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  • No He didn't!!!!

    16 posts, 8 voices, 660 views, started Jul 10, 2010

    Posted on Saturday, July 10, 2010 by Denise Richardson

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      OK Fabber's  for those of you who read my blog post about my friend who was going through with his wifey. Well after all that I had been to him as a friend, and all that I had went through with him trying to be there for him even having my hubby try to get him a job where he works, this *&#%^ ups and disappears without a notice, a thank you for all you've done, thanks for being there for me when I needed a friend.

       NOTHING!!!!  I am so peed at him, he could have least told me what was going to move on, ohhhhhhh nooooooooo I had to find out from his mother, she was the one that told me he and wifey are moving. She has since crept her tail back here to Michigan from Georgia and he and she are planning to move to Ohio and set up house there. The last time he and I chatted was on my birthday he called me to wish me well, that was the last time we talked. His mother told me the real deal with him, one of the reason's he was so peed with his family was because they wouldn't help him out financially and mom told me it was because she and her ex-husband his father helped him and the wifey before and thats when she left him high and dry after he lost his job and he had to move back home with his mother.  

      Now she wants to come back to him now that he has a job and working steady, his mother has cousins in Ohio who will be keeping an eye on them because his mom is sure she is going to leave him again, well all I want to know is why he didn’t tell me and why he didn’t say goodbye, he changed his cell phone number and everything, his mother said even she doesn’t have it, I guess he calls himself biting the hands that fed him.

       WRONG move broh!  At least give mom the number no matter how mad you may be at her, you're going to need her again silly boy lol. Well anyhow his mom told me she has nothing to do with her daughter-inlaw because she is scandalous, and she has been calling her house trying to change her voice or have someone else ask for her son, because she knows she is not welcome to call there or welcomed to visit. Well all I'm saying is he could have told me and said goodbye, after all I was trying to do and be for him, a friend so I thought. I wish him all the best, but if it doesn't work out I don't know how I'd receive him again as a friend. Time will have to take this one.tongue out



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          Cheekymonkey wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • worriedworriedohhhh I’m sorry.  What a great thing you did. And when you look at the mirror you will see that person looking bc at you. ..smile! It’s his loss. To bad for him friends are hard to come by.
          You did a great thing with the job. I’ll thank you for him.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • happyThank you crisastbury, but he has truly loss my confidence in him as a friend and as a noble person, all he had to do was tell me he and wifey reconciled and I would’ve been happy for him which I still am in hopes that they can truly make it this time around but from what his mom told me it’s just a matter of time before she runs again, and I’m sorry but I won’t be there for him, because I have feelings too and he showed me that my feelings don’t matter to him as his friend.



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          Linni wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • frown Oh Neicy, i am so sorry this happened to you! some people just dont realize the damage and destruction they do until its too late... you are a good friend and oneday he will see what hes lost..
          i know i dont need to tell you this.. cause you know.. just pray for him, and ak God to help you forgive him..
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          Denise Richardson wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • Thank you Linni and I already have, and as you well know what the scriptures say if they don't receive you and your hospitality "shake the dust off your feet and move on and not return." so he is going to have to find away to mend the friendship. I'm willing but I won't make the 1st move.



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          Linni wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • AMEN!
          i know how you feel, and dont blame you one bit! i think id be the same way!  

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          Denise Richardson wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • We have been friends since he was 12 and I was 16. We lived around the corner from one another and I have always been there for him, so if he thinks he can keep playing with my feelings thinking just because we have history together he’s got another thing coming. He knows I’ll be there for him, but not this time, I’m tired just like his family has gotten with him as well.



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          Linni wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • heartheart



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          Wookiemom09 wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • What a shame for him to play you this way after all the time you have as friends.  he probably is ashamed and doesn’t want to fail in front of everyone again when she does dump him off.  Glad you are taking the higher road and if he does pop up again, he will see what a mistake it is to alienate his family.  My mom always told me - family is family no matter what.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • Wookiemom, girrrrrrrrrrl I am sooooooooooo done with this, everytime I think about it I get mad so I am trying to leave it in the hands of God seeing this is where i HAD to place it because I’m just that mad, now I’m trying to let God bring me to a place of peace and forgiveness, pray for me lol.



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          UK Girl wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • Sorry honey - but cut your losses - we all know he will try and creep back to you and his family - he has pushed his luck once to many times tongue out



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          Cheekymonkey wrote Jul 11, 2010
        • worriedthat makes it all the worse to have been in each others lifes that long. And I don’t think you should be there for him when he calls or writes. wish him well in life, but to know someone that long and then to find out or feel like your feelings dont matter,that’s a deep blow.
          Again, I am really sorry that he hurt you.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jul 12, 2010
        • heartThanks everyone I have made the conscience decision to move forward leaving him and ALL his issues behind, He can lose my number!



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          Linni wrote Jul 12, 2010
        • heartheart



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          Msj wrote Jul 12, 2010
        • yes, cut your losses, enough of your precious energy put out with a not so good outcome.

          sorry you were hurt, you are a very good friend.



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