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  • Oops- I accidentally smashed the glass then slashed her face and dragged her down a hall screaming!

    6 posts, 4 voices, 1102 views, started Jan 10, 2009

    Posted on Saturday, January 10, 2009 by (華娃娃) ChinaDoll


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      Posted on January 8, 2009 by freemenow
      Another Rant by: Bettyjean Kling
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      How can we help this situation - Here is the story of a Councilman, an ex cop, and newly elected state Senator who obviously slashed his girlfriends face in a jealous rage and who has intimidated her and her family into covering up to protect his political future. Let's discuss this and decide what we need to do to get the courts to help end this vicious cycle of abuse and cover-up by women who are forced or somehow always fall for letting them get away with it.

      I can just hear it now... She is getting the royal blame — the victim treatment - revictimized by being asked - Are you going to destroy his entire Life? His future as a Senator? No one is telling her to stick it to him because her future is just as  valuable as his and besides she is being told what the hell was she doing with the card in her purse anyway! No one is telling her - he had choices and his choice was to break the law and he has to pay . No one is telling her is is an abuser and not fit to be a Senator - No everyone is telling her - she is not worth what he is worth - she will have to take the abuse and let him off the hook - she probably deserved it anyway! She is terrified and she feeels she deserved it- by now she is apologizing and kissing his feet!

      Abusers never change except that they usually get worse- especially once they get away with it- and it usually ends up with someone dying in the end! By now you would think that the judges and others in the system would have figured this out - I guess we have to get the job done for them!

      Note when you read the story - He is an ex-cop his cop friends and collegues and his family  have filled the court room- her family - no doubt is intiimidated as they are taking his side and none of these people were witnesses mind you.

      When we damned well know a victim is scared - feels guilty- paid off or otherwise unable to tell the truth - it is time for the courts and the judges to protect the abused - otherwise why are they there? Case in point - if this clown gets away with this obvious crime - this gal and/or her cousin who is also covering for him in the story below, may get her brains blown out the next time this guy gets mad.

      I am going to give you a few stories to read - you have just got to see this to believe it:

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      Councilman Hiram Monserrate arrested on domestic assault charge


      Updated Saturday, December 20th 2008, 10:12 AM
      City Councilman Hiram Monserrate walks out of Queens Court after posting bail Friday. He was arrested on charges of assaulting his girlfriend, Karla Giraldo (below) with a shard of glass. Pace for News

      City Councilman Hiram Monserrate walks out of Queens Court after posting bail Friday. He was arrested on charges of assaulting his girlfriend, Karla Giraldo (below) with a shard of glass.
      Giraldo, with her face covered, is rushed into a waiting car by a Queens DA outside the courthouse. DeCrescenzo for News

      Giraldo, with her face covered, is rushed into a waiting car by a Queens DA outside the courthouse.

      Hot-tempered city councilman Hiram Monserrate was accused of slashing his girlfriend's face with broken glass Friday, leaving her with 20 stitches and a black eye.

      Wearing black Adidas sweatpants, a Mets cap and a black wool jacket, the 41-year-old ex-cop from Elmhurst, Queens, looked weary as he stood before Judge Toko Sarita at his arraignment in Queens Criminal Court.

      He did not speak during the brief hearing and was released on $2,500 cash bail after his lawyer, James Cullen, entered a not guilty plea.

      Monserrate was charged with assault and weapons possession for allegedly attacking his girlfriend during a "boisterous argument," Queens District Attorney Scott Kessler said.

      The city councilman claimed the injuries were accidental. "I brought her a glass of water, I leaned over and tripped," according to a statement read in court.

      Kessler said Monserrate's girlfriend, Karla Giraldo, 29, first told hospital staff he broke a glass in his hand during a heated argument and stabbed her in the face with the shards. She later changed her story and said it was an accident.

      "She doesn't want him to go to jail," Kessler said, adding that police found blood-soaked towels and broken glass in Monserrate's apartment. "She doesn't want protection."

      But Sarita told Monserrate he cannot contact her and must stay at least 100 yards away.

      Monserrate was elected to the state Senate last month and is scheduled to be sworn in Jan. 1. He would automatically lose his seat if convicted of a felony.

      Monserrate and Giraldo spent Thursday night with Caroline Kennedy and other luminaries at the Queens Museum of Art for the Queens Democratic Party's holiday dinner.

      They argued afterward, possibly because a guest at the party confused Giraldo with another of Monserrate's girlfriends, one law enforcement source said.

      The fight turned violent in Monserrate's Elmhurst condo about 1 a.m., when he broke a drinking glass in his right hand and struck her - almost taking out her left eye, Queens District Attorney Richard Brown said.

