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  • OMG...Could Oprah be in Mid-Life Crisis?

    26 posts, 15 voices, 1214 views, started Jan 6, 2009

    Posted on Tuesday, January 6, 2009 by Amy L. Harden

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      Please indulge me, as I am trying to get this article on the homepage, as my Expert Blog doesn’t feed through the front page.  

      OMG...Is Oprah having a Mid-life Crisis?

        

      Yesterday on the first show a much publicized series called the "Best Life Week", Oprah admitted that she had not been taking care of her self and again regained 40 lbs. of weight that she so masterfully and publicly lost in the past.  In front of God and millions of the shows fans, she admitted that she had forgotten to take care of herself first!  During the show she demonstrated how this happened.

      With her assistant by her side, she showed her daily calendar, which was packed to the gills with meetings and events that did not include any personal time for the popular talk show host and entrepreneur.  It was evident just by looking at the calendar; Oprah had become a work alcoholic!  Time to change her calendar and take time for herself, which she did, yet still attacking the change with the fervor that is Oprah!

       

      She spoke of her health, the weight gain and her revelation that she had been focusing on everything and everyone else first.  As I sat and watched this show, I heard Oprah telling the world the very same things I hear from women and the men of wives all over the world who come to my Women in MLC (Mid Life Crisis) Forum.  Oprah's life cup was draining and the physical evidence is her weight gain.  

      Could the illustrious Oprah Winfrey be experiencing a Mid-Life Crisis?!

      In my head I went through the mid-life crisis litmus quiz that we give everyone at the forum, which is made up of triggers that have occurred over the past five to ten years.  With the public information we know is true, let's put Oprah to the test by using these triggers that we know the answers to:

      •*Death or experiencing Grief*  – Two of Oprah's much beloved dogs died in the past two years.  The dogs for Oprah were considered family or much like her own children...so, consider this the death of a child...twice!  Add in any other significant others who have passed in the past five to ten years.
      •*Increased responsibility at Work* – Oprah opened her school for girls in South Africa., plus she had to deal with a public event of a worker who had been accused of mistreatment of the girl's at the school. The premier and subsequent building of a top magazine. Her support of Barack Obama in his campaign. To much more to list. The woman is a work alcoholic!
      •*Health Issues and Illness* – Oprah was diagnosed with a thyroid condition and possible heart issues. She has been in treatment and dealing with it. Add in her admitted struggle with her weight.
      •Moving – How many houses does Oprah have in how many areas of the world? I have lost count, but with each new residence that she has acquired, we could consider this a move for her, even though she probably has a team of people handling the redecorating and move...it is still a move for Oprah.
      •*Childhood issues and/or History* – We all know that Ms Winfrey was molested by a family member when she was young....this is an issue, along with her long time estrangement from her father until later on in her life. Are these issues really resolved? Ms Winfrey has always struggled with her weight and maybe she is still struggling with self-image issues that have reared their ugly heads later on in life. She has admitted that she much of her outgoing personality we see on TV comes from her childhood need to be accepted.
      •*Finances: Increase or Decrease*  – Oprah is the richest or one of the richest and powerful women in the world.  The pressure of being a wealthy person can and could be very dominating...it bears a heavy responsibility.  Many people are dependant upon her for their livelihoods AND as we all know, money does not buy happiness.  In the ever increasing concern over the economy, Oprah and her money mangers may be concerned over what she has invested her money in and what she will be able to do in the future.  

        

      •*Relationships*  – Since Ms Winfrey keeps her relationship with her long time partner Stedman Graham very private, only he would know the answers to the following:
      oHas Oprah dropped the "I Love You But I am Not In Love With You" statement on you lately?
      oHow's your sex life? Non-existent? Struggling? Low sexual –libido?
      oIs she asking for more space?
      oAny suspicions about relationships with other people?
      oDo the two of you have a history of affairs or cheating? (Maybe the reason for the intense interest in "Why Men Cheat".)

      Oprah hits several targets straight on with many of the public knowledge and answers to MLC Triggers.  The rest is her private business, but if we did know the answers to these other questions, I could definitively say that Oprah Winfrey is just like many other women in the US and around the world.  

