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  • Obstacles...

    12 posts, 9 voices, 535 views, started Jun 8, 2009

    Posted on Monday, June 8, 2009 by Denise Richardson

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      Being a woman of color, what are some of the hardest obstacles you face on a day to day basis and how do you cope with them?



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          Mz. Queen wrote Jun 8, 2009
        • I don’t know about daily, but I just had a thought about something that was said yesterday. Just a little info first I attend a church that’s predominantly white, it doesn’t bother me. At the end of the morning as I was preparing to leave a S.S. member said,“see you later hoochie,” I was already in the car. I know she meant no harm but in her effort to be “cozy” she chose the wrong word. It’s not a term of endearment to me.



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          Fraz764 wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • I don’t have any daily obstacles. I think that in everything that I have done on a professional level, I had to go the extra mile to prove myself.



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          Angell VillafaƱe wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • Wow 47! Things like that are hard to take but you seemed to have handled it well.

          I don’t have any daily obstacles either but from time to time I am also confronted with situations where the person was just clueless about what to say. The first time I had ever gotten my hair cut short and natural I came in to work and this one woman looks at my hair and says, “Buckwheat.” My eyes got wide and I was like, “What did you say?” She said my hair looked cute like Buckwheats and I asked her had she ever seen Buckwheat’s hair? She said yes. So I just walked away shaking my head on that one. She said it in front of other people who were equally as shocked as I was. She meant no harm and I was fond of her but I thought, “geez...are you really that clueless?”

          See pic of my hair and tell me seriously does that look like Buckwheat?



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          Kmarie wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • I don’t know if I have daily obstacles, but I have gotten some flack lately about my hair. My picture is a earlier one, my hair is now down to the almost the bottom of my shoulder blades. People walk up touch it, pull on it make comments about Am I too old for long hair. I also work in a white male dominated field so most of it is surprise that I as a female spend time working out on construction sites, and in development



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          Mz. Queen wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • My daughter drives and 18wheeler and when she steps out of her truck onlookers expect to see a “frumpy” girl and not the glamour girl that she is.



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          Fraz764 wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • I think the hair comments are because people don’t know what else to say. My hair is naturally curly and when I flat iron it, which is rare, it hangs below my shoulders as well.  

          On several occassions when I have had my hair straight I’ve been asked if I have on a wig or a weave, or how do I make my hair look short then long..One lady said to me “Oh how sweet black hair comes in so many textures“..WTH!!



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          Lazylola wrote Jun 9, 2009
        • I am appalled at the ignorance, but not surprised, I am also a woman of color, just a lighter shade of brown, Hispanic, but not as dark as I wish I was, I always stick out in family photos as too pale, anywho, my hair is curly, some days more so than others, I have full lips, though not as quite as when I was younger, I straighten my hair every so often, the shorter I go the curlier it gets. As for obstacles I can’t say I have any, I work with all men (white) and there is a constant stream of jokes either ethnic or gender based...if they are funny I can laugh, if they offend me I say so, for the most part they forget I’m female and hispanic, I usually let it go, but based on what they say when I’m around I can only imagine how much more ignorant they are when I’m not around.



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          Ggirl wrote Jun 12, 2009
        • Wow! I had to comment on this one. Why do they feel they have to comment when we change our hair? I am a hairstyle chameleon and I get so tired of comments when I change my hairstyle which is normally every couple of weeks. Reminds me of the saying, if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

          Don’t they know by now that sista’s have flavor and black hair is versatile.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jun 15, 2009
        • LOL, Amen to that ggirl, I like you change my hair style as well quite often my oldest daughter is a hairstylist and makeup artist and she keeps me fresh with the lastest in hair fashion, girl please I just look at them and go my way flaunting my fly do lol.



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