      Monserrate lives a few blocks from the trauma room at the city-run Elmhurst Hospital Center. But sources said he drove Giraldo 14 miles to Long Island Jewish Medical Center on the Nassau County line for treatment - and tried to get her to concoct an innocent explanation on the way.

      A doctor interviewed Giraldo privately, then summoned the NYPD at 4:50 a.m., police sources said. Officers arrested Monserrate at the hospital.

      The arrest meant Monserrate couldn't make his own holiday party at a substance abuse treatment center in Corona last night.

      Prosecutors had been probing Monserrate's connections to a now-defunct nonprofit organization called Libre.

      Any political consequences may fall into a gray area, though. Council Speaker Christine Quinn referred his case to the Council's Ethics Committee. It is unclear whether it would take action once he leaves for Albany.

      The Senate may not take up an ethics case for something he did before taking office. Smith ducked questions about it.

      Mayor Bloomberg and Quinn also declined to comment on the arrest, though Quinn said anyone charged with domestic violence should be prosecuted "regardless of any position that individual might hold."

      Monserrate was elected to the Council in 2001 and served on its Public Safety Committee. He attended his last Council meeting on Thursday, where he and other departing members were honored by their colleagues. He was elected to the Senate last month after he won the backing of Queens Democrats over previous Sen. John Sabini, who pleaded guilty to drunken driving and was later picked to run the state racing and wagering board.

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      And theren there is this one:

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      Monserrate: Girlfriend's Injuries Were Accidental
      State Senator-elect Hiram Monserrate issued a statement after being arrested for allegedly assaulting his girlfriend with a broken glass—requiring her to get 20 stitches for a gash above her left eye (she also had a black eye). Monserrate, who is a former police officer and an outgoing City Councilman, said the whole thing was a "terribly unfortunate accident" with girlfriend Karla Giraldo.

      The statement also read, "As a result of an unfortunate accident in which I was involved and which involved also someone to love and I care deeply, I am accused of crimes they did not commit and that I am incapable of committing... As a son, a brother and a father, these accusations are offensive, and they are crushing on a personal level." Monserrate claimed the accident occurred when "I brought her a glass of water, I leaned over and tripped."

      However, prosecutors said that the couple had been arguing and that Monserrate allegedly broke the glass and hit Giraldo in the face with it. As for why Giraldo was taken to Long Island Jewish Hospital instead of Elmhurt Hospital, which is much closer to Monserrate's apartment, where the incident occurred, that's explained too: "I took her to Long Island Jewish Hospital in Queens because my family has received excellent medical care there in the past."

      The NY Times reports that the Queens DA's case is "complicated by the fact that Ms. Giraldo, 30, is now saying that it was an accident and, according to a law enforcement source, is not cooperating with prosecutors." Giraldo's cousin Jasmina Abril de Rojas told the NY Post, "She told me everything was an accident. He's innocent of the charges because, as a human being, he is not an aggressive person. He's always been a nice person, willing to help anyone... From what I understand, Senator Monserrate didn't hit my cousin or even threaten her."

      Monserrate, a Democrat who was elected to the State Senate this past November, still intends to head to Albany. However, Manhattan Borough President Scott Stringer told the Daily News, "Mr. Monserrate should immediately recuse himself from any role in his remaining days on the City Council, and for any matters in the state Senate, pending his resolution of these incredibly serious charges."

      Now let's hear it from a different angle - just in case you were about to believe that piece of baloney  

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      Last updated: 3:14 am
      December 24, 2008
      Posted: 1:30 am
      December 24, 2008

      State Sen.-elect Hiram Monserrate flew into a rage and slashed his girlfriend in the face with a piece of broken glass because he believed the business card he spotted in her bag belonged to an ex-boyfriend, sources said.

      Investigators found the card at the bottom of the garbage chute in Monserrate's Jackson Heights apartment building after he was caught on surveillance video trying to toss her bag in the trash, the sources said.

      The video also captured Monserrate's girlfriend, Karla Giraldo, 30, running screaming down the hallway holding a towel to her bleeding face and pounding on neighbors' doors for help.

      Monserrate, 41, a Democratic city councilman and ex-cop, is then seen pulling her back to his apartment, sources said.

      He then drove her to Long Island Jewish Medical Center, nearly 15 miles from his home, where she received 20 stitches. He was arrested and charged with assaulting Giraldo, who has stopped cooperating with investigators.

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      And this clown got sworn in today 1/07/09 - Gee - has this even been in the news ? Does anyone even give a damned.

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      Monserrate Sworn In
      New York Observer - 9 hours 23 min ago

      ALBANY—State Senators are moving into their chamber now, being sworn in on an assembly line before official proceedings begin at noon.

