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  • My Amber, my heart.....

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    11 posts, 9 voices, 823 views, started Jul 12, 2009

    Posted on Sunday, July 12, 2009

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      Pearl
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      My daughter’s father passed away today. They just found each other 2 years ago. He googled her and found her on myspace. He had Crohns disease. He had been in and out of the hospital for awhile. And he was only 43 years old. We split up when she was 2 years old. At that time her father thought it would be best if he wasn’t in her life. She is now 22 years old... When they finally met it was like they’ve always known each other. Both of their lives finally felt complete... They talked to each other every day... My daughter was so happy. She finally got her Daddy back in her life and everything was how it should be... Until today....frown I almost feel like he knew he had a short time left in this world....and I think it was one of the reason’s why he looked for her... Her father was one of nicest people I’ve ever known... How do I help Amber go through this???? She is in so much pain.... She’s flying out tonight to be with her sisters and step mom. They really need her and she needs them.. Please pray for my daughter and the family...

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          Janet Wooley wrote Jul 12, 2009
        • This is a hard situation, it is a part of life. All you can do is be there for her listen to her, hold her and let her just get it all out. I will pray and agree w/you that the Lord gives her peace in the midst of the storm and out of this your daughter will learn a valuable lesson that she will keep for the rest of her life, I’m thinking maybe she will see how precious life really is and drawn closer to her family she has now.I wish I could say do this and the pain will be lessened but I know of nothing only being there for her. And just letting her get out all her feelings. You might want to get some reading material on greiving it is a process and you will kinda know what to expect and how to help her thru this. I am so sorry she has to go thru this. I know you must feel the loss he was the father of your child, you can cry too honey.Lord give Virginia and her daughter peace the peace that passes all understanding.Draw them close to you and let them feel your love & mercy. Thank you Father in Jesus name Amen.



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          Mzd3 wrote Jul 12, 2009
        • Im so sorry for your loss and your daughters loss. My daughter lost her 44 yr old daddy , just 2 yrs ago. It was very tough. She kept herself very busy at first, and cried alot, but in time, it did get easier. Just be there for her and make sure she knows how much he loved her and he will be with her in spirit. He will watch over her from up above.



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          Deb Darby wrote Jul 12, 2009
        • I have a similar story with a step-daughter. Someday, your daughter will realize that she was blessed to have the few memories she does of her father. For now, it’ll just be one foot in front of the other for a while. I agree with Janet and pray that your daughter might find a local grief support group. She may need to really do some emotional work about her entire life at some point, for which a Christian counselor can be very helpful. May the Lord bless you and her and keep you both.



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          Lazylola wrote Jul 12, 2009
        • I’m sorry to hear this, how sad for her and you as well. I’m glad to hear that he reached out and found her and they at least were able to reconnect and make some memories before he passed. I still miss my daddy but it gets easier. Be there for her as she will need your love and support.



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          Angela 'Cocco' Williams wrote Jul 14, 2009
        • “To be absent from the body is to be present with the LORD” Amen. Dying is a part of Living and it is a necessary part of our Destiny.  We must remember that we are in this world but not of this world and God has just called him back to his side. The love you guys shared is with you forever. It is a part of you and her. It is alive inside you through your memories and thoughts.  Embrace it and use that love as fuel to go on.  Love is HUGE. “HE who has LOVE, has GOD” I love you sis. be encouraged.



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          Tina Sickinger wrote Jul 14, 2009
        • This same thing happened to me just a few short years ago. I didn’t meet my Father until I was 45 years old. When I did, he was old and feeble..and alone. We became very close very quickly and like your daughter, it was as if we had known one another all our lives. I loved him dearly and lost him just 3 years after our finding each other.
          I can speak from experience when I say that even though the loss is tremendous, she will move on. Like the old saying goes...“It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all“. There is SOOOO much truth in that.
          While she is grieving now, she will look back and be thankful that she got to know him and had the time they shared.
          I must commend you for your kind words about her Father, too. Not many ex’s would speak so nicely. She is lucky to have you to be there and support her and that is what she needs right now. I was not so fortunate as my family was completely against my relationship that I had with mine. I was adopted and they felt the past should have been left in the past. Little did they know, he was the missing part that made me whole. Your daughter may just be feeling the same way.
          I will say a prayer for her and his family and for her safe return.
          Thank you so much for sharing this story. It truly touched my heart.



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          Mzd3 wrote Jul 14, 2009
        • Cocco What you said , was perfect :)



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