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  • Ok, Here He Goes Again!

    5 posts, 5 voices, 729 views, started Oct 30, 2010

    Posted on Saturday, October 30, 2010 by Denise Richardson




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      Ok so last week my friend, called me to say that he finally got a call from his wife telling him she no longer wants to be with him and that she was done with him two months ago. After her long hiatus from him with her living her life in the south she has opted to say their marriage is finally over and that she is moving on. "YOU THINK!?" This heiffer has played him for most of their marriage from what I am gathering from him, as well as his family including his mom and the writing has been on the wall he was just too blind to see it, ok but now that she has told him this again he has shut me out!

      I have done nothing but be there be a friend for him as well as to him and what does he do shut me out by not allowing me access to him via phone, He cuts his phone off so I can’t communicate with him, he called me yesterday to say he loved me and appreciated my friendship and all that I have done for him as well as being there with a listening ear, but that was the just of the conversation and we got off the phone I haven’t been able to talk with him since.

      Ok I have feelings to an when he does this it bothers me because I know his state of mind and not too long ago almost a month ago he was suicidal, I worry about him because at this point he is very vulnerable and I pray that the enemy doesn’t get the best of him to make him go over the edge and kill himself. I worry when I don’t hear from him or when I can’t reach him, and it leaves me numb because of the eay he is handling it by leaving me out in the cold. I have feelings too and I will not keep allowing him to shut me out, if this is what he is going to do I will move forward and just let him go his way I’m not going to allow him to hurt me because he is hurting. I don’t deserve this.





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          (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Oct 30, 2010
        • Neicy, try to find someone you know that live close to him.  I think he is confused, hurt, angry, and in order to help someone, we need to take our own emotion aside and not let that influence or engage us.  Otherwise, you both drown each other.  Try not to say “I told you so” or “I have seen this coming but you just don’t”  At this point, he needs no judgment, but friendship and love.

          Please try to get to him via other means.  If not, we just have to pray very very hard and ask God to send tons of angels to help him thru this trial.



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          Marilyn09 wrote Oct 30, 2010
        • Try not to take it too personal. And because you have feelings too; you should try to be compassionate instead of adding one more thing to the list of mistakes that he made.
          (I hope that came out right I imagined myself talking to my mom or sister as I said it- but as I read it it sounds mean but I mean to sound caring and I know how you feel)



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          Cheekymonkey wrote Oct 31, 2010
        • heartNiecy, Im sorry for the both of you. I know he is hurting but at the sametime u cant keep going down this path. I remember the first time you posted about how much he had hurt you expecially since u had opened up ur home and even your husband had tried to help.
          I would never add to his list but you do need to distance yourself alittle. Your caring heart will drown if not. Im not suggesting turn ur back because I know u couldnt but maybe its time to let his family deal alittle more and ur theirback up. I rarely say this but I am going to pray for him and you. U are in my thoughts. I hope when hes healthier he reconizes what a gift he has.
          Hugsheart



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          Denise Richardson wrote Oct 31, 2010
        • China,Marilyn,Cheeky thank you all for your concern and prayers. I totally understand what each of you has said, and I would never ever point the finger and say “I told you so” to him, honestly he knew all along what she was about he was just in denial and reality has hit him hard in the head, so I do understand the place he’s in as far as the distance and non communication with me, he looks to me as a confidant and he is probably a little embarrased by it all so I do understand to a degree, but don’t make it where I can’t call and talk to you. I will not turn my back but I have decided to back all the way up and let him and his family do their thing, he will call me when he’s ready I guess, and maybe I’ll be available. I need time as well because I have put in a lot of time, work and yes money that I have given him to help with his bills, in this and to be treated this way hurts so I will let time take it. Thanks again ladies.heart



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