       

      I know many people will not be organizing a collective "pity party" for the queen of daytime talk shows over her present state, but the fact that we can see that even Oprah can possibly go through a Mid-life Crisis makes her a bit more human.  All the money in world or celebrity can NOT keep a person from avoiding the dreaded MLC...

      Oprah is having a Mid-life Crisis and hers will be a very public one!

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          Amy L. Harden wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Exactly...it doesn’t quite matter how much money you make, influential or popular...a person still goes through the seasons of their life.  It just happens that Oprah will be doing it very publically.  I would not blame her a bit for stepping out of the limelight...in fact, maybe she should.

          shepherdess

          PS the picture of Oprah in the white outfit is the problem...she doesn’t look that good anymore...and she wants to be.



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          Coachmombabe wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • She’s still a beautiful and vibrant woman with much yet to offer. She may be in a great place to re-evaluate how she wants to spend the next phase of her life and what she wants to accomplish from here on out.



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          Inakika wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • I think someone with that much money could have worse problems then a big butt.



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          Mz. Queen wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • I’ll read it again later.  Personally I love her ambieance but I think she’s always in some kind of crisis or another.

          47nsmarter



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          Amy L. Harden wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Even Oprah doesn’t escape crisis...



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          Mztracy wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • I think oprah brings on her own crisis.



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          UK Girl wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • This is my view from over the pond .... we are not into that style of reporting/ television but when I’ve seen her on my frequent business trips - I always think she is almost breathless as she picks up on the next big thing and gushes about it ......almost like she discovers sliced bread every day on her show.

          Personally I’ve always thought she looks lonely ... like the kid that never went to the party so now she runs the party but still no one to play with.



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          Coachmombabe wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Peeper, you are so right! I have hyper-active thyroid nodules, and when they act up watch out world! They can throw me in to a tailspin. I hope she gets the right treatment for her particular condition. Seems like it’s something a little different with everyone.



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          Ms-kay wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Here's the solution - Stedman needs to put it  on her so that she can sweat those pounds off!! LOL!!

          smile



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • LOL, MzKay you‘re a hot mess for that statement but its some truth to it lol. Quite frankly I’m sick of hearing about her and her issues she is NOT God in which some look to her as being she has to put on a tampon or sanitary napkin just like everyone else only different she has the money to buy the more expensive ones lol.

          MZTracy- I agree with you as well. Maybe If she makes up her mind and stop fornicating maybe her life may be a bit more stable lol.



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          Leadinladytracy wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Hi Ladies

          At first I had the opinion of what is she complaining about now. But I watched the show on Monday and am watching today’s show and I truly appreciate her talking about herself.

          I find her information very informative and if it only helps one person than it was all worth it.  

          Many folks will not listen to family and friends but they will listen to Oprah.  

          This is just my opinion.



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          Vikki Hall wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Ok I am going to go back and re read this again and very slowly because I’m pretty sure I am hitting a mid life crisis.
          I have had all of the above happen to me in the past 2 years multiple times......

          Also now I need to decide if i want to watch my Oprah saved on DVR for this week......frown



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          Ms-kay wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Neicy you are on the Hot Mess Choo-Choo right with me LOL...but I feel what you‘re saying.

          Some have put Oprah on this pedastal...and not expect her to behave like a regular woman....instead she’s “SuperWoman” to them.

          Now she’s under the microscope and hopefully she’ll lose weight for better health..not because her fans expect her to.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Amen, MsKay,
          I mean I like her as a public personality, but I don’t look to her to put a stamp of approval on everything like most.



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          Ms-kay wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • Exactly! She has my respect as a brilliant business woman/philanthropist. But she doesn’t know everything!!



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          Amy L. Harden wrote Jan 6, 2009
        • I appreciate everyone’s comments.  Some days I love Oprah and then on other days...I get so mad at her for pushing her opinion on me and the rest of the world.  

