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  • MENOPAUSE

    30 posts, 20 voices, 1925 views, started Nov 17, 2008

    Posted on Monday, November 17, 2008 by Michele66

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    • Amethyst
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      How do we know when we are going through it. I am 42, and I had a hysterectomy in 98. In 2002 I had 1 ovary taken out, so I am left with one. But for the past 4 month I have been so depressed. And the hot flashes are so bad. It is so embarrassing. Every one around me is cold and I am dying because I am so hot. Is this just the beginning for me? What else should I expect to get?
      Help me please



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 20, 2008
        • I know some of us have had a test to determine hormone levels. I didn’t. As I look back over the past 2 years I know I was going through something. I walked around in a fog. I couldn’t concentrate. I was hot all of the time. I would be in conversations with people and felt like I was just giving them a blank stare. I couldn’t contribute to the conversation. I cried all the time. I was depressed. I got fat. I would be in a room full of people at a charity function, which we have to do all the time, and I suddenly had an overwhelming feeling like I needed to leave right then. I started refusing to go to some of the events. I began to withdraw. I was so uncomfortable in my own skin. I felt foreign.

          During certain times of year my husband and I do some very routine things and go to regular events. I didn’t realize how bad I was until I see myself so much better at the same events right now. I think the fog is beginning to clear. I don’t feel like I’m just going through the motions at the moment.

          This is not to say that it won’t all start up again. I’m only 47 and I don’t think I’m near done with this life change. I hope I’m on the flip side of it.  

          I know there is no cookie cutter menopause. Seems like so many of us have our symptoms differently and at different times. It might be worth getting your hormones tested. The down side to that is with our hormones all over the map, we don’t know if the read will be very accurate when the test is taken.



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          Raysa Santana wrote Nov 20, 2008
        • I started having night sweats when I was 37.  I am now 46.  As the years went by more symptons started adding themselves to the list. I now suffer from the night sweats, weight gain, memory loss, depression, crankiness, vaginal dryness, etc, etc, etc., and I still get my period.  I can’t wait until all this misery is over.  I wish we had a button that we can just switch to off once we were done having kids.



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 22, 2008
        • Well I was on the countdown, 3 months without a period. I was hoping I was approaching the down side of this change in life. Yesterday I had a splitting headache, same thing this morning, I cried a lot yesterday, I cried this morning. I just wasn’t feeling “right.”

          And then I started my period.

          And then I read some of the responses to a post I did in the “pay it forward” blog. Now I’m sobbing like nobody’s business.

          Ain’t menopause grand?



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          Robinesque wrote Nov 22, 2008
        • Still waiting.



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          Michele66 wrote Nov 25, 2008
        • I live in Half Moon Bay, and it’s been warm here. I went to Seattle for 5 days and loved it. It was COLD there. I really hate this. But I feel the worst is yet to come

          I have a hysterectomy in 98, and now I only have 1 ovary.I have been waiting for it to start. I guess my wait is now over.

          Thank you all for your input



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          Lilly wrote Dec 3, 2008
        • Everyone is different but it does seem like a roller coaster!



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          Anzelyka McBride wrote Dec 9, 2008
        • I like your comment Chinadoll - inner child, ha!  I just wonder how long do these hot flashes last?  I had them for a while a year ago, and I thought this is it - but then, my periods came back!  Irregular, yes, but, at least, they liberated me from hot flashes!  Now, a year later, my inner child is back again playing - for the last several months frown ! Periods are on the vacation... I thought this phase comes, you go through it, and you are done...I guess, not that simple...
          So, what does everyone use to soothe them away?  (Short of   hormonal therapy, that is.)



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          Sweetnsassy wrote Dec 9, 2008
        • I’m 46 and feel like I’m in the beginning of it—-
          Wooo-hoo!  I usually don’t have night sweats unless I’m having my period - which is very light.  Once I start on my birth control pills again they subside after a few days.  I definately have the mood swings and those terrible feelings of being “disconnected” when in a crowd.  I think Chocolatier described those feelings best.  Sometimes I feel like an alien in my own body.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Dec 15, 2008
        • I have been tested and the good ol Dr says no but whats up with having shorter times between periods?



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          Beverly Mahone wrote Dec 15, 2008
        • I actually wrote a book about the subject called, “Whatever! A Baby Boomer’s Journey Into Middle Age”  It’s a straight up, humorous look at menopause and some of our other “aging” issues.

          It’s available on Amazon or you can get one from my website:  [Link Removed] I even introduce you to the Seven Dwarfs:

          Itchy, Bitchy, Sweathy, Bloated, etc.....


          Babyboomerbev, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Dec 15, 2008
        • LOL!!!!! That is great. I’m going to check it out now.



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          Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 15, 2008
        • Hmmh, I am still trying to figure out, if I have started, been through it or waiting for it to begin...



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          Scorpion13 wrote Dec 15, 2008
        • Who the hell knows? I think I’ve been in peri for ten years...night sweats, hot flashes when I drink wine (no fair!) bad pms moods, and the worst- horrid depression. My periods are still monthly, but vary between 25 and 28 days. Stretching out to 6-7 days, too. When will it all end? And will I feel better then? I’d be a total mess without Lexapro.



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          Mgwilson wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • I agree with Scorpion - don’t think anyone knows for sure!  I’m 46 and had difficulty in trying to get pregnant 15 years ago (never did) so I went off the pill and that actually seemed to help symptoms of hot flashes and bad moods ... go figure.  Of course that completely screwed up periods—I don’t have them but a little spotting and not even regularly.  I’m sure my OB will yell at me at my annual exam next month, but I actually feel better now then I did on hormones.  What’s up with that?



