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    3 posts, 3 voices, 2678 views, started Jun 17, 2008

    Posted on Tuesday, June 17, 2008 by Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A.


    • Amethyst

      The guilt factor is like the Ever-Ready Bunny.  It just keeps going and going and going.

      I innocently pick up the morning newspaper, with a nice hot cup of coffee in hand (I should probably feel bad about that).  And, lo and behold, the heading:  MOTHER NATURE AND DIVORCE.  Okay, no need to jump to any conclusions.  

      However, as I read on, the pit in my stomach takes root and I can feel a guilt tree growing.  I read the following:

      “A married household actually uses resources more efficiently than a divorced household,” said Jianguo Liu, an ecologist at Michigan State University whose analysis of the environmental impact of divorce appears in this week’s online edition of Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

      Well, goodie goodie for them, those environmental politically correct first married couples.  Not only am I divorced, I’m remarried which means I’m really screwing up the planet.  My carbon imprint is HUGE:  Kids back and forth between two different homes on both sides.  Think of the gas, the electricity, the garbage...there’s lots and lots of garbage...and all the paper used in therapy bills.

      I’m not green—not even close to it and I’m red with shame.

      I read on:

      “People have been talking about how to protect the environment and combat climate change, but divorce is an overlooked factor that needs to be considered,” Liu said.

      Who is this Liu person?  He must have been raised Catholic.

      Vanity Fair comes out with a “green” issue once a year that focuses on global warming.  I bought this standout magazine before I learned that I was and will always be a complete failure at saving the planet.

      It didn’t hurt that Leonardo DiCaprio was on the cover.  I digress.  The magazine was chock full of information, mostly scary and some helpful.  Great tips were given on how to be more environmentally aware.

      So, what do I do now?  Should my husband and I call our ex-spouses and tell them a terrible mistake was made, and for the sake of our smoldering earth, we need to get back together?

      And what should we do with the new spouses?  And, how will we explain this to the kids?

      Maybe a commune is the answer—combine all the households for the sake of efficiency and conservation.

      It’s a brilliant idea.  We’d all kill each other before the week was out.  And think of how much that will save the planet!  We’ll just have to tell our relatives that nothing but a “green cremation” will do.


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          Sue Brown, Realtor wrote Sep 23, 2010
        • I’ve been married twice and divorced twice and am engaged but gunshy so I have no date set, well honestly we had a date set, but decided to postpone that and just see how the rest of this year goes.  I’m in Real Estate, I’ve been a full-time Realtor and part-time Mom for the past 6 yrs.  Needless to say, my 22 yr old daughter has been with the same bf for 3 yrs, with no real talk of marriage and my 17 and 14 yr old boys have been living with their Father since I started to lose my home to foreclosure back around Christmas 2007.  I read your post and thought WOW, I must really suck at being Green and as a Realtor we have our own ‘license’ or designation we could pursue to prove we are working toward educating our clients on being green too, but sadly I have not even attempted to acheive that designation.  I really just wanted to thank you.  I feel the same as you if not worse about all the ‘garbage’ that goes with marriage and moreso divorce, but for some whacky reason, I still believe in the institution so as to set a good example for my children, I am on the road to what I say now is my LAST husband, my last marriage because I’ll be damned if after 2 failed marriages I didn’t know how to make this one work by now :)~

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          Anne E wrote Sep 23, 2010
        • My daughter never sees her dad so I guess I’m saving the planet somewhat.  Very funny essay! Third time’s a charm Sue.

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