          To be honest, I was extremely frustrated or angry after watching the first of Oprah’s Best Life series of shows.  I thought...here I have been preaching this same stuff for over five years...blogging like a maniac...sending my articles and writing to Oprah herself, posting on her forum and here she is saying what I have been saying for years to women.  The thing is...I don’t have a show, a huge magazine, top experts and buckets of money to promote my newfound realizations.  Envy, jealousy and shear coveting of what Oprah has occurred...yesterday was a day where my affection for Oprah temporarily dipped.  I could see why so many women here at Fab40 have an aversion to the talk show host.  

          But then I started looking at Oprah as a just a woman...maybe a woman in mid-life crisis, applying the triggers we use to determine MLC...Not a celebrity, business woman, millionaire, philanthropist and suddenly I saw her as one of the many women who come to my forum and blogs...women who are struggling with changes that occur at mid-life.  I started seeing where this woman could actually be human just like the rest of us...the only thing that is different is she is under a microscope and she has a ton of money.  The fact that she is willing to share this time in her life with the public is commendable...it is showing her weakness...maybe she doesn’t want to be on a pedestal...who put her up there anyways?.  

          Oprah needs to be given a break...we would expect the same consideration if we were down...wouldn’t we?



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          Saylor101 wrote Jan 7, 2009
        • She’s human period - there are things we all must go thru - wantta or not.  Admittingly being in the public eye while going through it - not fun....but this is one of the “cons” of stardom is it not?

          shepherdess5:  RE the pic in the little white outfit - WOW she looked great - but don’t WE ALL HAVE a picture from out past that we “long” to look like again?   In a nutshell - the odds are just SO good “it ain’t gonna happen“.



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          Amy L. Harden wrote Jan 10, 2009
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          You bethcha I have pictures I long to look like...one’s that I even have posted here at Fab40. I had a beautiful photo shoot back when I was 49 years old to help get over the hurdle of turning 50 years old. To be very honest, these pictures are the very best of me and my thought was then that I was going to have these pictures taken before my face and other body parts started dragging.
          I weighed ten pounds less.
          I was in a size 2.
          I was working out like a maniac (actually had a six pack)and I indulged in facials, massages and various other things to keep my skin from turning in to a prune.
          Two years later, I am so busy writing and growing my speaking/writing/coaching business, that I have regained the ten pounds, my excercise is limited to the time I steal from my kids on the WiiFit and my skin...OMG...I think I have jowls now!

          So, yes, “we all have a picture from out of the past that we long to look like again“.  I guess Oprah and I do have much in common on that front!



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jan 10, 2009
        • No one is saying that she’s NOY human and does not experience what most woman probably experience but she tends to act as though she has ALL the answers and All saolutions to any problem or situation. She is NOT supere woman nor is she God or at least my God. And many people follow her and believe everey word that proceeds out of her mouth just like the guy who wrote that bogus book she had the world running out to get it believing it because it was what Oprah said then later to find the guy was a big fake.



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jan 10, 2009
        • No one is saying that she’s NOT human and does not experience what most woman probably experience but she tends to act as though she has ALL the answers and All solutions to any problem or situation. She is NOT super woman nor is she God or at least my God. And many people follow her and believe everey word that proceeds out of her mouth just like the guy who wrote that bogus book she had the world running out to get it believing it because it was what Oprah said then later to find the guy was a big fake.



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          JoAnn Donahue wrote Jan 10, 2009
        • Yes yes yes,

          Money and celebrity does not give
          anyone the exempt card
          form human trials and tribulations..

          We are all human first then
          we are who we become..

          Oprah is one lady who will publicly
          show the women of the world hope!

          As For the promotion of the book
          A Million Little Pieces
          Inspite of that guy
          being a fraud that book personally helped me
          w/ my struggle of my son’s addiction, and I know
          more that were helped.

          The guy was a fake but the
          essence of that book was addiction
          and we live in a society where addiction
          is running ram pet. And when it is running
          right in your own living room any in site
          helps. So I applaud Oprah for sharing that book
          and the way she handled the entire situation.  

          So was Oprah conned yeah
          But there you have just another example of Oprah
          being human. Again it can happen to anyone.  

          Peace,
          JoAnn Donahue



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          Denise Richardson wrote Jan 10, 2009
        • Good for you, JoAnn glad to hear the publicity helped someone.



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