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          Rachael Lohr wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • Been flirting with peri for a long time.  Hysterectomy more than 20 years ago but they kept one ovary intact (no drugs!).  FSH is way low, but doc won’t declare me officially in menopause - want to invite her over for the hot flashes ... happy

          GO SEE MENOPAUSE THE MUSICAL!!!  It’s hysterical.  Took my mom and we cried from laughing so hard.  

          Gotta go .....  happy



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          Jenni0811 wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • 50 and over it......19 months period free and should quit counting. The “official” call is 12 months without a period.



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          Teresa Lee wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • I was tested by my GYN. I kicked into peri-menopause at 38. I’m 44 now and on a very low dosage hormone since March of last year. She told me it was to “get me over the hump” because I had started having night sweats for the first time. I hadn’t had a period in 6 months but experience a little spotting last week. It’s just crazy. Even when I don’t have a cycle, I still feel like I’m pms‘ing or about to start and then nothing happens. What I love is grasping for words and not being able to find them, not being able to concentrate, and being so emotional about everything. Before the hormone, I was angry and evil acting. LOL



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          Doreen XoXo wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • Ive been flashing since Im 40....thats 9 freakin years.  My sister is done, caput....over it....shes 52.  When, I ask, am I going to be done.  She started late 40’s and is done.  I started at 40 and am still going through it.  I hate the bloat, weight gain, crankiness, irritability, swollen legs and ankles, memory loss and so far only one night sweat.  It was so bad that I remember I only had one.  I cant wait till I stop bleeding.  I swear I think Im bleeding to death every month.  Bleed through super duper tampons and pads.  I get my period every month like clockwork.  Im praying it all ends soon.... Ive had enough!!!!!



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          Rachael Lohr wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • My sympathies, Doreen!  I had a hysterectomy more than 20 year ago so even though they left one ovary and I’m only now going through hormonal menopause, I can sympathize with the bleeding thing.  Hang in there!



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          Doreen XoXo wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • It really sux......I cant wait for it to end.  It’s worse now than it’s ever been in my life.



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          Rachael Lohr wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • Is it “normal” bleeding that’s just a lot more or are you getting clots as well?  You might want to go see a doctor, if so!

          Some of the rest of what you have going on is normal for our age regardless of menopause!   ohhhh



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          Doreen XoXo wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • Well...I see a few more clots.....I bleed so heavy for three days and then its over.  Before perimenopause....I would bleed for 7 days but not nearly as heavy.  My periods are coming quicker, are heavier and lasting not as long. I guess you could call it good ole peri



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          Doreen XoXo wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • Some months are worse than others.  I literally bleed through tampons, pads, panties and onto my jeans.  It is scary when that happens.



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          Teresa Lee wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • Doreen, my best friend was going through that and they did a hysterectomy on her. You might want to go to the doctor and be checked.



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          Doreen XoXo wrote Dec 17, 2008
        • Ya know youre not the first person to tell me that.  I guess Im just putting off the inevitable.  My mom went through it so bad that she was running on 1/3 of her normal blood supply.  She ended up in the hospital needing blood transfusions along with a hysterectomy.  Im really hoping im not following too closely in her footsteps.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Dec 18, 2008
        • Hello Ladies,
          I began going through perimenopause at around the age of 35 and I tell you it is something to be reckoned with. I have never been through anything more agonizing than these damn hot flashes, night sweats and cold chills seeming through my bones. My hubby thinks I’m crazy one minute I’m hot then cold he doesn’t know whether to keep the heat on or off. I have tried hormone therapy only to gain no relief from it just weight gain :( I told my doctor I didn’t want to try anything else I just try to deal with it, does anyone else experience the feeling of something crawling on them as though your skin is crawling? I can also deal with the mood swings I try to isolate myself when going though those because I don’t want to offend anyone.



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          Lilly wrote Dec 19, 2008
        • Hi Neicy,

          I have expierenced the crawling leg sensation and my family thought I was really going crazy.I started changing the sheets in every room and vacuuming everyday as I was convinced we had bed bugs, lice or something. I collected any little speck that I thought could be causing the problem and called the doctors etc. Long story short we went to the beach for vacation and my family kept telling me that no one else was experiencing the crawlers. Things did get better and I did read that this is a symptom that some women expierence when hormones get sporadic.  

          For others of you out there a word about perimenopause pregnancy! I started having hot flashes/night sweats/mood swimgs in my late thirties when I was on BCP but not having periods. I went to the doc and did the blood work. My estrogen level was very low but FSH was okay. The doctor put me on Estrogen Patches to wear non-stop.

          Well, after about six-nine months feeling very blotted and felt like I needed to have a period. I stopped wearing them as I knew I was going back to the doctor and thinking things might be over. I went to the doc everything seemed to be okay and thought it was over but in less than a week I got the biggest surprise of my life.Having been careful about contraception but also thinking my body had made the change I found out I was pregnant.I delivered our third child at age 42. My children have a 15 year gap and on occasion I am asked if I am helping out with my grand daughter.(Oldest daughter is 20yrs and youngest is 4yrs.)
          She is a blessing but I still can not believe that we have basically started over with child rearing.

          Good news, I have gone back to work part time and work for a company that was looking to hire some one who has expierenced hot flashes/night sweats www.menopausebedding.com(dermatherapy).I do have alot of good articles relating to menopasue for future reading. Another blessing as I can help pay for college and pre-school expenses. I also get to share information about my expierences and hear about everyone else.

          As for as my docs advice about my menopause and birth control issues, I will stay on BCP until 52(average age of menopause) and come off at that time,but you can bet my husband will be fixed before that time ever happens!  

          Good luck to all of the ladies out there and hope the holiday season brings peace and love to all!



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