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  • Lovers to friends

    5 posts, 5 voices, 653 views, started Jun 6, 2008

    Posted on Friday, June 6, 2008 by VICKY CORYEA

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    • Aquamarine
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      Is that really a possible scenario? If you have found yourself in a relationship as lovers with someone and then it breaks down, and you entertain the idea of staying friends, do you think it is possible? Anyone have a comment?



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          Debra Roby wrote Jun 8, 2008
        • Wow, that is a tough question.  In my head, I cannot imagine being friendly with a man with whom I’d been intimate, and being able to treat him just like one of the guys. Going back to just talking baseball and our lives?  I’d like to think I could, but I’m just not sure.  

          Which is probably why I over think the casual romantic dalliances when offered. Right now, I usually find myself thinking: I value this friendship too much to turn it into an affair where I might end up losing the friendship. Even if the love affair is exactly what I want and need.

          Sorry, I seem to have provided you with more questions than answers.



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          Marcja Smith wrote Sep 18, 2008
        • I was in love with someone for years, we were bestfriends first, but took that next step knowning what the risk would be. It was hard after we went back and forth to be just friends.  I’ve since moved across the country and know that we still both care for eachother.  We just can’t live together.  I think he will always be special to me but I think the only way we can be just friends is with the miles between us.



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 18, 2008
        • I’ve never been able to maintain a friendship with an ex. But, I’ve generally been with men with strong personalities and who are possessive. I’ve always been the one to break it off. When I’ve attempted to stay just friends, they’ve still tried to ignite the relationship.

          I’ve been married for 4 1/2 years and I am certain he would have a major problem if I were still friends with an ex.



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          Becca wrote Sep 18, 2008
        • I think it depends on the whole situation. I was involved with someone and we still talk occasionally.  We had a very strong bond and I couldn’t imagine not having him in my life.  Perhaps it is an exception to the rules.



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