapter 14 and
15 and you
will see that his concern is you. He wants you to be his friend and find
yourself in him! So the next time you are feeling lonely or all alone,
rejoice because he is working the false friendships and relationships out
of you and working on his relationship with you.  

Suggested Reading - John 14, 15, 16