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  • Need Some Advice

    11 posts, 8 voices, 1397 views, started Dec 4, 2011

    Posted on Sunday, December 4, 2011 by Joanne Woodard




    • I don’t know where to start so I apologize if I ramble alot but I’m going through a difficult time and I would appreciate some advice because I am at the point where I don’t know what to do and I feel like I am about to lose it.  The last couple of years I’ve had many stressful events happen in my life so maybe this is why I am feeling very overwhelmed and I really don’t have anyone to talk too, so I decided to write it out here.  I’ve had to deal with my own cancer back in 2008 and health wise I am doing good now, I had a friend commit suicide and had my heart broken and this summer my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s so it feels like its one thing after another and its really hard to deal with it all.

      I’m single and 49 yrs old and for the last 18 years I’ve been an adult care provider for an intellectually handicapped girl and I have loved caring for her but the last few months its gotten more difficult for me.  She is getting to be a more difficult case and although I have talked to the Educators involved nothing has been done to help me.  She needs more help physically and I am lifting on her etc and I just can’t do it anymore but no one seems to get that I am needing more help.  I’m cleaning up more after her , she is in diapers now at night and its just hard to continue especially with all the other things I have gone through so I was thinking maybe its time for a  career change.  

       I’m just not happy anymore doing this, I have no personal life and I am very isolated.  I’m in a very small town without many job opportunities and to be honest this is about all I know how to do.  I was a hairdresser before this but that wasn’t for me.  

      I guess I don’t know where to turn or what to do all I know is what I am doing is not working and I am feeling so overwhelmed the last month.  I have been thinking lately that maybe starting up something online might be a good option since I love doing crafts, crocheting and baking ....we actually dont have anything locally so that might be something where people can check online and it can be shipped locally.  Cookies cupcakes etc....its just a thought I had but maybe you ladies know of something that I haven’t thought about?   I really would love some advice on what I can do or where to turn.

      Thanks for any advice in advance I look forward to it.
      Joanne





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          Marie Hempsey wrote Dec 4, 2011
        • Hi Joann,
          I apologize but really cant think of anything right now in the way of advice. But you‘re doing the right thing talking about it here at least. I’ve only ever experienced support and compassion from this community. We are all here for one another. I think its great that you have cared for this girl all these years. Have you spoken up with any conviction about needing additional help? Sometimes i just assume people realize I need something...its a terrible habit i have and when i finally get aggravated and say something...its usually just that easy...ask and you shall receive. Just a thought. Keep coming on...eventually someone will have a good piece of advice for you.
          take care,
          Ree



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          Mary Clark wrote Dec 4, 2011
        • Joanne...

          I hate that you are going through so much.  But I am a firm believer that those things we go through make us stronger.  

          As far as finding a new career.  I think since you’ve been through so much trying to start a career with an online business would be too much.  I know I have two of them.  

          I say apply at different places even if you‘re not sure you’ll like it.  YOu might be surprise..but just put in somewhere.



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          Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 4, 2011
        • Joanne, I wish I had words of wisdom for you. If I come up with anything I’ll send you a message but for now, I’ll keep you in my prayers.heart



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          Vikki Hall wrote Dec 5, 2011
        • Hi Joanne,

          I am so sorry that you are going through all this in such a short time. And yes it can be overwhelming. The only thing you can do is take one step at a time. Baby steps..... which is were we all began!

          As for the old/new career you do need to speak up as Marie suggested. Speak loudly until you are heard. And while you are doing that do your research on a new job before jumping in. Can you really make enough income to support yourself on crafts, cupcakes, etc? Do your research!

          And in the meantime keep posting on here and you will get support!



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          Joanne Woodard wrote Dec 5, 2011
        • Thanks Ree I will speak up and talk to another Educator and be very clear with them.  You are right that might make a huge difference.  estatic

          Thanks for your post MC.  The reason I thought of starting something online is because with this care giving job I have a contract and as I recall must give a 90 day notice which gives them time to find a new family for her.  Thats not really convenient if I put my name in somewhere and get a call to start its not possible if she is still with me because she is live in.  Its a huge draw back......but I understand what you mean about timing with so much in my head its not a good time to make life changing decisions. happy

          Thanks Cynthia for your thoughts and prayers I really appreciate it.  heart

          Appreciate you ladies posting messages to me heart



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          Joanne Woodard wrote Dec 5, 2011
        • Morning Vikki

          I will do just that speak up.  I have to because things have to change they can’t continue on the way they are.

          I haven’t done any research yet I haven’t had time but it was just a thought because of the situation I live in it would be the easiest way to get into something new as far as career estatic

          Thanks for posing Vikki I appreciate your advice estatic



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          Mary Clark wrote Dec 5, 2011
        • Well Joanne...

          I will give you this suggestion.  I don’t sell it but I do know it’s a good company to work for and it might be beneficial to you.  I would look into selling AVON.  It is owned by Tupperware which also owns Beauticontrol Cosmetics (which I sell).  The reason I would go with this one is the start up is very very low....and you don’t have to keep an inventory and  basically the legwork of getting out your books on a consistent basis is the key.  Also you get a website with your affiliation and people can order through your site.  So you get the best of both worlds.  Beauticontrol Cosmetics is a great company to work for...and I’m sure MaryKay is too but you do have to invest some money and a lot of times you need to keep an inventory.  With Avon...if you are getting local orders..the worst thing you have to do is distribute books and deliver orders.  I saw a thing on GMA one time where a young woman who had lost her job...had no income coming in started selling AVON and worked hard at getting orders..and became #1 in SALES in the whole company.  Just remember when you‘re in online sales it’s something you have to work at every single day...and actually put in hours in each day.  The more you put into it the more you will reap.  You will have down days but if you keep at it and continue to work hard and stay positive you can succeed.
          My biggest tip in this is:  GET ORGANIZED AND BE CONSISTENT



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          Joanne Woodard wrote Dec 5, 2011
        • Thanks so much MC that is a great idea.  I hadn’t thought of Avon before and I have even bought some products many years ago.  I’ll keep that in mind.  Really appreciate your feedback about this, thank you estatic



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          Nita P wrote Jan 27, 2012
        • ring, knock, talk out, to social services of all kinds someone is sure to point u in the right direction for help.  this may sound strange coming from a non believer but the support and network a church community can offer is truly heartening.  i was also thinking of getting involved in your local market. join a club.  get yourself back into the community.  slowly slowly does it.



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          MaryAnne Carrier-Harrison wrote Jan 27, 2012
        • frownSo sorry Joanne, sometimes life has a way of bringing us down. I think you have gotten some great advice.
          I think getting out of where you currently are is very important. You don’t sound happy at all and it breaks my heart.heartbreak
          I think my one piece of advise would be to get out there and let everyone know your looking for a new career/job. You may be amazed at what is out there and who knows it could be the job/career you have always wanted..estatic

          Please keep us updated..heart

          Hugzestaticestatic
          MaryAnne



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