      That includes Hiram Monserrate who was sworn in under fire because of a charge he assaulted his girlfriend. (He has denied the charge and pleaded not guilty.)

      Last night, Majority Leader-to-be Malcolm Smith said that Monserrate would be seated, but that his staff would be evaluating what role Moserrate would play in the conference. (Republican Senator Marty Golden has a resolution called for him not to be seated until he resolves the charges).

      PS- when you have 35 minutes – please go to my other blog and watch this video- you will not be sorry – it explains some of the reasons why women are being brutalized and how we can help stop it by standing up to the advertisers. Got 35 Minutes Ladies/  Watch this Video!

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          (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jan 10, 2009
        • Chinadoll, on January 9th, 2009 at 1:20 pm Said:

          I am learning this as I go. If we compare the child abuse to DV abuse, what's the difference? It appears to me that child abuse is weighted more. Can we bring DV abuse equal to child abuse as far as law, penalties and protection concern? If I am out of line here, please let me know. I am new to this site as well as DV for I have not been a victim. Also English is my second language. Thank you much again.

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          (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jan 10, 2009
        • Topher: in LA not L.A., on January 9th, 2009 at 8:46 pm Said:

          China Doll: No apologies needed. And, you are not ignorant, you are uninformed, there is a big difference. Please do not use derogatory terms in reference to yourself, men do that enough to women! I can tell you are a precious and wonderful person because of the concern in your posts!

          We are glad you are here; because you pose questions that need answers so that we are all on the same page. Hopefully, I can answer some of your questions.

          The laws differ from state to state for both offenses; some laws are so weak, they are worthless. The Department of Children and Families handles Child-Abuse and DV cases in LA, it is a division of The Department of Health and Human Services an umbrella department that handles just about anything to do with human services.

          However, in LA like most states there is little interagency communication; for example they will go after a deadbeat dad for child support, and he will be living with his ex-wife or his baby's mother.

          But, it is getting better in LA, 7 different agency directors tendered their resignations after Hurricane Gustav for screw ups in coordination efforts that left evacuees in worse living conditions than if they had stayed at home! We have a long way to go to get agencies to talk to each other and understand that they all have the same goal, protecting women and children!

          Let's all agree to stop calling it an innocuous term like Domestic Violence (DV) and call it what it really is male-violence-on-women or Sexually-Based-Violence (SBV).

          There are lawyers who specialize in just about every field; the only problem is most SBV victims, are not in a position to hire personal attorneys; this needs to change!

          Most pro-bono/Legal Aid attorneys are so overwhelmed by the sheer number of cases they have, they are almost ineffective, this is why we need to be better organized and get stronger child-abuse laws and Louisa's law passed at the State and Federal level.

          Child Abuse is often treated the same way as SBV; and the abuser gets a slap on the wrist. However, some states like LA are serious about keeping predators away from our kids. We have the death penalty for child rape; but the first case we had, the pervert took it all the way to the Supreme Court of the US. And the SCOTUS wimped out and said it was unconstitutional.

          However, our governor Bobby Jindal, while not my favorite politician, is adamant on this issue and he is passing some of the strongest laws in the US against sexual predators of children. These laws will encourage other States to follow LA for a change.

          FL Barbara: Thank you for your efforts and for your statistics I am on the Puma Prowl email list but I did not get your email. As it is filled with statistical data I'd like to have can you email it to me at [Link Removed] I would greatly appreciate it. Do I need to sign up for the Women Lynching Forum in order to get future emails? Also I sent an email to Murphy and she has not answered can you see if she got it and if she has time to respond.

          It is my hope to join with Betty Jean to tackle some of these issues, I have offered my assistance to her in any way she desires, and I even sent her my resume! So far I haven't heard from her, but I sincerely hope that she allows me to join in her fight, not that she doesn't have awesome company in Puma's, but I am offering personal help with writing, posting, and whatever else she needs me to do.

          This issue has captured my heart and I can't turn my back on it now!

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          Jomi wrote Jan 13, 2009
        • My first husband always claimed that he was “joking“. Any abuse is neither a joke nor an accident!
          It sounds like this man’s abuse was partially caught on tape. Can’t they do anything with that???
          I’m afraid that in order to get away from this man she may have to make charges and hope that she can be placed in a witness protection program for some sort of safety.  Just a thought...

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          Denise Richardson wrote Jan 13, 2009
        • I’m in agreeance with Jomi, seems like my girlfriend needs to do the same thing.

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          (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jan 13, 2009
        • I dislike when some people say “I am just teasing.” Right!?

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