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  • My daughter wants to live with her grandparents!

    1 posts, 1 voices, 1017 views, started Feb 23, 2009

    Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009

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      Amethyst
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      Ok, kind of a long story, please bare with me as I REALLY NEED ADVISE!

      In summer 2007, I sent my twin daughters to go and live with my parents.  I am bipolar and I got really sick, however, I could not get my doctor to hospitalize me, so I spent 2 months in bed after I sent the girls to live w/ my parents.  I gave my parents a temporary guardianship paper signed by me that gave them the right to make school and medical decisions for the girls.

      My parents do not understand my illness and have since stopped talking to me except for the often nasty emails that I get from my step-father regarding communication about the children.  However, he always has to be unpleasent.  I have tried to tell them that we all need to be adults for the sake of the children and that them being negative and not talking to me is not in the best interest of the children.  This fell on deaf ears.

      So, I started to get better and started seeing my girls again, and now I have them about 50% of the time.  I allowed them to stay with my parents this school year so that they could graduate with the same kids that they have been with since kindergarden.  They are suppose to come back to me full time in May.

      Here is the problem:  my daughter told me yesterday(while she was sobbing) that she doesn’t want to leave my parents house to come and live with me.   She wants things to stay the way that they are now and continue to live with my parents.  I don’t understand???  We get along well, we are close and we love eachother........why does she want to do this?  Does this make me a bad mother?  Should I have not let them live with my parents?  Does she not love me?  These are all the thoughts that are going through my head as my heart is breaking.

      I love her so much and I don't know what to do.  I want her to be happy.  So, do I sacrifice my heart to let her live w/ them? Or do I force her to come and live with me? What would you do if you were in my shoes.  I feel so lost, so numb.........please help me.



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