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  • My 18

    6 posts, 6 voices, 363 views, started Dec 18, 2012

    Posted on Tuesday, December 18, 2012 by Mich36

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    • Amethyst
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      Hello, I am a working mother of a stepdaughter, niece & 4 girls of my own and a wife. Hubby and I are in the Sales industry so sometimes long working hours. My eldest turned 18 in September and a senior in high school. Good grades, volunteers once a week, no sports, a job(2 days a week) and helps me pick 4 of my girls from school while I am at work. She has a BF which I dont care of and really not many friends(she is picky) or maybe I am. Who knows:( At home I am the disciplinary and all my girls have chores. But I have been having a difficult time with my eldest helping me around the house. I do compensate her for helping me pick her sisters up by paying for car insurance, phone, gas and any minor repairs. Oh my father in law also helps us 3 days a week with the girls too. I am having a very difficult time connecting with her and making her understand what her duties are in our home. I am in so much pain because I LOVE her and she does not seem to see how much we have to sacrifice in order for her to have what she has. There is no motivation in her part with anything I have to constantly have to push her with everything(college applications, remind her o f volunteer work, etc). She is constantly watching movies on her Ipad and on her phone with her BF(GRR)
      Could someone tell me what am I doing wrong. Reaching a breaking point with her :(



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          Marya1961 wrote Dec 18, 2012
        • It is not your fault, you sound like a great mom with a typical teen.  The younger generation has a different outlook on everything, their rationale and what they deem to be important is very different from when we were young, and sometimes they need a wake-up call in order to pitch in and be responsible.  You could set some ground rules and if she does not abide, then certain things might have to be taken away for a bit, this is just an idea.

          Raising a teen is tough!



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 18, 2012
        • I agree with Mary. Sounds like you‘re a great mom and, up to now, she’s been great, too. I’m wondering if the boy friend has something to do with her behavior. It seems like the timing may coincide with that relationship starting?



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          Tuliplady wrote Dec 18, 2012
        • Mostly it is just the age.  I’m on my 4th 18 yr old and they all have to go thru that stage.  Most of them outgrow it.  But if she’s not holding up her end of the deal, quit paying for her phone etc.  She’s 18, let her deal with the consequences of her actions.

          Tulip



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          Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 19, 2012
        • I agree that age has alot to do with it. My daughter always went against the grain. My son was then and is still very respectful, courteous and kind. My daughter on the other hand just doesn’t seem to get it. Like your daughter, she’s a great kid and on the right track but just doesn’t get that this is her home and she must pull her weight. It’s always a fight. I try so hard to help her understand that this is her home and be proud of it.

          estatic*Lcm*
          heartheartheartheart



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          Mich36 wrote Dec 20, 2012
        • Thank you! Ladies, your post has really helped. I grew up in different times and then we just did what we were told. No if’s and buts” This generation really sucks!



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