Don't have an account? To participate in discussions consider signing up or signing in
facebook connect
Sign-up, its free! Close [x]

Benefits

  • okay Create lasting relationships with other like minded women.
  • okay Blogging, let your voice be heard!
  • okay Interact with other women through blogs,questions and groups.
  • okay Photo Album, upload your most recent vacation pictures.
  • okay Contests, Free weekly prize drawing.
  • okay Weekly Newsletter.

  • Making the decision...

    15 posts, 15 voices, 893 views, started May 11, 2009

    Posted on Monday, May 11, 2009 by Ljdevries

    •  



    • Amethyst
      Offline

      If you weren't one of those little girls who grew up playing with dolls and "just knowing" that one day you'd be a mommy, how did you deal with the idea - later in life, no less - creeping into your head that maybe you DID  want to be a mom after all? What made you decide that it was the right thing to do - or is it a case of, "if you have to ask so many questions, you must not be ready."? happy



      •  


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          UK Girl wrote May 11, 2009
        • I never made the decision my baby was a very happy accident. Up till that point it had never entered my head ot have a baby ..... she came along and I adore her



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Vikki Hall wrote May 11, 2009
        • I never made a decision to actively pursue baby making. Only pursue the practice of it and oops there it was. No thought just happened.

          When I did plan my 2nd child tho I still had those questions. They are always there.
          But I think the one question that should be asked and never was to me anyways is this.

          Can you put aside everything and anything without hesitation for this little life?



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Denise Richardson wrote May 11, 2009
        • When my 1st hubby and I married at 20 I told him if he wanted a family that we needed to get busy because after age 25 I wasn’t having any more babies, sooooooooo my first came at age 21 and my last came at age 24 and there it is done lol. And I never wanted boys so God gave me my hearts desires.



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Fraz764 wrote May 11, 2009
        • We didn’t plan, we just did!! I don’t think that I decided that I wanted to be a mother until my oldest was about 1. To be perfectly honest, I hated the baby stage with her I was 21/22 when she was a baby and it got on my nerves. Once she started walking and was potty trained I was cool, I was a little more relaxed with my second one.



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Termite wrote May 11, 2009
        • With both my pregnancies we had just decided that if it happens it happens. And WHALLA...it happened quick!! I am very fortunate!
          I always say he could just shake it at me and I would get pregnant!! LOL



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Jenz ~ wrote May 11, 2009
        • Not planned, but love them to pieces. estatic I have 3 miracles. estatic



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Tuliplady wrote May 11, 2009
        • The first one just happened.  Big oops!  After I had one, I figured we might as well have another.  Then there was one I really, really wanted, and then when my marriage was on the rocks, oops, here comes another!  

          I started out as someone who never intended to have kids, but I sure wouldn’t trade them for anything.



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Jana Toohey wrote May 11, 2009
        • They say...
          Get a plant. If it lives a year then get a pet. If it’s still alive after a year, you might consider having a baby.

          I think it’s definately ok not to have kids, but I would hate to have missed the grandparent thing... it’s the cherry.



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Ljdevries wrote May 11, 2009
        • The plant thing is a hoot... I’ve had lots of plants and most of them survive without any issues...I even have cats. The thing is, my sweetheart has a(n almost 3-year old) daughter with whom I am completely smitten, which I think has caused a good deal of this thought process. I think I never thought I’d be good at it, or wouldn’t like it, but that turns out not to be the case. I just feel strange figuring it out this late in the game. I always thought I wanted to be the one who had the career and the money, but somehow that doesn’t seem to be so fulfilling any more. I kind of like making play-doh and having tea parties.



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Raquel2526 wrote May 16, 2009
        • I had always wanted to be a mom.  I waited to have them, too, having the 1st at 34 and the 2nd at 37.  I waited in order to take care of me:  I went to school, had a career, got married, bought my house, all of that stuff.  When the babies came along I got the othe life experiences over with and out of my system.  And, I love being a mom sooooooo much that we are trying for a third at 41.

          I really don’t think one is ever completely ready to have a baby - they are expensive, time consuming, tiring also.  This is probably the question you can ask yourself : if you are willing to let things go, like hair, nails, trips, personal time, mess, it all works itself out.  And the sacrifices are only temporary.  They grow so fast, in the twinkling of an eye, and, before you know it, your life as you knew it slowly creeps back, only now you get to share it with your kids!  happy

          Hope this helps!  Good luck in your decision, whatever it may be.



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Mztracy wrote May 16, 2009
        • my bff at 40 finally decided she wanted a baby.
          They went for it and had twins!!  

          For her it was the best decision she has ever made!



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Mz. Queen wrote May 16, 2009
        • I knew at an early age that I wanted to me just like my role model, my Mom.  I got married at 18yoa. We didn’t use birth control, the children just came at healthy, timely intervals. 25, 21 and 19.

             The choice is up to you, no matter what anybody says.



                Report  Reply


        • 0 votes vote up vote up

          Doreen XoXo wrote May 16, 2009
        • Our first baby was a girl.  I planned it, husband had no idea!!  He nearly fainted when the doctor called him in the exam room and said “congratulations....youre having a baby“.  The look on his face was priceless...lol  I was gloating with that “told ya so” face as like I said, I knew all along I was pregnant.  We tried for a second and I miscarried very early (I blame it partly on the stress of my baby girl getting burned badly,  Thank God no scarring).  We tried shortly after that and Wham.....prego again.  We had the boy my entire family was yearning for.  We are all girls and we all had girls.  My son was the first!!
          xoxo



                Report  Reply



  • Motherhood Later...Than Sooner: for First Time 40+ Moms View Group »

    For those who first became a parent at age 40 something.....and have young children.