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  • My son enlists today!

    19 posts, 15 voices, 879 views, started Oct 31, 2008

    Posted on Friday, October 31, 2008 by Feathermaye

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    • Carnelian
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      A year ago this December 17th, I allowed my 17 year old son to withdraw from high school with the intention of getting his GED and enlisting in the Army. (There’s a long story behind why this was the best decision for us at the time.)

      As so often happens, life jumped in and interfered in a big way. 2 months after I withdrew him from school, his father (my ex-husband) was killed in a car accident. Jonathan (my son) was thrown so far off-track that I worried he’d never get back to his goals. He has a history of being off-track, so this was a big deal on so many levels.

      He did stray from the path he chose, but only temporarily. Although he lost his father and his momentum, by July he had discovered the Job Corps program, applied and was accepted. He’s been enrolled and living there since the first week of August. He also turned 18 just a couple of weeks ago.

      He’s now achieved his GED and has aced his ASVABs (He’s taken 3 overall... 1st he bombed, terribly; 2nd he aced, and they didn’t trust that he’d done so honorably, so they gave him a third; he did even better on that one!!) and will be signing the final paperwork today.

      He’s anticipating a departure date sometime in February, since that’s when he’ll have completed the current phase of his career training in the Job Corps. He’s been learning the Security trade, and is toying with the idea of pursuing MP in the Army, so that he can come out and have strong Law Enforcement background.  

      I just may have a police officer son in my future.  

      For now, though, I’m coming to terms with being an Army mom. I discovered this group by accident yesterday, and am so glad I did. Assuming all goes well with his physical today, then I NEED to get used to this idea. It’s thrilling and terrifying, all at the same time. However, that’s how life with Jonathan has been, so I don’t know why I’d expect any less.



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          Inakika wrote Oct 31, 2008
        • Feather,
          I remember when my sons went off to Navy Boot Camp. It was a frightening experience for me, but you could not help but notice how proud each boy was.
          I wish all the best for you and your family, we are proud of you and your son.



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          Yana Berlin wrote Oct 31, 2008
        • Thrilling, terrifying, honorable, our kids sure do know how to keep us in check.

          Sending you hugs.



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          Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 31, 2008
        • A mothers heart will always feel the pain.  Feather, your in my prayers and your sons safety.



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          Cindylouwho1966 wrote Oct 31, 2008
        • It’s very cool how this has come full circle. After all the times you had to deal with the cops on his behalf, now he may join them. Maybe he’ll be the one helping another little boy like himself-but with much more compassion.



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          Feathermaye wrote Oct 31, 2008
        • Thank you ladies!!! After our mastermind excitement last night, and having this on my mind, I’m sleepy and emotional today. Big surprise? NOT!

          I love how we all come together on what’s important, even when we haven’t seen eye-to-eye on all the little things.

          No wonder we‘re FABULOUS!! :)

          Thanks for your support and prayers and well-wishes. I appreciate you!



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          Cindylouwho1966 wrote Oct 31, 2008
        • I think it’s important to note that, despite which side of the war we‘re on, we ALL support the kids and adults who are over there.



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          Feathermaye wrote Oct 31, 2008
        • That’s absolutely right, Lu. Thanks for that.



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          Janis Vinci wrote Nov 3, 2008
        • Feather I too have a son who will be leaving on Januaury 6th for his 9 weeks of boot camp for the army. He will be stationed at Ft. Jackson, South Carolina. I understand how you are feeling. Just knowing that I will not be able to text him or call him every day or even two or three times a day makes me sad. His passion is cooking and is attending Daytona Beach State College for Culinary right now and has signed up for the food servce. Lets keep in touch so we have some one to help us through these next couple of months before they  both go. God Bless you



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 3, 2008
        • Heather, I’m so sorry your son lost his dad as he was making these life changing plans for his future. It’s a blessing he was able to take only a small diversion off track and then continue on in spite of everything.

          My nephew will be finished with his first tour in the Army this February. He was in South Korea. This kid was truly lost with no direction or ambition. Many of us, myself included, didn’t think he would make it past boot camp. He’s been coddled his whole life.

          Long story short, the army has been the most wonderful and growing experience of his life.

          The service is so different now. These kids e-mail their families and really stay in touch. It was great to have him share his life in the army with his family as I’m sure it will be with you and your son.

          God Bless you and your family
          Cynthia



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          Tracie08 wrote Nov 3, 2008
        • Feather,

          My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.  This is a wonderfully proud time for us parents and also becomes a frightening time for us Moms whose natural instinct is to protect our children.  When they become the property of the US Military - regardless of branch or duty, we no longer have control over protecting them.  This is something I had to come to terms with during my sons first deployment.  He is now serving his 2nd tour in Iraq.  I learned alot the first time around and will learn new lessons this time.  This is a roller coaster ride of emotions that come and go.  Learning how to control those emotions before they control you is the key to survival.  I am actually in the process of writing a book about this, sort of a Military Moms survival guide.  

          Best wishes for you and your son and keep us informed as to his progress

          Tracie



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          Feathermaye wrote Nov 3, 2008
        • You ladies are the reason this site keeps me coming back, day after day. I’ve been scarce this weekend as other stuff kept me occupied, but I’ve keeping up with the messages and can’t tell you how much I appreciate your prayers and well wishes.

          Jonathan doesn’t quite have a departure date yet, as his body fat percentage was 1% higher than permitted. They’ve postponed his final stage of recruitment until January to allow him to get this under control.

          When he called me he was very stressed and disappointed and initially took it out on me, but we have bridged that gap and are back on track. Again.

          Some people in my life may try to convince me that this is a sign that he shouldn’t be going; yet others will claim this extended period will be to allow him to prepare prepare himself better. All I can do is trust that whatever is meant to happen will happen, and prepare myself for as many outcomes as possible.

          And Jackie, your holla friend says hello right back. I was bragging him up over on the husband Q and A tonight. He’s blushing. I don’t blame him. ;)



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          Holdonloosely wrote Jan 23, 2009
        • Hi Feather! Can you please give an update on your son? Much appreciated! Thanks!



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          Dennie05 wrote Jan 23, 2009
        • Thinking about you both....



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          Feathermaye wrote Jan 23, 2009
        • I responded to this a few minutes ago, but I’m not seeing my post.

          Anyway, thank you very much for checking on Jonathan and his status. He’s still in the process of enlistment and has had a couple of surprises.

          I actually blogged about his adventures yesterday and the most recent hurdle to overcome.  

          I’ll keep everybody posted!


          Feathermaye, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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